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- trooperbill7
So my dad (84) died yesterday morning.
im on holiday cruise around the med and am just trying to hold myself together so as not to spoil it for my 3 year old son
mums distraught, brothers over there trying to help.
this fucking sucks!
he had alzheimers for a few years now so at least he died at home
cant imagine how mum felt findinghim dead in his bed - luckily they slept apart as old people tend to do
i feel a dad shaped hole in the universe
all i want to do is sleep
fuck
- condolences :(renderedred
- Sorry to hear trooper. Circle of life...hard, but try to remember the good times. And know it's completely normal to feel like shit.
:(BusterBoy - I'm sorry for your loss Trooper, I know the feeling all too well :(utopian
- :(pango
- :(PonyBoy
- xNairn
- Sorry billMrT
- :’(freedom
- 84 yo Dad and 3 yo son?freedom
- hang in there trooper, best thing to do now is divert all your energy and attention to your son. see how much fun you two can bond over.imbecile
- sorry brother :(GuyFawkes
- x. hang in there.inteliboy
- condolencesCalderone2000
- Sorry man. That's tough.bezoar
- :(Gnash
- Sorry to hear,dee-dubs
- My sincere condolences for you and your family. May he rest in peace.sea_sea
- sorry about ur dad. Think of all the fun positive things he did for you. My dads been gone for 5 years... it gets easier w time.fooler
- and have a toast with his fav beverage in his honor.fooler
- Condolences my friend.robotron3k
- Bummer. Suerte.hans_glib
- Condolences. Hang in there.eryx
- Sorry for your loss Bill. My dad turned 80 this year; it's coming...i_monk
- Condolencescannonball1978
- Ugh, so sorry for your loss. Condolences.mandomafioso
- so sorry for your loss.dorf
- very sorry for your lossformed
- Sorry man, condolences :(Bennn
- All my condolecencesi_was
- Go to sleep mani_was
- And forget about iti_was
- Condolences. Think about the good moments and what knowledge you got from him you can pass on to your son.Longcopylover
- Really sorry, trooper.stoplying
- Ramanisky216
is anyone else having trouble accessing the QBN main menu ??
- They removed it so people wouldn't be triggered by controversial topics and focus on topics of their interest only.deadsperm
- where did it go?inteliboy
- it often disappears for a whiole whilst they fritz around with the back-end. It also disappeared that time Bennn (I think) found a way to break the posts here.Nairn
- yesdopepope
- no menu here.PhanLo
- and now
the end is nearok_not_ok - yeah, the site was down for a couple hours for upgrade/work/somethi... or other, so it's probably related to thatcolin_s
- they're using a new algorithm that ensures each user is only able to see the topics where their past contributions haven't been totally uselessGnash
- There is no spoon...whatthefunk
- The dragon burned it... It burned everything ; (antimotion
- haha gnashNairn
- Russian interference...necromation
- UX...nbq
- https://i.imgur.com/…utopian
- it's 5G!renderedred
- Is this what they spent the whole day on?drgs
- IT HAS RETURNED!!! WE ARE SAVED!!!ideaist
- https://i.imgur.com/…prophetone
- HallelujahRamanisky2
- why was the Set PSB thread deleted?
https://www.qbn.com/…Krassy - It's working!
IT'S WORKING!jaylarson
- OBBTKN23
Never told this history here...
When I was 15 or 16 years old, I participated in a comic contest, the maximum number of pages was 4, I took an opera of about 36 pages that I had just finished drawing.
Well, the thing is, I won. There were complaints from other participants, but the jury excused itself by saying that it was a work that far surpassed the rest in quality, and not just in quantity. Everyone shut up.
A year later, I submitted another comic, this time 4 pages, and I won again.
So for about 4 years, until I started an internship as an illustrator and graphic designer in a printing company and lost interest, and "I didn't have time for this kind of thing anymore".
Thus began my career in the world of communication, skipping the rules and with a monstrous ego.
But I still remember that with relative pride and a smile.
I was a shy Martian in a strange world, skinny and weak, always sick... and this award gave me reasons to believe in myself, I was finally good at something.
Without a doubt, it is one of the best things that has ever happened to me, and without a doubt, if it weren't for that, I wouldn't still be drawing and dreaming at almost fifty years of age.
Thanks to a crazy jury.
- :Dmonospaced
- Chuck Norris Approved!utopian
- <3PonyBoy
- ...And plenty of talent, it sounds like!scarabin
- Funny, have a similar story. I was a errible student but won some comic prizes, moved to art school and never looked back because I was finally good at somethintank02
- Yup, early successes = increased confidence. Kids needs these.jagara
- absolutely love this story.
i have a feeling a LOT of us have similar ones. i know i do.exador1 - Rad! Interesting how steps in life unfold, yet as beholders we are rarely aware of them.dibec
- Nice!stoplying
- And now we need scans!garbage
- Your mum was on the Jury, right?autoflavour
- eficks12
I hope you all are well. Even monospaced who always seems to be angry at something. Not sure how my liver feels but I hope he appreciates my 40 days off alcohol.
One other thing I’d like to point out is F everyone that sided with Pia who messages heaps of dudes online when she had a boyfriend. In it’s self that’s fine but back then there was a very flirty thing about it.
Apparently that doesn’t stop people like monospaced/constantly angry nyc man from ... white nighting... her. I totally get that saying white knighting has certain connotations. I’m all for equality.
Was she some temporary woman who private messaged me everyone? Yes even me. I never messaged her first but noticed she did to everyone. But of course the likes of monospaced think they are special. Maybe that’s why he’s so angry.
And the end of the day I send her a diseased dick pic I found online. But only because I thought it was all a joke.
- Oof good to get that off my chest.eficks
- https://media.tenor.…hans_glib
- Congrats on the 40 days!Gnash
- "messages heaps of dudes online when she had a boyfriend"
I see you still haven't gotten to step 4.
Godspeed.palimpsest - what?monospaced
- what the fuck are you talking about?monospaced
- This is the right time to user the trusty: Excuse me?palimpsest
- There are private messages on here?
Also, hope you're well too. :)cotton - Last I checked Pia was happily married with children. Why are you sending her dick pics? Also, I'm not from nyc.monospaced
- ^For internet people it's close enough. you don't want where you live to be too specific.pango
- Congrats on 40 days!pango
- This is interesting, old QBN drama that we had no idea about..._niko
- I'm from California, pango.monospaced
- This post's responses are everything I could've hoped for. Thanks, QBN.Nairn
- I don't think monospaced's birthplace is the real issue here.palimpsest
- lolmonospaced
- he said... "monospaced always seems to be angry at something" it's as if you didn't read. then you prove his point? mind boggling... boy out here checkin'!? :Oimbecile
- Who da hell is Pia?Akagiyama
- Prove his point? I'm not even angry. I'm just confused.monospaced
- @mono like I said. Close enough lolpango
- https://imgz.org/i4f…Nairn
- lol @Nairnskinny_puppy
- This post is very confusing even for me and I’ve been lurking around around for 15 yearsmaquito
- ^ Lolz sameinstrmntl
- ^^ same again. Mono+++Green_Pork
- Mono is on the perpetual rag. Dude needs to go outside and get some fresh air every now and then.cherub
- Speak for yourselfmonospaced
- How does mono's name get dragged into so much drama?utopian
- This guys mad because 12 years ago this girl in Norway joined QBN, made friends with some people, and instead he sent her a diseased dick pic.monospaced
- Yeah. We chatted. Facebook friends still. Everyone is married with kids. Not sure why you’re so triggered.monospaced
- Maybe she did not reply to deceased pic as much, and that’s where the cow comes from?maikel
- R.I.P picpango
- Who the fuck is Pia? And you guys are confused about mono's energy.canoe
- i think she's someone's mompango
- Wow. IRL QBN drama. The QBN deep web.jagara
- This was from 15 years ago though.monospaced
- married, kids, and 15 years later, you still check on her...!? yikesimbecile
- Cause you never know:
https://www.youtube.…palimpsest - yeah totally weird that efficks is still checking in and thinking about her after 15 years. Super fucking creepy shit.monospaced
- If you're implying that I am the one checking on her, you're either misinformed or just a fucking cunt.monospaced
- wow, digging graves manBeeswax
- ?monospaced
- garbage6
Insomnia blog:
I'm fairly confident that I have esophageal cancer. I have no way of diagnosing it, nor dealing with it because I'm a 1099 in America in 2020, and I would rather spend my money on having a good end. I don't know how to tell the missus, but I wish she didn't care as much as I don't.
Pretty sure I'll be dead in a year or so, so I'm going to try to make the best of it. Outlive my dog, finish some books, and eat like a king.
Pup cleanser for the darkness:
- get it check!
:/pango - Blaze up!deadsperm
- So sorry to hear! I don't even know you, but it pains me to hear that you think you can't receive professional treatment because you're a freelancer.monospaced
- I wish you peace in the next steps of telling the missus and finding a way forward together. If I know anything, your significant other will want to know.monospaced
- could be something us dumb as acid reflux. go get it checked out somehow.inteliboy
- Sounds more like depression / selfishness. Vomiting / seeing rectal blood? Tell misses, get checked, reap benefits of honesty & science.imbecile
- What makes you fairly confident?jagara
- Go to a doctors.PhanLo
- get really really good travel health insurance, expensive, read all small print, make sure it covers sudden cancer diagnosis...then take a 3 month holiday...shapesalad
- maybe Portugal... then go it checked out and treated.shapesalad
- !!! go visit a doctor garbage! and do those things anyway!oey_oey
- I thought I was having serious heart failure not long ago. It was just reflux. I was convinced I was dying.monospaced
- go to a doctor..autoflavour
- Self-diagnosis is no diagnosis. You might be convincing yourself of something for months that could be fixed in a week.spl33nidoru
- Agree with shape above, if anything get it checked abroad. Even Cuba would work.spl33nidoru
- Take care of yourself. If it was your wife who thought she might have something, you probably wouldn't be like "oh let's wait and see how that plays out" :)spl33nidoru
- Sorry you are going through this, all good advice ^webazoot
- Make an appointment and have a dr check it out!bezoar
- Please tell your partner. There's no other way than to face that head on. A day longer with that secret is too long.shellie
- Tell her honestly how you feel send how you wish to live her life. My father had lung cancer and got treatment, but later chose to stop and work to make moneyshellie
- for my mother. I did not agree, as I wanted him to fight longer no matter the cost. but in the end I respected his decision for the family.shellie
- it would still be good to be tested and recieve a proper diagnosis. Professionals may be able to lead you to resources that can help within budget or free.shellie
- Oh whoops, I actually posted that. That's embarrassing as hell. Let's pretend I didn't. Cheers all.garbage
- We do care about you G. Talk to us whenever you need.shellie
- @garbage what are you waiting for? you have read the comments. get up and fight!api
- @garbage : no judgment here, if anything it's good you posted!spl33nidoru
- Self diagnosing, wtf?NBQ00
- I just don't care, it's not a big deal. More dog and cooking pics, fewer boring personal matters.garbage
- And as for self-diagnosis, I'm the worst armchair doctor ever because I have worked in medical publishing for ages. I can't disclose clients at this point..garbage
- ..but I work for the hospitals and universities that are the type where you hear the name and recognize them even if you've never been there.garbage
- why not talk to those guys? to get certainty. and options.uan
- feel good man!renderedred
- you're gonna need a lot more dog photos to make up for it! lolpango
- i am sorry to hear that is all, i would stand on the "tell the partner" sideloool
- Two weeks ago, I had a mild abdominal pain that stuck around for more than a week. I went to CityMD (urgent care) and got a CT Scan. No bad signs there...CyBrainX
- I was still convinced I was going to die so I went for my first colonoscopy in 15 years. No polyps (like the last time). and the abdominal feeling went away.CyBrainX
- I did the same thing you're doing now. I self-diagnosed my worst fear - death from cancer at a relatively young age. I'm already older than my parents...CyBrainX
- ...when they died of cancer. Don't be nuts like me. Do your best to get hired somewhere full time or get a gig like me - freelance through a recruiter...CyBrainX
- ...that can get you health insurance. Can you get on your wife's health plan? You have some time. Fight this shit with all your life. LIVE! Your married andCyBrainX
- have awesomely cute dogs.CyBrainX
- Wasn't a big part of the ACA to help people who don't have full time job get insurance?reanimate
- If you are relatively young you can probably sign up for a plan costing a few hundred dollars a month. There is also Medicaid if you are below certain incomereanimate
- test cost what 200 hundred bucks. less than new tires. the kind of ppl who think care is limited to insurance...deathboy
- unless doin it for the lulz!deathboy
- or perspective its less than the latest phone...deathboy
- My self dianosed cancer turned out to be catch scratch fever. But aye, sorry to read this.Doris_McSquirter
- go to a doctor.milfhunter
- wait! dont go to a doctor. let's see what happensdrgs
- +1 CyBrainX - so much of that resonated and, I suspect perhaps with Garbage too.
Garbage, love ya man, whatever.Nairn - Man, please at least go see a doctor, it's probably not what you think.Bennn
- I thought I had lung cancer 3 years ago, I kept coughing daily during almost a year, even had fever for a week for no apparent reason, I did some tests. it allBennn
- suddenly disapeared... I have no idea what it was. Maybe anxiety, i dont know.Bennn
- Garbage, if you smoke, stop now. Go see a doctor!futurefood
- get it check!
- Gardener25
Finished the sign today, the logo on the window is coming off and a new mustard yellow coloured one is going on the door, it all looks very smart now! I'll be painting the inside of the shop later in the year. The other shops on the high street have already started twitching about getting their fronts done haha.
- You're a good egg.PhanLo
- Yep... good manPonyBoy
- No one will mistake it for Camoustie, that's for suredrgs
- Turned out niceFax_Benson
- Lovely.ArmandoEstrada
- did they have any old vinyl for trade?fooler
- It's time to give up on gardening!utopian
- thanks for your kind words folks, I do get first dibs on any vinyl that comes in the shop, perks of the trade, NEVER give up Gardening!Gardener
- utopian27
PhanLo, thank you for posting interesting snd creative finds on QBN, much appreciated!
- yep, always good stuff.fadein11
- agree.Doris_McSquirter
- Thumbs up! The reason I used to visit this site was to see creative work that users were passionate about.PhanLo
- @PhanLo I try to keep upgrafician
- And his drawings aint too shabby neitherstoplying
- second that!whatthefunk
- Yes, thanks!OBBTKN
- Yes. Love your work.MrT
- i_monk24
It took the better part of a year with more than half my pay going to it every two weeks, but I paid off my credit card today. Such a huge burden lifted; I'd maxed it out over those two years I wasn't working.
- sweet!moldero
- well done man!spl33nidoru
- great!Krassy
- Now let’s head to Want of the day threadfuturefood
- You deserve something real nice. From yourself.monospaced
- Nice man, congrats.ben_
- drinks on youKrassy
- Get yourself a new TV!deadsperm
- I refer you to my recent bbq purchase. I jumped the gun only because we needed a new one.i_monk
- Nice hustle @i_monk! AND congrats @ recent bbq purchase; exciting times.
: )ideaist - Fucking eh! Clear sailing ahead!_niko
- Hell yes! Nice discipline amigostoplying
- Beeswax10
My wife was feeling a bit weird lately so we went to a doctor.
After a bit of talk he checked her belly.
AND SHIEEEEETTTTT!!!! There's a baby!
An extra heart is beating inside my wife.
I was about to faint when he turned the speakers on.
9 fucking weeks old!We were not expecting this at all. I suggested her to stop taking birth control and I'm sure I said we can use condoms but of course never used it.
We were both strong defenders of not having a child.
You know, what is the point?
The world sucks, humanity is eroding, too much responsibility, there's not even one logical reason to have a baby(except selfish ones) and so on...We're both 40 and we will have a baby if everything goes ok.
I'm so scared.
Me, as a father, I dunno.
I can't even take care of myself. Somebody had told me that we would have a big shift in august because of our astro signs(leo and aquarius) but this big!?- Congrats? You seem to have your shit together.Greedo
- oh man tell your point to that mother in Africa who just gave birth to her 8. child. This will change your life for good.sted
- Congrats whatever lol :Dsted
- https://media.giphy.…moldero
- awesome, congrats!
Best thing in the world.
scary as fuck but you'll manage._niko - A nice grown up way to approach it!DaveO
- Congrats, man - add one small human per decent human pairing and you can still make the world a better place.detritus
- Özgür?oey
- :Dmonospaced
- also ... there are countless reasons to have a baby that are not all selfish :/monospaced
- CONGRATS! Best way of finding out!
If you feel you shouldn't have because of the world - you should. Means your aware of the world and can teach the next gen...mugwart - ... how to unfuck up this gens mess!mugwart
- YO - congrats! shit gets real really fast, once u hear baby cry for the first time. life changing. efficiency on 3-4hrs of sleep is pretty mind blowing actuallyumbee54
- @mono pls tell me one so I can maybe shake off this weird feeling.Beeswax
- 1. You can distill the best of you and your partner, your families and the best of your culture, humour, curiosity and love into one singular being.detritus
- Congrats!!
Your dick works! :Dpango - 2. You get to spend 20 years mind-fucking a human you've created, and no one can give you shit.detritus
- 3. In 5-12 years you'll have a servant.detritus
- nice, so human engineering. almost like creating your own AI but not completely artificial.Beeswax
- ^ there will come a time about 6-7 years from now. When the little one will catch you up and take your hand and smile up to you and call you daddy...mugwart
- ... any question/feeling you have now will make sense. its odd and its a bit trippy but its the greatest feeling in the world.mugwart
- "Your dick works! :D"
—pango
Well, someone's dick works...
:Ddetritus - 4. You'll have someone who can work whatever equivalent of VHS video recorders there is in 10 years.detritus
- You appreciate life and the world more. Gives you new perspective, focus and drive. Plus you get to relive all the cool childhood things_niko
- Having a child is a selfless act, not selfish. To create a paradigm shift to bring this life that will look to you for guidance, and provide unconditional loveETM
- is not selfish. And honestly. The world in it's entirety is not worse then ever. Shit always happens, turn off the news more often and your life outlook willETM
- improve in a very short time. Find the good, not the bad. And be happy that one of the hardest, yet greatest things you can experience may be happening soon.ETM
- As to the human engineering: my 9 year old is mindfucking me pretty hard these days. He knows all my buttonsGreedo
- Also, i can see my worst qualities in him, but really have to work on him to get my best qualities out.Greedo
- They do develop a life of their own rather fast and mercilesslyGreedo
- https://vignette3.wi…detritus
- What a sick, warped mind. Selfish to have a baby? You are a Margret Sanger eugenist.Hayoth
- Congrats, Bees. All will be well :)Gnash
- "We were not expecting this at all. I suggested her to stop taking birth control" What were you expecting?fooler
- my wife was 40 with our 2nd (also unexpecting child) I was 43. he's two now and he's amazing and healthy. You're not to old yet.fooler
- doesn't want children, has unprotected sex regularly -_-monospaced
- do you like sleeping? LOL.. forget about that nowautoflavour
- congrats tho..autoflavour
- hey ETM "... that will look to you for guidance, and provide unconditional love" is as egocentric as reason as it gets. There's nothing wrong with wanting tozarkonite
- make children but it's fundamentally entirely an ego thing.zarkonite
- It's not an "ego" thing, it's just the way it is. But you clearly have no kids, and are yet another who try to speak without practical experience, so thanks.ETM
- I always get a kick out of single friends and family who think they know a single fuck about what it means to raise a family.ETM
- sounds like your wife took the decision herselfdrgs
- Haha nice one, tho wtf did you expect having unprotected sex. You're about to undergo the most tremendous life journey, massive highs, deep lows, excitement allhans_glib
- ... the timehans_glib
- congrats and what auto said :)fadein11
- if you dont want it no shame in abortiondeathboy
- Beeswax, i felt the same as you - can barely look after myself ;). But 5 months ago my wife and I had a baby girl (was planned). Couldn't be happier! ...microkorg
- .. she makes me cry with laughter every day. She is always super excited to see me after i finish work - her smile is priceless! ...microkorg
- Yes, it's hard work but it's all WELL worth it. Dirty nappies and sick are a laugh. Just have fun. Enjoy this new life developing in the world. Watch it grow ..microkorg
- .. into a little person.microkorg
- She stop taking birth control pills and you didnt use condoms and you were not expecting a baby? lol! Babies! How do they work! CONGRATS BEESWAX ;-)Bennn
- "You know, what is the point?"
Ha...talk to me after the kid is born.
Kids are hope. Congratulations!stoplying - Congrats! The moment you see your child for the first time everything will just naturally come to you. Having kids is the best thing I've ever done.kona
- Pro tip: start wearing ear plugs now. Blame it on the birds waking you at night. When baby arrives, wearing ear plugs is your thing.calculator
- cannonball197824
Dear blog,
After four years we broke up and I’m such an idiot. I didn't realize the extent of her pills habit. It goes back to so many big fights on trips, weird behaviors at home, around family, the miscarriage.
How was I so stupid? How am I supposed to deal with this? I’m so ill equipped. I’m vacillating between stone sober anger and ugly crying because I love her. Should I tell her sister? Her mom? Her brother? God, In all my major relationships I’ve been such a failure. I see that now.
Also, my moms dog died. I’m gonna miss her. My mom lives alone and so do I and I’m going to spend more time with her.
Life is hard. Love,
Cannonball
- Failure? No. Absolutely not. If she was keeping her habit from you, how could you have known? Her habit is on her, not you.
You're all right, mate.Continuity - Here's a fact: you can't solve her problem for her. She needs to want it. And if she doesn't want it, there will be nothing you or her sister or mother orContinuity
- ... brother can do to help. I promise you this.Continuity
- Also, RIP your mum's dog. That's so hard when a pet leaves us, Sigh.
Good to spend more time with her.Continuity - You need to tell everyone. It's not your secret, your shame: it's hers. Until I learned this with my alcoholic husband nothing changed—for years. Tell everyone.i_monk
- Text them today.i_monk
- Not out of malice, but to let them know what's been going on. She won't change until she hits bottom, which means ripping away the facade of normalcy.i_monk
- Similar situation over here but no drugs just trauma and it's consequences. Work on yourself: Eat well, exercise, catch yourself thinking about her and stop it,shapesalad
- focus less on a big future goal and more on everyday things you can chip away at that one day will make any goal happen, eg learning something.shapesalad
- Hit the gym and focus on getting super in shape and healthy, feeling physically great really boosts a positive mindset.shapesalad
- Sorry to hear this. If you still love her then a good thing to do is to tell her family so they can help her.microkorg
- hang in there cannonball!!!utopian
- Get. Dr. Paul Conti's book called Trauma. Read it to understand her, then get her to read it.shapesalad
- I don't much like i_monk's advice here, but I can't see anything wrong with it either. Sorry, Cannonball - I can't timagine how I'd deal with this situation xNairn
- Get out! Don’t look back. People need to love themselves before being able to love another. It’s a dead end brother. I am sorry.dibec
- Good for you to spend more time with your mom. I should do the same.milfhunter
- Find a local 'Animal Flow' class and join, or follow at home with YT videos: https://www.youtube.…shapesalad
- Narin—until I stopped covering for him, outed his drinking to family and colleagues, it was only getting worse. And it wasn't my burden to bear.i_monk
- He's just passed 800 days sober, cumulatively nearly 1200 days, with a slip-up after his first year sober.i_monk
- lol "Narin" sorryi_monk
- <3garbage
- Failure? No. Absolutely not. If she was keeping her habit from you, how could you have known? Her habit is on her, not you.
- hydro7420
Happy 49th here (April 9th).
Anyway...
- Happy birthday hydro!! Still in the 40s ;)OBBTKN
- welcome to 49!!!!YakuZoku
- You old dirty lil' bitch...HBD brah:)utopian
- Cheers, I am right behind ya!BonSeff
- Happy birthday, I hope you have a wonderful one!Continuity
- Half way to 98 brother!
*thumbsup*ideaist - Thanks for the love!hydro74
- Happy Birthday! one more year until AARP benefits!ArmandoEstrada
- You’re old. <3PonyBoy
- Age doesn't matter as long as you are happy.milfhunter
- So many old fucks here!!pango
- You ain't that young, pango. I've seen you bend over!palimpsest
- Happy bday! Got ya beat by a few years...formed
- PonyBoy17
:( Mrs. Kitty has run out of options / time. She was still chirping and hissing at the other animals all of 3 days ago. She could still even use the 'geriatric kitty steps' to climb up and cuddle right into me and the wife as we slept... all up until about 3 days ago. :(
The last couple days she just turned... so weak... frail. :( We've been on standby w/the Vet the last 24 hours waiting for an opening and finally got a call @ 7am to bring her in.
They only needed a few mins to check her / go back over her records... only thing to do now is wait and let my wife sleep in (she was up all night w/Mrs. Kitty). When she wakes we'll hop in the car and drive down to say goodbye...
... fucking hate this part... been a blurbing crying idiot since handing her over to the kid at the vet this morning... I knew she wasn't going to have another one of her little kitty miracles she's become known for. Gonna miss her so much. :(
- so sorry ponyboy. sounds like she had a great life with you all.sarahfailin
- Sorry man :(OBBTKN
- Awe man. Sorry.monospaced
- Fuck, my condolences. Hang in there man.garbage
- She'll come back 'round, death is not the end. Re-up real quick with a kitten and pour all that sad into love, and Mrs. Kitty will ride.tbgoodwillie
- :-(
I'm sorry to hear that.PhanLo - :(dyspl
- : ( old pets break your heartMrT
- sorry man, that's toughformed
- If you are able, find a nice place to lay her to rest on your property. Sorry, man. It's always so hard to say goodbye. =(elahon
- It sucks. And It hurts for a long time. Sorry.ArmandoEstrada
- I'm sorry to hear Pony :(utopian
- sorry to hear xfadein11
- Thank you, all.... Been a shit day. Mrs. is now in kitty heavenPonyBoy
- Sorry to hear :( Its quick when a cat is at the end. Your decision to end his suffering is the key, some people wait too long for nothing.Bennn
- Last time, we call a vet to come home to euthanase our cat, she didnt the stress to go at the vet by car and die in a cold place she dont know.Bennn
- *sigh* :(Akagiyama
- "Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation."garbage
- Always so hard to go through this. Remember the good life you guys gave her.stoplying
- Continuity13
10.5 years ago, when I first moved to Munich, I started dating a woman for a while, and — whilst I really liked her, and she was 'crazy' about me (her word) — I was in a really weird place in my life, and I couldn't give her or the nascent relationship what was needed. Net result, she dumped me some months after.
Didn't like it at the time, but I figured there was nothing I could do. Nonetheless, I kept thinking back over the experience over the years, and had a nagging feeling I let something really awesome go. Well, that's on me, anyway.
She ended up moving to Berlin some years ago and, during 20212 and now, we communicated very sporadically. Which is to say, she was the one to initiate almost always. But it was never for any extended length of time. She'd text or message me on LinkedIn, ask me how I am, we have a brief conversation over the course of a couple of hours, then nothing. Radio silence, until the next time she does it (usually 1 year later or more).
So, anyway, in the course of these sporadic conversations, I find out she's got her PhD, a career in the federal civil service, she's a mother, has been in a relationship for years, and seems happy (despite some difficult family things, with her dad committing suicide almost 2 years ago). Nice.
So, like any reasonable person, I think, 'Well, that's that. No opening for me there.' Not that I was pining for her for ten years, but it was certainly a nagging question that would pop up occasionally.
So, fast-forward September 2022. She told me she would be in town for a few days on business, and wanted to know if I'd be up for a drink. This was 2 weeks ago.
Not having seen her in person for 6 years, when we had a brief coffee another time she was in town, I was understandably curious. So I took her to my favourite bar for a few cocktails, and it was great. Meaningful conversation came really easily for the whole time. No awkwardness. Lots of flirting. Physical contact.
Anyway, I ended up asking what is on her mind when she reaches out to me — out of the — blue like she's been doing for years.
Turns out, she told me that she still really likes me (which makes me suspicious, considering we barely talk, much less see each other, but I let it slide because it made my ego feel good) ... and that she was always afraid of seeing me in person, because she knew she would do something she would regret, if she was in another relationship at any given point. Ooooookay.
The next big nugget to come out of that evening was the fact her current relationship (with the father of her kid) is open. It didn't jive with me, based on what I knew of her. I never saw her as being that kind of person. But, well, it's not like I've been close enough with her over the years to realistically draw that conclusion. And, in any case, open relationships are hardly the weirdest thing one can hear about.
In the end, we agreed on a FWB situation, given we both like each other. However, that evening I didn't suggest consummating it. I had a lot to turn over in my head about it all and needed the chance to do so, and told her as much.
Off she goes to Berlin again the next day.
Last night I texted her to see how things are going with her, just out of friendly curosity (I hadn't texted her since she'd left). Nothing. Radio silence again.
That is, until this evening:
'hey, sorry not everything fine at the moment. I loved talking to you but no contact is better for my relationship'
OK, well, not much I can say to that, really, other than, 'I'm sorry that's the case'.
What a bizarre turn of events, and I am struggling to figure out what exactly happened in those two weeks since she was here, and what she means.
Clearly, though, this relationship of hers isn't that open (or, indeed, solid), if my mere presence can threaten it.
I was right to not sleep with her that night, as it would have made things immeasurably worse for me, emotionally, if I'd then received this message afterwards. So, kudos to me for keeping some measure of detachment to mull things over first. And I'm at the point with it all where I will probably forget about it by Wednesday.
Still. Weird.
- This is not nearly as entertaining as me flooding my kitchen was.
Meh. I hate situations like these.Continuity - You did the right thing.
But you also both missed out on an opportunity to really fuck things up with a singularly-carnal night.Nairn - One for the WankBank™Nairn
- I know. But, I don't think one carnal night would have taken things to a new, productive level. Not for me, anyway.Continuity
- she wanted to have fun, maybe fuck, but not your brain with the answers to these vibe destructing questions.
fire and forget opportunity missed.sted - The "Anti-catpower"Akagiyama
- between now and 20212... you really are the time traveller ;-) glad it's not only me that can't type or proof read here on qbnshapesalad
- Sex is one of those things you really want, until you've had it, then you want to get on with other things.shapesalad
- Branch swinging?drgs
- @shape Right? Don't get me wrong: she's sexy, and we really clicked that way. And I miss it with her. But something was just too off. I knew I'd pay for it ...Continuity
- ... emotionally, somehow.Continuity
- Think you made the right call.garbage
- WankBank LOLutopian
- Right call was made. Treat yourself to a steak and decent beer.shapesalad
- slow clapoey_oey
- people casually msg people on linkedin?pango
- The open relationship talk of hers was weird. Congratulations for not making yourself her toy. No hungover feelings.SimonFFM
- sounds like you nailed every moment of that situation. no ragretsinteliboy
- Def branch swinging. She eyed you for al life boat.cannonball1978
- Sorry to hear about this, but sounds like you did the right thing. I think there’s ainstrmntl
- George Clooney movie about this, and you are George in this instance.instrmntl
- Like i told you. Bitches be kraizeeeeeeKhurram
- Well you missed pussy twice.NBQ00
- Akagiyama... LOOOOOOOOOOLnecromation
- Although seemingly okay for them to do, Men can often get jealous of even outside emotional relationship happening with their female partners.shellie
- Like, they want to be open, but not their female parters and its bullshit. Ive also seen “open” used as a cover to disarm the other person and put them at ease.shellie
- Come and see the violence inherent in the system!
There's always going to be one person that's more "open" than the other one. Regardless of your genitals.palimpsest - I don't know if you've been paying attention but his story is about a married laaaddy trying to get dicked by her ex.
Continuity made the right choice.palimpsest - Well, not married, but in a committed relationship, nonetheless. But the point remains.
And yeah, I don't think I made the wrong call.Continuity - I dodged a dysfunctional bullet, methinks.Continuity
- @Shellie 'I've also seen “open” used as a cover to disarm the other person and put them at ease.' <— I think this was precisely the case.Continuity
- And, I probably wouldn't be surprised if her dude wasn't also jealous, as you said.Continuity
- If she's not married then she's not being oppressed.
Slay, queen!palimpsest - @shellie I've had the opposite, where a female partner pretended to be OK with an open relationship, but really wasn't. Jealousy killed everything..garbage
- ..including a friendship that goes back over a decade. My SO of 7 years ain't having it, so I'm monogamous now. Lucky for her, she's fucking awesome.garbage
- FWB are rarely that.autoflavour
- lots of people talk big on open relationships, but are mostly either 1 sided or just having fun talking about it, once it comes to action it becomes too realautoflavour
- This is not nearly as entertaining as me flooding my kitchen was.
- Gardener22
I'm chuffed to bits this afternoon after I just had a lovely message from a book shop in Japan telling me how much they enjoy playing my mixes out in their shop! You never know who is listening, I love it!
- You da man!palimpsest
- +1!OBBTKN
- Does that device exist? Wantnb
- Why yes, yes it does exist.
https://www.etsy.com…utopian - +1 and you'll probably like this anecdote. When I was a kid, I had to do the whole science fair thing. It was straight up "Do Plants Hear Music?"garbage
- I had two Calendulas, one had a radio playing 24/7. The other had identical situations. I picked annual flowers for a reason. The non-radio one died.garbage
- Radio Calendula? Kept on kicking. I got a fucking D+ for presumed low-effort.garbage
- Honestly still angry after these years, the other chuds in my class were making baking soda volcanoes or talking about how magnets work.garbage
- Meanwhile I've proven that plants love music, lol.garbage
- Muy pijo, bromaquito
- Muy pio? Soy yo whiskey tango, cien por cien.garbage
- I have mixed the Plant Music LP by Baroque Bouquet in the show before - https://i.imgur.com/…Gardener
- I did not know this was a thing, will check it out.garbage
- That’s awesome! :D
Mr. Worldwide!jagara - Love it. And the Japanese for being the sort of people that would message the DJ.MrT
- I've had my music played on various podcasts and streams. Mighty chuffed every time. And Japan, fkn awesome.jagara
- I'm doing more ambient mixes ATM so they must be pretty good for reading to, that's my spin on itGardener
- Well you have to play "Big in Japan" by Alphaville to close the loopstoplying
- kona16
Last night while our three kids were sitting at the kitchen table eating, I had grabbed the carton of eggs from the fridge which was inside a plastic Jewel bag. I sat the eggs, bag and all down next to the stove and cracked two open to cook. I left the carton in the bag because they were a little messy still from letting the boys color them for Easter.
As the eggs cooked I walked over to the table to get water for the boys. It was then that our most mischievous cat decided to climb into the jewel bag. I heard an intense meow, then crash, and I turn to see the cat had gotten its’ head stuck in the handle opening of the bag. As the cat fell from the counter, luckily missing the pan on the stove and knocking off the utensils and plate I had placed up there, I ran to try and grab her to help. Mind you, our floors are hardwood, I was wearing thin socks, and our cats aren't declawed. Imagine what I'm telling you next if it were the mother f*cking ice capades.
She raced frantically across the floor towards the office and I gave chase, too fast unfortunately, as my socks slipped on the wood floor and my left knee crashed hard into the corner of the cabinet.
As I laid scream-laughing in pain, I watched helplessly as the cat raced straight towards the leg of our office desk. I was now in a panic as I thought for sure the cat would either break its’ poor neck or its’ legs. The cat was on one side, the bag, still around her neck pulling a carton full of eggs still on the other wrapped themselves around the leg at full speed. The speed at which the cat was running flung the jewel bag around and catapulted all but 3 eggs out of the carton and onto the office floor. It was amazing actually...
The cat gathered herself and still with the bag stuck around her neck, ran for the front room. I gave chase and didn’t notice all of the yolk on the floor. I slipped and the fall (I’m told) resembled something that one would see in a comedy movie where the persons feet go straight up above their head and they fall flat on their back.
The cat finally jumped to the front room chair and managed to back its’ way out of the bag’s handle, but not before the bag shot up and onto the chair launching the remaining eggs onto the wall and floor.
The kids were screaming bloody murder.
The cat was meowing bloody murder.
My wife was laughing hysterically.My knee was bruised pretty badly and I was covered in eggs.
After a few minutes of cleaning off I figured I’d go upstairs to check on the cat. I walked into our sons’ bedroom and there’s the cat on the bed, all calm, giving me this look of “oh hey how’s it going what are you doing here?” like nothing had happened.
These fucking cats man.
So, I’m icing my knee and taking some Advil for my sore back. And no, I didn’t even think to take any pictures of the madness as the kids were in full-on hysterics.
The cleanup was awful. We lost a lot of good towels last night.
I can't even think about eggs as the thought alone conjures up the smell which makes me want to vomit.
- lolpockets
- classic kona story, lol.grotesk_neue
- what's a jewel bag?fooler
- haha - holy shit. that's a gripping story! glad you and the cat are (basically) ok.bulletfactory
- enjoyed thatfadein11
- haha, sorry fooler. Jewel is a grocery store near us. It was a plastic grocery bag.kona
- damn. eggs are a nightmare to clean up.shapesalad
- Best method I heard is to take a hairdryer and 'dry' the egg, then scrap/brush it out of sofa etc.shapesalad
- this is the dog that worried the cat
that killed the rat that ate the malt
that lay in the house that kona builtdrgs - haha, longform blog posts about personal disaster are my favourites!detritus
- Good story, well written, spills and thrills....eggcellen... poststoplying
- *SLAPdetritus
- hahahaha. Excellent.
Well composed too !
The writing that is.set - hahaha "We lost a lot of good towels last night" classic domestic war story.kingsteven
- "I gave chase" < I liked that.notype
- funny story dude and yeah I enjoy your prose as well.HijoDMaite
- i'd say tl;dr but man you can tell a story. catapulting. word of the day.jaylarson
- hahaha what a story Mark!
it could easily trun into a tragedy if the pan was knocked down.Beeswax - someone needs to comic strip this or create an animation.mrAtor
- Lol, great story, cheered up my friday morning no end!dee-dubs
- Wait till you see what your cat has planned for you this evening! Mwhahahahahah!microkorg
- https://youtu.be/Xfd…cannonball1978
- stewart21
Working on an idea for a new typeface. Maybe uppercase only.
- Ooooooh that's lovely.Continuity
- Lovely. Please finish this, so I that can update my brand :)Nairn
- Love it AND you had me @ cycling.ideaist
- Yep awesome and loving it.Wordsworth
- Very nice! I would reduced the font size in "CYCLING", there is something visually uneasy with the "NG" sitting below the "NS".utopian
- This type was made for bike frames, 100%garbage
- Maybe widen the space in the D a bit to be consistent with open space in the Asrhadden
- Working on it to make it consistent. Thinking of making it outline and variable on the weight axis.stewart
- Nice work sir, that flat-top A is ace. How do you select the letters to break? That’s probably a dumb question.MrT
- Thanks MrT. Letters to break, what do you mean exactly?stewart
- Cyclists are gaycrazyprick
- Where do you get your ideas from?palimpsest
- Have you tried it with flat terminals?garbage
- Good one garbage, I'll try that.stewart
- I meant which get the A, N, Y treatment - with a stencil-like break in the character.MrT
- MrT, may be an open type option so the user can choose open/closed characters.stewart
- Bennn21
So we adopted a 7 years old cat from a shelter last weekend
- <3 gorgeous.sea_sea
- http://m.memegen.com…utopian
- Awwww cute pussy.pango
- Bennn noooooooooogarbage
- wow it's beautifulernexbcn
- such prettyCalderone2000
- lovelyset
- *unzips flydetritus
- That’s a good looking catscruffics
- lovely - gotta name yet?pedromendez
- yeah her name is SimoneBennn
- she looks really cool and chill.Ramanisky2
- She's kinda nervous.. Some cats can take up to 2 to 4 months before feeling completely safe and at home. But she's very cool.Bennn
- The kind of cat that look you right into your eyes for a long time, its weird, never saw a cat doing this before.Bennn
- Yay - such a beautylessfloor
- that is a looker. beautiful catGnash
- Good looking kitty!dopepope
- OBBTKN27
Just finished talking with an editor who would be willing to publish my comic, I only need to prepare and send the script, sketched pages and a finished page by March 15, and wait the gov pays part of the costs (I'll know their decision by April)... wish me luck!! I'm going to need it
- imbecile25
I wonder what it's like to not only not care about another individual, but actively put effort into letting others know your disdain for those in need. It's saddening, disgraceful, and should be personally embarrassing to those who attack others who choose to defend those in need.
All you have to do is shut up and stay out of the way, yet for some reason, you lie to misinform those around you in hopes to achieve what?
Say you're right, all efforts to keep others healthy and safe still serve that purpose. Now say you're wrong, all that effort just to help kill those around you for no reason other than pride.
Why? Are you that angry? Are you that desperate? Why doesn't another human being deserve to be fed? Deserve to be healthy? Deserve to have a fulfilling life?
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If you feel attacked by these words, you're likely a terrible person and qbn has already told you as much. Shitting on this post doesn't make you any better a person. It doesn't make you cool. It just lets people know you're a genuine piece of shit.
- Please give a couple examples of genuine "those in need." ThanksBustySaintClaire
- Hey look, a genuine piece of shit chimed in.imbecile
- lolpango
- who hurt you?BustySaintClaire
- you busty. why you gotta hurt us after all the time we spent together T_T
https://youtu.be/2nX…pango - +1lvl_13
- Lol. Someone is getting a lil emotional around that time of the month. It's ok we understand and care. Think about it and when u feel better try againdeathboy
- Hey look, a cunt showed up.pango
- 10/10 on self arrival announcements. Personally for my own I'd like to say hey it's me that guy showing up.deathboy
- I am curious what qualifies as an attack too? Like assault or just doesn't like the turn of phrasedeathboy
- Think u need more explicit questions ...deathboy
- rightpango
- yesdeadsperm
- lol, and his only response is to imply you're like a woman suffering from her menstrual cycle ... classic lowlife movemonospaced
- Don't be such an imbecile. The natural state is not caring about people you don’t know until you do know them.cannonball1978
- that'll be your little secret. even rats
help other rats they don't know without reward.imbecile - Thats because those rats in fact do know each other.cannonball1978
- but really imbecile if that is your MO than go volunteer in senegal. If it REALLY means so much to you.deathboy
- Two more genuine pieces of shit. Check. Maybe research before you respond. Maybe read and believe actual science, not YouTube kids.imbecile
- +1jaylarson
- no YOUcannonball1978
- Thank you for sharing your unwillingness to learn. I have, how do you think I knew to make the point? All the best.imbecile
- haha post example of your "science" you do know data stats are not science right? Google adwords metrics is not science?deathboy
- Why is cdc so different, why so many metrics different across the world. the truth is its all bias. not sciencedeathboy
- sometimes, and not for everyone there's a lot of idiots out there (mono) who probably do better being spoonfed than making decisions for themselvesdeathboy
- Plus your original post has little to do with science. Has more in emotional responses to stimuli regards to others on recognition of authoritydeathboy
- big differences on rational vs emotional thinkers. should stick to one or the other for your pointdeathboy
- goodpango
- zaq21
50 today
Instead of a traditional celebration, I dropped everything and flew to Mexico by myself. No kids, no wife, no friends, Just me... in a Mayan Temple... reflecting on the past 50, planning the next 50.
- were you high as fuck? or are you going to be?pango
- I like itscarabin
- I wish I had done the same, now I don't know what to do for the rest of my 50s ;) Being serious, congrats!OBBTKN
- Your wife and kids know you're planning on coming back, right? Right?
;)
Have fun!microkorg - So what else did you do in that temple huh?milfhunter
- Get off the fucking internet if you're there!Nairn
- But post some pictures from the other side if you can. Some winged serpents if you can! HBD!uan
- brilliant!Gardener
- Awesome happy birthday and welcome to Mexico!YakuZoku
- happy belated. stoked you rocked your bday with style.dibec
- Thanks for the greetings!!
@pango I got a three-day supply of booze made of cold-pressed juice. Cleanse was my high.zaq