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- Bennn1
Currently on vacations, did I miss something?
- How many vacations are you taking?DRIFTMONKEY
- getting back to work TuesdayBennn
- Nairn0
This is such a waste of a domain: http://pump.io/
- colin_s0
i have an ex where there was a substantial and messy break up years and years ago, but every time i've found something out about her since ... it's like she's taken aspects of me and my life to her own identity / new relationship (which she had upon our break-up). examples:
- started shooting film-based photography and going to the darkroom i used to frequent and teach at in SF when i lived there about 2 weeks after we broke up. never took a picture in her life before.
- began doing collage-art using old magazines purchased at the magazine shop i used to live next door to in SF where i would get all my supplies (about 2 months after the break up)
- traveled on her honeymoon to 3 cities, two of which were ones we had traveled together to the previous year
- in subsequent years has gone to the same states / countries as i have, just usually 8-12 months after i do... even like same cities, posting similar photos to instagram. just with this other guy.like maybe it's all coincidence but it feels like she watches my life through the internet and cherry picks the things i do (a majority of which are to gain independence from the rather toxic nature of how things ended between her and i) and then goes and does them with this guy who is about 6 years younger. she makes good money doing bad design in SF so can afford to do it as a vacation while i actually work for it... and i dunno.
they say imitation is the highest form of flattery but this feels like something else.
- sorry i have no one to bitch to in my life about "girls" and the like, i understand this is whiny and superficial, but it hits a nerve i've been trying to mendcolin_s
- Stop watching her social media, who give a flying fuck what that bitch does.eryx
- ^ this. stop going thereGnash
- Yep. If you stop following, she might stop doing it. But then how would you know. Classic Schrodinger's ex-girlfriend.Fax_Benson
- Return the favour - start copying her clothes and posing styles in photos you post.Nairn
- be pleased you've found a way thought life that has inspired someone else. We all end up as worm food and the sun will swallow the earth, don't worry about it.shapesalad
- Yup, sounds like a shy narcissist and she IS communicating to you through her copying. She's saying, "thanks, you're a chump and I'm gonna flaunt it."robotron3k
- The finest revenge, erase/block her completely, if you bump into her act asif she's a stranger. Forgetting her will drive her nuts. Then change your photo stylerobotron3k
- @all she is blocked for the most part. like it isn't a follow/follow situation, neither of us has spoken and i haven't followed her since. it's only occasionalcolin_s
- that someone has said 'hey have you seen what _ is up to' etc. - we're on strictly no contact in any way terms.colin_s
- well what makes you "you" is not that you use negative or magazine but what you do with it. I think it's completely normal to learn from your partner.pango
- this girl who i was seeing took one of my idea. ran with it and got an award for it. i wasn't even mentioned... bitch....pango
- lol kidding.
she took the initiative and i didn't.pango - @pango it's more like she rejected me for my various negative qualities, took the good shit and adopted into her own life. feels like theft in a waycolin_s
- id love to see all this side by side, would make a great thriller short filmfeel
- "Classic Schrodinger's ex-girlfriend."
Ha!******** - Maybe you inspired her to be a more interesting person? Good on ya. Now go live your life and ignore her.********
- Sex for knowledge is the second oldest profession.robotron3k
- Everything Is A Remix.
Deal with it. What colour briefs you wearing?I need inspiration....shapesalad - of course robo finds a way to insinuate she’s a prostitute. holy shit you must be really afraid of womenmonospaced
- let it goCGN
- and... you came to qbn for advice :)renderedred
- first bullet point in, and i knew it was colin without seeing his name :/
ignore her. live your life. we only have this 1.notype - its ways she remembers you.Hayoth
- notype2
Your recipe to stave away the loneliness?...
- play guitar, bike ride, run... all the above. feeling like I’m not having “fun” lately.notype
- pornhubutopian
- Sure. If to invite indolence as well.notype
- Embrace it. While we share being born into the world with out mother, we take our last breath alone. Once you embrace it, you move past it.shapesalad
- *our not out...typo...shapesalad
- Generally, garlicky chicken with potatoes and a lot of butter.Nairn
- Do we take our last breath alone shape?notype
- Family?BusterBoy
- A dogMrT
- A 9-to-5 jobdrgs
- MrT, working on this for sure. 2 adoption agencies. I’m looking :)notype
- Focus on being you :) do what makes YOU happy or spend time figuring that out. Being alone feels great after a while.grafician
- I start creating things.robotron3k
- There's a difference between loneliness and being alone. I do like the idea of "embracing it." sorta inviting it to the table.notype
- puppy! +1 MrTGnash
- i embraced being alone, as you said, and now i like it better than being surrounded by people. #signsyouregettingol...renderedred
- Being alone is not a killer. Loneliness is a killer. Gnash + 1000, glad to see your weigh in herenotype
- cat?pango
- loneliness, just like happiness is a byproduct of subjective experience...renderedred
- between the notes in this post and the 'midlife crisis' thread I'm quite surprised nobody has suggested that you give of yourself... volunteer...PonyBoy
- ... take a fucking break from yourself and think of someone else. Volunteer, do something pro bono... something that isn't about you. You will recharge.PonyBoy
- https://www.rubmaps.…ok_not_ok
- Tru dat ponyboynotype
- Further to what PB says, this was in the news recently.. https://www.scientif…Nairn
- Sorry, I completely forgot I'd seen that article when you posted last week!Nairn
- Thanks for posting this Narinnotype
- BusterBoy1
Since when has dropping the 'T' been a New York thing? I've never noticed it, but now that I have, I hear it all the time.
So instead of "Manhattan", the'll say "Manha-un".
Am I daft?
- daft ... nobody pronounces the Ts very clearly anywhere as far as I knowmonospaced
- And Montreal is pronounced, “Mon-real”HijoDMaite
- mono is an 'ool.
:PPonyBoy - gotta get your digs where you can, I guess. Anyway, I was referring only to the word Manhattan and how people pronounce it ... I never hear a clear "T"monospaced
- Ffs... I hope you carry a lil packet of tissues with you for these moments when you can’t tell someone is just being silly with you. *hugsPonyBoy
- lol, I get where you were coming from 100%, so don't think I didn'tmonospaced
- you got yours in, even though it was uninspired, pathetic and mostly made no sense ... so here's your tissue, snowflake, because I know you'll cry about this :)monospaced
- sorry... could read you through all the sobbing ;(PonyBoy
- *couldn't
and lol @ 'uninspired, pathetic'—you can't be that smug and lost in your head over a silly comment INSPIRED by the post (and your expected tears). <3PonyBoy
- OBBTKN1
3 days in bed with antibiotics, sleeping 20 of 24 hours a day, ey, not that bad really...
- Isn't your Uncle Biotics pissed?microkorg
- https://www.youtube.…deadsperm
- smack or antibiotics?fadein11
- Feel betternotype
- Getting better now... Little work now, and when I stop of hard working and try to relax... zas! A infection, nothing serious, I hope.OBBTKN
- Tack for your wordsOBBTKN
- wich disease is afflicting you?Bennn
- Good bye OBBTKN :(drgs
- Urine infection, zero fun.
Bye drgs, pleased to meet you ;)OBBTKN - You put your peepee in a bad place?Bennn
- Nein BennOBBTKN
- lol drgs...
... feel better, felix :)PonyBoy
- mg331
I got water in my right ear on a water slide on Saturday. Damn water is still there and it's super annoying. Tried ear drops, warm air from blow dryer, sleeping on that side... still there.
- https://images.homed…Nairn
- That happened to me ~18 years ago. Got tinnitus from it.i_monk
- Did you try jumping up and down on one foot with your head sorta parallel to the ground? Banging one ear with the heal of your hand?monNom
- Or doctor?pango
- empty those silicon "keep food fresh" absorb moisture things into your ear, and tape up. leave for a day to absorb moisture, take out.shapesalad
- plunge your head in rice overnightmonospaced
- have friend throw dodgeball against opposite side of head until curedprophetone
- You sure it’s water?notype
- smash your head into a pillow one or two times with that problemwaterear. problem solved.api
- Ear drying drops are your friend!jaylarson
- id hit the doc - could end up being swimmers ear then need special drops. I also think getting em rinsed out a couple times a year is recommended. Doc can do.mantrakid
- cut your head off and that water will be gone for good.capn_ron
- This happened to me while vacationing in Mexico. Was told by a local I’d need to put drops of breast milk from a virgin in my ear hole. I shit you not.Green_Pork
- Never tried it though. Let me know if it works!Green_Pork
- Mono. STOP WASTING PERFECTLY GOOD RICE!pango
- You can still cook the rice after.monospaced
- In a curious turn of events, I just had to buy a suction plunger - but for a blocked sink, not a water-logged lughole.Nairn
- NO ONE WANT TO EAT THE RICE AFTER YOU BURY A MAN'S HEAD WITH IT!!!pango
- Hydrogen peroxide for 2-3 minutes then distilled water rinsefuturefood
- stoplying0
Hoping to get a little advice from the greater community here.
My pops is 82 and has a condition called neuropathy which causes his right leg to stamp down when he walks. It's gotten worse over time and he walks with a cane.
He also has at least one gin & tonic each night around 5pm and has done so ever since I can remember. It hasn't always been gin, but it's always been cocktail time at 5pm. He's taken a couple of spills at home over the past few years, never badly injured himself and just chalks it up to getting old.
Now the neuropathy is starting to affect his driving, specifically his ability to smoothly go from brake to gas pedal and my Mom is starting to feel unsafe in the car with him. They drove three hours for a family party over the weekend.
I need to talk with him about cutting back on - or cutting out altogether the booze, and possibly the road trips - and I think I know already how the conversation will go.
I'm wondering if any of you have had to deal with a similar situation and anything that may have worked for you? Ot an approach that was not so good. Anything is appreciated - thanks.- my father has neuropathy as well, and it's affecting his feet. he's a doctor, but is getting treatment. I wouldn't just assume alcohol is a factor thoughmonospaced
- regarding the affect on his driving, that's a real issue though, and a real conversation ... prepare for the utmost stubborness and maybe hurt feelingsmonospaced
- there are legal ramifications to driving with this condition. insurance will deny any claim if they find out about the diagnosis.Gnash
- he's likely not legally allowed to drive unless certain modifications are made to the car (like hand controls)Gnash
- The booze is a tough one. there really is no way to manage that if he's not open to it. you can only control stuff like taking his keys and license awayGnash
- Don't ask him to cut down on the booze.
Do work on somehow explaining to him comprehensively that he shouldn't be driving any more. Or lose the booze.Nairn - Losing the ability to drive - to be individually free and mobile - is a huge loss in later years but if he's a danger to those around him, including loved ones?Nairn
- *Minus "Or lose the booze". I don't know whiy I wrote that - it was throwaway.
The booze shouldn't be any part of the equation.Nairn - get him a Volvo. Pilot assist = don't need to use pedals, follows car in front etc, good for 3 hour journey, plus they are super safe car, if they crash.shapesalad
- And some cocktail umbrellas - you can't have a 5pm cocktail without a little colourful cocktail umbrella.shapesalad
- Thanks all for the serious replies. Much appreciated.stoplying
- Agree to let him drive but look for solutions WITH him. Like hand control conversion kits, then follow up with therapy to keep him from that 5pm drink.robotron3k
- Nerve damage can be viral and I've still heard of interesting protocols with grapefruit seed extract for feet and an enzyme (I believe) alpha lipoic acid.robotron3k
- It's amazing that the body can heal if you give it the right environment. I cured a friend of spinal stenosis with enzymes, he can walk again! my dad of bonerobotron3k
- spurs also with enzymes, the doctors wanted to operate. Especially for older people, much of their body is just depleted of minerals which causes imbalance.robotron3k
- you cured them with enzymes? yeah, rightmonospaced
- Enzymes or suppliments. You don't have to believe mono, but the important thing is both my older friend w/spinal stenosis can walk again, pain-free, unaided.robotron3k
- Good luck with your pops, look into that grapefruit seed extract, supposed to be the miracle cure for feet neuropathy.robotron3k
- Nairn1
There's a nice bill poster series advertising a Manga exhibition at the British Museum: https://www.britishmuseum.org/wh… . They're set up in pairs - one bill for details, contrasted text on fluoro, next to a bill solely made up of a manga frame, black and white.
I saw three pairs around the corner earlier, as I walked up to the local shop for some bevvy.
On the way back from the shop I saw a peroxide-blonde girl ripping one of single-image b&w posters down to take home and stick up.
Respect.
- Looking forward to seeing the show soon. A guy I knew did some painting advertising it recently.
https://www.instagra…PhanLo - Hey, cool! I did think the text on the 40x60" bill wasn't particularly readable from a distacnce.. but the stealable art certainly was! :)Nairn
- Was this the poster? https://i.imgur.com/…
That would be a good one to pinch. :-)PhanLo - I can't remember which it was - I even Googled last night!Nairn
- Looking forward to seeing the show soon. A guy I knew did some painting advertising it recently.
- imbecile2
Denver was great for the past week. Thanks for having us.
Rockies game? Check
Zoo at City Park? Check
BBQ by the pool? Check
Hiking the Flatirons in Boulder? Check
Tom's Diner was a reliable staple. We went to District for breakfast once, Onefold another time. I forget where we had sushi. We ate a burger from a food truck outside First Draft before grabbing a drink.
So much to do in a such a small area.
Would recommend.
- drgs0
A friend of mine named his dog Stalin
- ideaist-2
Just getting ahead financially after years of hardships; full-time gig, father of 2, etc.
Rear ended someone very lightly last week after a few drinks.
Played it cool and calm.
Quote for "damage" is $1500.
Just when you think the pain from getting kicked in the nuts goes down, life bites you in the dick.
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- Rear ended someone('s car)...
: )ideaist - Sorry to hear, first, reach out to the person, tell them your situation, ask if you can make payments. Second, stop drinking for a bit...robotron3k
- really, I do sympathize with the situation, but at the same time, drinking and driving isn't really life biting you in the dick, you brought that on yourselfmonospaced
- drink drive?shapesalad
- I had 3 drinks BUT you are 100% correct. It was at a stop sign; they rolled it and i assumed went BUT they stopped and I bumped 'em.ideaist
- I'm not saying it's not my fault, just getting it off my chest.ideaist
- Thanks @shapesalad; will take that strategy into consideration...ideaist
- Rear ended someone('s car)...
- bliznutty1
so the other day i was talking about how this world is just so overpopulated with humans and the we've skewed the balance tremendously - basically arguing that all kids in today's day in age should be an accident (and/or aborted) - we shouldn't be adding to this imbalance. anyway point is, that same day i go to walmart and sure enough there is a teenager shopping with her young baby and i'm like SMH.. then i go to the park later and there is a 3-yr old girl with serious anger issues already at such a young age.. i'm just like 'oh shit we're fucked'.. real talk.. stop having kids!
- Yes. Please, stop breeding.Continuity
- World population growth: https://ourworldinda…Morning_star
- Chill we're overdue for a reset.robotron3k
- Meanwhile some smug fuck is walking around Walmart and the park judging people while patting himself on the back for being such a deep thinker.PonyBoy
- nahhh the earth is not over populated. if we mage our resource better. there are enough for everyone.pango
- *managepango
- Unless you're in Africa or the Middle East, your country is likely facing population decline - possibly catastrophically-so, so chill and let people be.Nairn
- New York, Paris, London and Tokyo being overpopulated doesn't mean the world is.Maaku
- Population decline should be encouraged, ya half-witscannonball1978
- seriously i dont see how anyone could argue the world isnt overpopulatedcannonball1978
- We can all have a kid each so do our bit to continue the genetic lineages, but not increase the population. Let it settle to 3 billion in a hundred years time.Nairn
- Continuity0
Between Good Omens, The Expanse's next season, and the new Picard show, I'm going to have to sign up for Amazon Prime, on top of my Netflix subscription.
All these subscriptions really add up. Urgh.
- That said, my Adobe CC subscription is thanks to an agency that worked in two years ago, and has since closed up shop. Strangely, my sub still works.Continuity
- Do you even have Crave bro?ideaist
- No idea what that is.Continuity
- Sorry, https://www.crave.ca….
(Another of said subscriptions).
They add up to the price of cable. That is the goal of cable companies.ideaist - picard is on neither... no?hotroddy
- Re: Crave ... oh, good. All the re-runs of Corner Gas you can stomach, I'm sure.Continuity
- Re: Picard ... it's on Amazon Prime outside NA. Same sort of arrangement as Discovery with Netflix.Continuity
- Share and swap with friends. I pick up Netflix and get hbo and a Hulu in exchange. Haha.monospaced
- yeah..but it's tough finding a friend with CBS access for Picard.hotroddy
- then that's the one you pay for :)monospaced
- imbecile1
Just got home. Played with the dog a bit before i let him out the back door through a laundry room. Looking at the dryer as I was coming back in, I see bird shit. I think to myself "How did bird shit get on the dryer?" I wipe it up and throw away the rag. Behind me, in the laundry room, a bird starts bashing into the door to get out. "Uh, where the fuck did that come from?" I close the laundry room door, go around the house, and open the back door for the bird to fly out. Wednesday!
- fuken bird!pango
- A bird in the house... what des that means?Bennn
- bad omenfuturefood
- it means there was a bird in my house... that i let out.imbecile
- It could have come in through dryer vent.eryx
- Bennn-3
I saw one the SpaceX satellite in the sky the other night, they're VERY bright.
"SpaceX’s bright Starlink satellites are upsetting astronomers"
- No you didn't and no they're not 'VERY bright' - they're fucking tiny. You probably saw either the ISS or one of the remaining Iridium satellites.Nairn
- *One of the remaining 'original iridium satellites'
Having just checked, apparently their newer ones are also quite small. Not as small as Starlink though.Nairn - I saw the ISS multiple times, it was bigger and brighter than the ISS, never saw that before and I'm a sky watcherBennn
- If it was bigger and brighter than the ISS, it most certainly wasn't one of musk's new satellites.
ALIENS.Nairn
- notype-1
"If you don't have a black friend, you're the problem" - W. Sykes
- I don't have any black friends.
I try to limit the number of white friends I have too..Nairn - saying that you have a black friend, is also problematicGnash
- it's a schrodinger's racist situationGnash
- Friendship is a mutual thing, this quote is taking agency from black people. You can't buy friends like you used to buy slaves.
I'm #triggered.deadsperm - she's so annoyingmonospaced
- The basques we are a minority in minorities, I've got lots of basque friends, but any black friends... am I cured of racism now? Or need a black friend asap?OBBTKN
- There aren't that many black people in Vancouver tho... :[pango
- Necromotion doesn't live that far from me. Perhaps I might hunt him down and force my friendship on him.
Whether he wants it or not.Nairn - I think she's annoying too, but does have a point. You'd never brag or say I have black friends, bc it isn't foreign to you. Black ppl are everwhere :)notype
- Accidentally* watched a few parts of her recent standup. The race bits were funny- she did it well.notype
- watched a bit of it the other night with my wife... she was laughing her head off :) i thought it was pretty ok too.exador1
- ^ good to know it wasn’t just me. Honestly could not make it through the whole thing thoughnotype
- I guess she doesn't realize that there aren't black people everywhere or is she promoting the whole idea of the tokenism?zarkonite
- Some people won’t get the point of this very poignant quote.notype
- What is the point?deadsperm
- If this part of a joke it might be funny within the context of the joke but I don't see how this quote is valid although I get the intentions behind it.deadsperm
- I'm sure there are some racist people going out their way to exchange with black people, and even worse, becoming friends with them.deadsperm
- But white people can't force black people to be their friends, it doesn't only depend on white people.deadsperm
- You could even say that it doesn't depend on black either, that it's just the violence inherent in the system.deadsperm
- I don't think that there are black people lining wanting to become friends with white people which in turn are turning them down.deadsperm
- sounds like you need to host a dinner. but be warned, it "will be painful, uncomfortable, maddening, and upsetting"
https://race2dinner.…Gnash - "Click here to smash your white fragility"
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Gold!deadsperm - whoah Gnash! what is that... I have to look at that in the morning again w/ fresh eyes. Looks a bit worrisome.notype
- I don't have any black friends.
- Nairn0
There's a sudden strong stench of cat food in my studio here.
wtf?