blog
- Started
- Last post
- 75,590 Responses
- HijoDMaite0
my 15 y/o daughter wants a Nintendo Switch for Xmas. I'm saying hell no! the last thing we need in the house is dealing with more screen time. she will be over it in a month and no one else in the house is going to play it. hell to the no!!
- get it for her and make her happy!chukkaphob
- Sound good, after a month you get it!shapesalad
- shellie2
This weekend my mom reminded me that I don't have a bridge to my nose. It doesn't look like it, one might guess that I do, but my nose is totally squishy from the skull and is held up by tissue a little softer than cartilage. I found this out after a huge head injury as a kid that should have easily broken my nose and didn't (although i broke other things). Today, I can't stop touching my nose and moving it around It's totally bizarre. By my count, i easily should have broken my nose a handful of times by now.
- Gross lol. Now you have me touching my nose looking for squishy bits.futurefood
- attractive! That said I nearly cut my nose off on a step when I was a kid, I always run my finger across the scar!mugwart
- Nope mine is pretty solid.pango
- Bennn3
Just closed my LinkedIn account. I'm not looking for a job, why would I keep all my info on a website like that? Byebye LinkedIn
- Its handy when stuff opens up at my gig and I can check who's available. It works both ways.DRIFTMONKEY
- I use it to check on my neighborsdrgs
- so many random people asked me to connect, it was weird. Even some people from my work I never talked to.Bennn
- Our company has outsourced some functions to Poland (something with incoming invoices). I'm friends with all Polish girls working theredrgs
- Ben is such a rebelpango
- DRIFTMONKEY1
Hmmm, I just discovered something kinda neat.
Set your VPN to any foreign country, say Japan
Open Youtube incognito.
Youtube thinks you're in Japan and you'll get their front page.Works for every country I've tried so far. Apologies if this common knowledge for VPN folks. Pretty cool seeing what's popular around the world.
- gonna check it outmonospaced
- lol :D pro tip: you can get cheaper flight prices this way.sted
- YouTube does flights now?! ;)microkorg
- Any VPN's that are free? Might have to use it for flight bookingshapesalad
- I use one that's only about $50 a year and it's a gem.monospaced
- SteveJobs4
Sometimes I think I'm the only one who sorts all posts by 'Newest'.
All posts containing ^^^ are backwards for me
Also, when adding a post I don't it doesn't always take me to that entry on page reload. It takes me a page or two back or somewhere.. strange.
- I use newest - can't see why you wouldn'tFax_Benson
- It should be default.shapesalad
- newest alwaysmonospaced
- So you have to scroll down to see the context of everything? Why?i_monk
- Newest works if you're on QBN all day. You don't need to scroll down because you've already read all the old posts.soundofreason
- Oldest + dog ear OCDdrgs
- Oldest + dog ear OCDKrassy
- I'd rather be newest and scroll for context vs having to always go to the last page to see what bumped itmonospaced
- oldest / dogear here tooimbecile
- Oldest + occasional dogging here too.
.
I kind of wish there was an option to just jump to last page like on some other forumsNairn - You're not alonepango
- there is, Nairn. it's "newest" :)monospaced
- Oldest + dog ear OCDchukkaphob
- You need to be logged in for newest, I mean it will switch back to oldest once the system logged you out...SimonFFM
- Oldest + dog ear OCDDRIFTMONKEY
- Yeah but that's upside down, Mono. I mean right way up!Nairn
- or you can click the last page numbermonospaced
- drgs0
What the hell is Cyber Monday?
- https://i.imgur.com/…soundofreason
- It's right before Cyber Tuesday.nbq
- OBBTKN0
I'm wearing a green vest (new) while working and when I pass by the mirror I jump of a scare thinking there is an armed guy in our house...
- sarahfailin1
work bought me a new lenovo x1 yoga on cyber monday! new computer tiiiiiime!
- hans_glib1
we should just leave the 'newstoday' thread as a spam catch all and be done with it.
- NBQ000
Got my blood tests results and luckily all clean (incl. STI tests, all clean) and in good shape. It said I have above average testosterone levels. Which is a bit weird. I wonder why I'm not more muscular as higher testosterone should give me a bigger anabolic effect, especially when weight training.
- Hello receding hairline!Nairn
- No actually not at all. My hair is full and thick. No baldness at all.NBQ00
- Gotta eat lots more...robotron3k
- PonyBoy1
I have this contract that turned into a full-time gig about 6 months ago. The original contract didn't really change (no change in pay)... the only change is I have to be in-house a few days a week.
For years I've had this contract and pay. I'd work from home / on the road... whatever was necessary to get things done. Times are changing and the company is growing. They want someone in-house a few days.
About 3 months ago I alerted my 'old boss' (the person who originated the contract w/me before it was a 'job') and 'new boss' (a new partner) that I'd be heading out of town for two weeks. My 'old boss' was the only one to respond w/the standard 'as long as this, this and this are handled and you're available... no prob'.
Everyone in the office knew I was leaving... they even cracked jokes about me being gone 2 weeks etc (in front of the old and new boss). Old boss even had some shit to talk etc (point being: everyone knew I was heading out of town).
1st day out of town I get a call from the new boss: "Are you coming in some time today?"
Me: "huh? I'm out of town, dude... ummm... you knew this... you approved it w/the other boss etc??"
Him: "umm... I'll get back to you"*sigh
So... my entire trip was just about done (I had 1 day left on a 2 week trip) and the 'new boss' hits me up and asks "So is this one week paid and one week not paid?"
:/
I really didn't know how to respond. In my mind this was approved paid time off where I was still actually STILL working (I worked nearly everyday of the trip).
Anyway... new boss leaves me a text and says he decided for this pay period he'd pay me for one week paid and one week not paid. ONE DAY LEFT ON MY TRIP and literally one day left before getting paid for that period and he tells me he's cutting my money in half.
So I go to my 'old boss' and tell him how I'm getting fucked.. how time was approved... how for years I've always worked on the road etc. (Mind you... my gig is now full-time but there is no 'new' money / raise / bonus for coming on board... no paperwork or contract update... just a NEW PARTNER in the mix). The old boss says "That's why I brought this guy on board... to handle this stuff... you'll need to take it up w/him." So basically he left me hanging. The new boss doesn't want to pay for the 2 weeks off (and he didn't... the pay period came and went and now my account is overdrawn I had no choice but to let the bank handle some payments I couldn't miss so I'll pay the overdraft fees).
I'm beyond pissed... but I have no clue how to handle this w/out the help of the other boss. The new guy is just doing as he sees fit and pretty much told it is what it is... :(
- this is classic contract-creep. that slow, organic change in a work relationship. sucks dude.Gnash
- The only way to avoid this is to have really clearly defined boundaries and call them out as they happen.Gnash
- this is the downside to being conscientious and having an agreeable nature.Gnash
- If Old Boss is still A Boss and he OK'd it, then you should forward that confirmation to New Boss and let them duke it out. Sounds like their fuck-up.Nairn
- take this note you made and edit it for clarity and send it to the new guy. you need to define the boundaries...Gnash
- old boss is letting the new boss save moneyimbecile
- ... because un-checked, they will always morph to the favour of the disagreeable one in the relationshipGnash
- Sorry to hear. Are you living from paycheck to paycheck?NBQ00
- not usually, NBQ...it's just having a check cut in half unexpectedly right when I just poured a bunch of money into a 2 week trip kinda stingsPonyBoy
- The fabric is destroyed, the new boss wants to get his peeps in there, time to move on...robotron3k
- The old boss also basically said fuck youcannonball1978
- looks like they dont care if you get things done outside or not. they want that you stay inhouse and take away your freedom, for the same pay...api
- this could be a good starting point for a pay-rise! in exchange for your freedom. if you dont want to give up your freedom, find out the real reason why they.>>api
- want you inhouse. (control?, performance? or what ever...) then try to take away their frears with good arguments. (>creative outside, less pay, etc..)api
- Time to renegotiate. That's no way to do business if you had an agreement.monNom
- Fuck that. You were doing work on holiday and they still found something to moan about to not pay you?PhanLo
- he fucked you. renegotiate or leave.
next time they dump new people over your head make sure you know what to expect while laughing on their jokes...sted - waitwaitwait, I missed the bit you were working WHILST on leave? Fuck. Them.
Out of order. Stand up and don't take that shit.Nairn - Do you have anything in writing?mugwart
- Pony are you actively seeking new employment?robotron3k
- mug... the agreement about the paid time off was in writing (an email to both partners 2+ months old). Robo... kinda am now :PPonyBoy
- BabySnakes0
While on the phone with a new potential freelance gig. Talking about my availability and i was telling them that i could start working soon because i had nothing in the schedule. I get a text during the call from other gig asking about my availability....which they haven't had work for me for the past month...
Feel like they have my phone tapped. This isn't the first time this has happened with them....just weird haha.
- i swear to god dont hear from some old clients for fucking YEARS and I take a week off from my now full time job and ill get 3 emails with shit that needs to..mantrakid
- ..be taken care of the first day im off & supposed to be 'chilling'. So fucking weird.mantrakid
- Just little mini wordpress updates so happy to help for a couple extra bucks, but yeah. YEARS... then as soon as i have a minute...mantrakid
- mugwart3
I'm really struggling to get back on my feet from this batch of depression. Its been 3 weeks since I was 'taken' down and I'm rested but not better.
I'm fairly proud and always work to a mission on my goals. I'm nearly finished writing my book but really unable to focus, I can't go to sleep nor can I wake up, it takes me 3 hours most days to get out of bed and to make a tea longer ... I'm British so imagination the fear I have.
The control the mind has is incredible and yet terrifying. I literary start to cry for no reason, not one prone to outbursts either. I try to move but can not. I'm unable to close this fucking laptop down either, tried for 3 hours. I'm terrified for my job living in London is rough as fuck. I need a new job but dont know what.
If I'm able to get out of the flat, I find myself in a coffee shop writing my book and I'm have a deep sense of peace and calm then panic sinks in as I can not live from this for a long time and several miracles happen.
Has anyone ever come back from this? Bit bleak but when these panic attacks hit I really do understand why people end up ending themselves. I tell myself if I'm to do that I can put the kettle on and if I can put the kettle on I can get through the day but fuck a duck its hard.
My diet is good and I am unable to do any exercise - I'm well aware of the benefits. I have a phone call with therapy tomorrow - so I hope the NHS can help this out relatively fast. Any tips?
- I know it's not your thing but perhaps you should consider some meds to get you out of this holeGnash
- I know it sounds weird, but check this recent stream by Limmy, gets into quite a bit of what you've mentioned https://www.youtube.…PhanLo
- Thanks, tried to watch it but finding him hard to engage with. Appreciate this thoughmugwart
- You need a partner...Hayoth
- he has a partner...pango
- come play chess with me. it will make you feel good winning.pango
- Some days, you just have to do the kettle thing for everything. Shower, coffee, go for a walk/gym, etc.sseo
- One step at a time, you got this.sseo
- <3 As you know ive been feeling preeeeetty dark too. Huge love man, i know sleep would help but here I am.. midnight and counting..mantrakid
- Lisbon. I didn't feel depressed once while living there for 1 year. Two weeks back in London and I was feeling really down.shapesalad
- I lived super cheap there, didn't have a luxurious lifestyle. The combination of good local food products, sun and exercise from waking up down the hillsshapesalad
- And the feeling that the city had a edge, that you go to the rive and see space, a view - all really helped. London makes me feel trapped, there's no end to it.shapesalad
- Fuck 'exercise' - when was the last time you had a long walk?Nairn
- How do you feel you are helping here, Shapesalad? We get it, you don't like LDN and wish you were back in Lisbon.Nairn
- It's a silly thing - but have you done any bus routes, end to end and back? With absolutely no purpose other than to see the world go by?Nairn
- I find stupid shit like that recontextualises and reframes my situation; gets me out of my rut - be it work, house or brain - without a cliff face of 'effort'Nairn
- Well.. just pointing out, sometimes a change of scenery, seeing life can be different, helps? Not sure. Anyway, rooms if you need https://nomadx.comshapesalad
- wow thanks all. I get what shape is saying. My fiance and I are thinking of leaving town. Just a lot of planning. Got to get my kid legally with me full timemugwart
- pango - hell yeah I'll be there.
I do have a partner and to be honest I would't be here with out her love and help.
I want to change carrear but scary to thinkmugwart - starting a new place when I'm so downmugwart
- https://inakanoseika…
Was just given this. rural Japanese houses cheapmugwart - damn walking distance to hiroshima ground zero for free....ArchitectofFate
- otherwise move to sweden, where everyone is more or less depressed ;D https://tinyurl.com/… cheeeapArchitectofFate
- It's a life phase. Your inner-self is unhappy and wants something and you need to figure out what it is. Go through it and you'll find happiness.SteveJobs
- keep sharing. Keeping it all to yourself is part of the depression that helps to keep it alive. Thats my biggest problem. I rarely share what im going through.shellie
- Thanks all. Your write Steve, probelm is I know what to do - just able to do it yet.
@architect - any relationships to RedIce? Your name + swedian made me thinkmugwart - ಠ_ಠ Hurry up and accept the challenge already! You are leaving me hanging!pango
- Accepted it already! Wake your sorry arse up already!mugwart
- Hey Mugwart, didnt read all these notes and see you are maybe climbing our. Anyhow I have hit rock bottom multiple times since my kids Cerebral Palsy diagnosisDarkCover
- Happy to listen and talk about how ive been working through it all. This generic gmail will get to me if interested. jobsfr33lance@gmail...DarkCover
- i_monk1
Watching Dune for the first time.
It's terrible.
That is all.
- haha, noooo!
You might want to dv here, then :)
https://www.qbn.com/…Nairn - Say what.... It's amazingmugwart
- it is utter shit, but also quite wonderfulhans_glib
- your first encounter with Dune should be the book, not the moviemonospaced
- I'm not sure that was in any way broached here.Nairn
- < def not the kwisatz haderach!GM278
- I've read the book a half-dozen times.i_monk
- it's got it's flaws, for sure...but I still enjoy it for the fun of it... the book is fantastic though...exador1
- it's sooooo depressingprophetone
- Hell no, film then book.the only time I. History for this. Enjoy the WTF and the lynch. Then read about the filming hell and forgive it (if need)mugwart
- then read the book afterwards.
Otherway around you'll just be pissed off.
book is one best ever writtenmugwart - Well, since you read the book several times, you earned the right to call the film terrible. It truly is.monospaced
- haha, noooo!
- OBBTKN6
The first time I say no to a gig after talking by phone with a client, probably I'm saying no to lots of work, but, I know I've done the right thing.
Like Spiekerman said, don't work with assholes, don't work for assholes
- Fax_Benson-2
Why are all the American movie stars doing shit adverts for TV in the UK?
How much can they be getting paid? Just read that De Niro was in Halifax doing one for Warburtons bread.
I know De Niro's been on a mission to destroy his legacy for a while now but Harvey Keitel? I used to see him and think of Bad Lieutenant and Mean Streets.
- Short gig. Quick money.pango
- https://www.youtube.…soundofreason
- they're all getting divorcedGnash
- https://www.mensjour…Nairn
- Didn't realise Warburtons already had Stallone. Bizarre.Fax_Benson
- https://www.youtube.…Gnash
- Whisky / coffee kind of fits their profiles and doesn't mess with their back catalogs. Murdering one of your iconic roles for a UK car insurance firmFax_Benson
- Lost in Translation style.monospaced
- Fewer roles as you age out.i_monk
- De Niro has been doing a UK tour along the lines of "Dinner with De Niro" in an aircraft hanger size building at £££ per ticket. It made me do a little sick.fadein11
- hangar*fadein11
- good for him, if people are prepared to pony up.hans_glib
- hey, if he plays his cards right, he might get a spot on a television series, the natural next step after retail advertisements for washed up actorsmonospaced
- Must have pissed all their money away on blow and hookersTurboslacker
- US actors taking big money to do overseas commercials is absolutely nothing newimbecile
- Fax_Benson0
the movie stars flogging banal products chat reminded me of this
- PonyBoy0
a follow-up to my post yesterday...
So... the overdraft fees were enough for me to write and send the below to the 'new partner'. Granted, it's a little redundant and emotional but it's fact-based. I had no choice but to involve the other partner that ignored me / told me to pursue w/his new partner as I'm sure the below still won't be enough.
I swear I've never had a contract or employer cut my pay the day before it was due because they simply felt like it (or forgot about previous arrangements). My gut tells me I'm a bit too emotional right now but given my bank account is overdrawn (I can't even fucking uber over to my doctor appointment today... stupid me forgot to drive my wife to work so I could do that) I 'feel' like not really giving a fuck and just demanding what was / is mine be given to me...
... I could be fired today, guys!! wheee!! :P
"I am currently overdrawn in my bank account. I am getting hit with a number of $35 fees to cover the smallest most minute things. I would not be in this position if you did not dock my pay one day before the end of my agreed to paid vacation. Yesterday you and I had a chance to discuss... I think I was able to show you how I work around the clock and I’m always working and given the way my projects are set up that I am forced to constantly work harder because I am always being asked to put the 'cart before the horse'. I worked the entire trip I was gone for that two weeks. I was Johnny-on-the-spot when someone needed me to be... And of course I also worked on my normal projects.
What is really frustrating is that you docked me half my pay ONE DAY before I was supposed to get paid... We never discussed any of that (I was under the impression I was on a paid vacation) and now I am in a tough position financially.
The day you texted me and told me you were going to only pay me half you asked me to give you a call if that was a problem. I needed three hours to think about it and then I gave you a call and asked you to do it in quarters so that I didn’t feel it as hard as I am feeling it now. You told me you could not do it in quarters that you had already put the payment through. You only gave me three hours to think that day... And then you cut my pay half.... I really feel like you kind of screwed me here, (guy who stole my money). Again, I was expecting a full paid vacation. You decided to change that one day before the end of the pay period. Nobody has ever done anything like that to me and I’m still confused given the fact I worked on that entire trip like I always do. I need something to help get me out of this financial hole... Getting paid on the 1st which is tomorrow will barely give me a few dollars as my rent is due on the 1st. I need you and (other partner's name) to help me with these overdraft issues or perhaps just give me my full pay for the last pay period and I will handle the overdraft myself as I deserve that full pay."
I honestly should demand the full pay AND that he pay my fucking overdraft fees too... anyway... today sucks... hate this shit... carry on. :)
- ...I really feel like you kind of screwed me here, (guy who stole my money). Again, ...
this is where it gets unnecessarily emotional, not need for that part.sted - I totally agree with the rest, its clean and dead simple: your work has to get paid.
good lucksted - ha... yeah.. I know, man. I regret leaving that in there. :/ I've been shaking in anger all morning (after seeing my account)... I usually leave that shit out.PonyBoy
- I don't think that's OTT - sometimes people don't get it until you spell it out for them.Fax_Benson
- Agreed this is tough. But you have to take responsibility for your situation also. Blaming others relinquishes your power to them.robthelad
- Sounds like you've got some bad financial mngmtHayoth
- ...I really feel like you kind of screwed me here, (guy who stole my money). Again, ...
- hotroddy0
Safari is becoming the new IE6. UGH!
- Yeah, I only use it to see what breaks in LPs and email.DRIFTMONKEY
- Innovation!utopian
- it's always been a terrible browser.fadein11
- not when they were first to adopt html5 standards and webkit back in the day.hotroddy
- Ianbolton2
My mate constantly posts things about climate change and the fact we're making animals (and ourselves) extinct, hopefully and eventually wiping humans out of existence. I don't like this apocalyptic thought process that people go through, ignoring human ingenuity and the beautiful creativity we find ourselves involved in. We always fuck stuff up, but we always find a way.
Or should I be way more pessimistic?!
- Humans will prevail in the harshest conditions: https://i.imgur.com/…
At least those that can afford it.soundofreason - You should be way more pessimistic, yes, but in the meantime, make sure he eats his own gruel - no hot showers, no flights or car journeys, no meat, no nutin'Nairn
- @Nairn
I thoughts you was against no nutting:
https://www.qbn.com/…soundofreason - #holdyourloadsoundofreason
- is your friend a puritan?OBBTKN
- Slightly contradictory more than anything. Like, why have a child and use mobile phones if you're so damning of humans roaming this planet?Ianbolton
- to be fair we are only are creative and genius when we have a hot rod stuck up our arsesmugwart
- I'l have to try that one when I'm lacking inspiration. Cheers MugsIanbolton
- Humans will prevail in the harshest conditions: https://i.imgur.com/…