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- detritus1
*wonders about hombre_lobo
- formed2
45 (yeah, been here since before it was Newstoday, and one before that, too, I think, but it's all foggy now)
Have had my own company for about 15 years now. It's both far exceeded my expectations and disappointed/frustrated me. Overall, though, I love it and thoroughly enjoy being able to justify purchasing new toys like cameras and drones :-)
Second career after two degrees in architecture. To the OP, I wasn't out of grad school at your age. You literally have a lifetime ahead of you. Choose wisely, but always be aware there will always be another fork in the road and another choice.
- ESKEMA3
35 next month, living in Lisbon for the past 11 years working as a multidisciplinary designer, more web design / development in recent years. I'm at a forking road now, preparing myself to go full-time freelance.
- Longcopylover3
37 today, CD at one of the biggest ad agencies in Switzerland. And since I started 10 years ago I am looking for a plan b. Have still not found anything better than working long hours with funny people around me. (But still looking for that plan b...)
- taco truck ;)monospaced
- Haha, thanks. I will keep that in mind.Longcopylover
- BusterBoy10
Tool old. Bored shitless. My problem is always looking for the next 'big thing'. Came super close about 10 years ago to making an absolute fortune but alas it didn't pan out. Have since had my head in the frikkin clouds rather than looking after the day to day stuff.
Have a great family...but haven't been truly happy for many years.
- Christ, this is brutally honest.
Well done!
xdetritus - nice one dude..sureshot
- woah man, visceral if trueOBBTKN
- lovely honest answer - hope you find the happy place.fadein11
- sounds about right, minus the family.Fax_Benson
- Watch Sagmeister "The Happy Film"...canoe
- Time to move?canoe
- What can we do to help?Hayoth
- Jesus dude. This speaks to me. It's as if I had written it myself. Thank you for your honesty man.kona
- Having that level of self awareness is s huge asset. Age is not a factor in your happiness and what might have been shouldn't be either. Best of luck.CyBrainX
- Kinda feel the same way. I dunno where or when my life got fucking derailed.sureshot
- Ugh ... without the whole family thing, I'm exactly in this place, too. And it isn't fun.Continuity
- Just have to plough on. Think if I went back to a 9 to 5 job, I'd think my whole life was a waste. I do have hope...BusterBoy
- ...but at times it can really put a strain on the present. My wife continually tells me to live in the real world. I don't want to...and it drives her nuts.BusterBoy
- I really envy people who are truly happy. Last time I remember being TRULY happy with everything in my life was 1995. :(BusterBoy
- Man, I am feeling you. Try refocusing your thoughts once or twice a day. My personal mantra these days is "Focus at the task at hand". Best of luck!riskunlogic
- Christ, this is brutally honest.
- laurus0
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- maquito1
35, Montevideo, Uruguay. 7+ years AD for Healthcare Communications Agency, comfy but kind of bored. Literally at the crossroads between having kids or moving to another country for some years. Part time drummer for 2 bands.
- Bluejam6
44.
Living in Hackney, London.
Family man and enjoying the best project of my life - bringing up my two sons. Everything else is small change.
- OBBTKN6
45, Basque Country, 2 years in solo mode after more than 20 years in 4 diff. companies (13 years in my last fulltime job), crashed and recovered at least 3 times.
Exhausted in this overworking mad year (would love to be exhausted for riding my bike :(), but with great projects on sight.
Love doing illus, but web and developing work pay the bills. No debts, whereby, when i turn off my computers, i can focus on my loved wife and daugthers.
I realy love cooking for family and friends, and would love to open a small restaurant with my wife, but i am not rich enough.
Simply i try to enjoy life with my loved ones.
No retirement in mind...
- lmao, too much love mate!OBBTKN
- nope nice.
another non ego on here :)fadein11 - If you love cooking don't open a restaurant, start hosting dinner parties. Running a restaurant is mostly about management, not making food.zarkonite
- @zark, We do it for friends... at least, once a month we cook in our garden for them, 20ish people, love it, lol!OBBTKN
- Awesome man, isn't cooking for others the best thing in the world? It's definitely my favourite hobby.zarkonite
- GM2782
43, Austin, TX. Moved here 3 years ago after spending my entire life in the NYC rat race. I'm still an art director although my current company is nowhere near as creative as the one I left in NYC.
There's no city or state tax here so my paycheck goes way further. (You get way more for your money here also) I race motorcycles on a national level so while the job isn't as fulfilling as some of my previous roles, my current situation does facilitate my lifestyle much more.
I do wonder if that's my way of placating the hunger for more challenging work. I suppose everything is a trade-off but at the end of the day I'm far happier than I was in NYC.
- mugwart20
Had some shit innings. Terrible parents fucked up my youth and mindset - this lead into me marrying young to a abusive drunken wife.
Adding to this my dream (a script writer) was stolen from me and made into major films. Felt that I had many 'invisible' doors shut off to me but I manged to survive in VFX.Skint, and a life of poverty led me deep into depression. Not had a holiday for like 5-6 years.
35 in a few months, now divorced and trying to retake hold of my life. Things are coming along really well. Depression leaving me and I have an incredible GF and 8 year old son. Managing to save each month now.
I'm still in film but not exactly where I wanted to be but still 'on' that but in an cool department. Trying to take a holiday to Berlin for my birthday.Working tirelessly to create a new writing app that will hopefully revolutionise writing and hopefully allow me make some money so I can take some serious time off to finish my book.
Determined to make the remainder of my life positive and my son as safe from toxic people as possible.
- Ooh, I'd love to know what idea was stolen*, but more importantly - when's your writing app going to be released? What sort of writing - screen/plays, novels?detritus
- * and I fully expect you not to answer that particular question :)detritus
- I've been there man. Abusive parents, ex wife was a sociopath. I know it sounds cheesy but PMA. You seem like you're focusing on the positivesGM278
- and heading in the right direction. Don't ever let the negative people in your life win and certainly don't become the trashcan for their emotional bullshit.GM278
- Sounds like you're coming out the other end better and wiser :)set
- Is that why you're an vegan? Lol I'll stop now.
Ya I know how it feels when your idea was used by someone else. It's even worse when she's hot :/pango - And then she won something for it... god damn it!pango
- wow upvotes! name of film, shouldn't say as its almost impossible to prove, it best I dont mention. I have meet others whom have experienced this - its commonmugwart
- To the app - I'm on the final major development task but its rebuilding a text undo system so fucking major.
Had to learn c++ to do this so taken over a year.mugwart - GM278 - whats PMA?
yeah toxic people fuck your shit right up.mugwart - pango - sort of! In curing myself i ended up vegan (and t total!). Ex wife was pretty but my new gf is heavens sent (and fucking hot!)mugwart
- PMA - Positive Mental AttitudeGM278
- Ta!mugwart
- Congrats on your divorce. Divorce is forever, marriage is not. - Louis CKnthkl
- Dear Mugs: You've always impressed me with your kindness and talent. I think you're doing pretty well.garbage
- one of the nicest cunts on qbn.inteliboy
- there you have it -- a movie about your own life.
11 oscarsdrgs - It sounds like none of this is your fault at AT ALL.robthelad
- @robthelad - this is what terrifies me. surrounded by extreme narcissism I panic I'm one and the 'victim' is my mask.mugwart
- @drugs - but I'll still suck at chess!mugwart
- @garbage, inteliboy - don't worry I'm still a cunt!mugwart
- Some roads are smooth, some are rough, trick is to stay on the road until you get to a nice place. Peace brah :)mrAtor
- Hey @mug - Try not to worry, to know one's fears is the first step to overcoming them :)robthelad
- studderine1
School --> Graduate --> Move to Chicago --> Work --> Laid off --> Move back to Phoenix --> Fuck around --> Get another job --> Move to San Diego --> Work a lot --> Freelance --> I dunno?!
- err3
38 I have no clue what Im doing. HALP!
- CyBrainX4
54. Do I get a prize?
I have a great job in NYC that I never expected to love this much but I'm quite sure it's coming to an end. There have been some weird layoffs including my CD and I'm not working on anything right now. I had a bit of a bad spell with the girlfriend and one day last week I thought I was going to lose her and my job at the same time. The girl and I are in a pretty good spot after some talking. That's way more important. I've had the best year or two in my life recently but I've been very afraid that it's all going to come crashing down.
- riskunlogic6
36, married, three kids.
Worked my self from junior to senior to creative director. Got bored by the industry. Worked in three startups. They all failed.Founded my own startup with three cofounders seven years ago. We raised 4,5 mil had some success which poisoned the egos of two of my younger cofounders. Betrayal. Lies. Fights. Anger.
Exited last month with one of the cofounders. Started a digital consultancy. Hating corporate clients. Depression. Losing my mind and soul.
Searching for a whole new thing now. Miss being with my family. I n e e d something new. Want to start anew but got too dependent on cash flow. In search of wisdom, mentorship and advice.
Still love this place.
- That was intense. I wish I was more entrepreneurial. Best of luck.CyBrainX
- Cash is the killer. Its hard to step back once you are used to a standard of living.thumb_screws
- Thank you guys!riskunlogic
- rson3
41 -
Quit agency world I have been running an agency out of Chicago for two years now.
- fisheye1
41 senior AD, 17 years in advertising in Slovenia. 4th agency I am working at.
Have to moove to another agency, another city. Current agency is falling apart. Imbecile owner put it all on one "big" client. Stupid af. I am tired of moving. Two years ago I thougt this one is going to be 5-6 years. My girlfriend and I rented a house and we are working on having a kid. I'm so tired of moving.
- Bennn2
38
having the same job since 16 years. Its not in my field but I like it. I'm working for teevee and i'm in charge of the large printing shop... i print posters and banners and accessories for shows. I dont create anything. To fill my creative side i do lots of personal creation and do some freelancing at home.But since a few years now i feel less and less creative, i dont have that urge to create as much as before. I mostly do photography now. I barely make 1 illustration a year... and I dont have as much fun as before creating personal graphic design pieces.
My problem is that i'm super lazy and never really become good at anything, i'm a ok graphic designer, ok illustrator, ok photographer, ok everything... i didnt put all my energy on one thing and ended up doing a lilttle of everything and never became really good at something.
Lots of thing are moving and changing at work and i may face a big change in the next 3 years... I have no idea what the future will look like. I have zero idea what i would do if i lost the job i have at the moment.
Time passing by and getting older is one the thing I hate most. I'm a guy always living in the past and future and never really enjoy the present moment.
And something I always kept for me in here cuz I was afraid of mockery and trolls, but fuck it i'll tell you now, I have strong social anxiety that fucked up my teenage years and my 20's. And that condition made me drop lots of opportunities in the past. I did a therapy and its way way better now tho, its day and night compared to the past, but its still there.
I dont have any children and i dont want any, but somtimes i wonder if i make the right choice on this. I have the same gf since almost 8 years now, i'm not 100% happy on that side too.
Thats where i am.
Deep discussion in here sometimes whoa! :P I guess all QBNers getting older make us more open to talk about this. It would have been impossible a few years ago.
- appreciate that Benn - it's pretty much my story and I know how weird it is even to write about SA in public. Daft, eh?Fax_Benson
- thanks fax!Bennn
- Should have said how weird it feels rather than how weird it is.Fax_Benson
- I really feel that "I'm a guy always living in the past and future and never really enjoy the present moment." part.Longcopylover
- I want to change that for years, but can't. If you have to solution, please tell me. :)Longcopylover
- i will :)Bennn
- Get still.bklyndroobeki
- Fax_Benson7
+1 this thread and everyone in it.
- bliznutty12
Just turned 40 years old
At this point I've become pretty good at running my life and am truly living out my dreams. I grew up and spent my 20's in New Orleans partying my ass off. I spent half of my 30's living in Vail,CO snowboarding, mountain/dirt biking, camping and living the mountain life - the other half in Denver building out my tech career and meeting tons of new friends. The past couple years I've been totally involved in the burning man scene. I have a huge krewe of amazing friends and we call ourselves the Wizards. I recently built and now lead a Burning Man camp that is very successful. www.wizardscamp.org. I just bought a vintage camper for hauling the camp and running around to festivals throughout the year - am very excited to be going to Oregon Eclipse fest soon. I'm also vegan, healthy, and happy. I am a professional work-from-home software engineer with a solid career. I play drum and love to craft (& sew) clothes & such. I have a beautiful little 18mo old chocolate lab. I have an amazing family that I see very often. I'm very motivated and just super positive in general about everything. All I know is I have a wonderful life and work hard everyday to make it that way. The future is very bright!
- -1, -1,- 1! How dare you be positive?!
:)detritus - ANOTHER VEGAN!!! ;-)
your life sounds amazing. Love to make it out to burning man. Im curious about clothes making - do you have any examples?mugwart - i don't have examples i just like to get into dressing up and do a lot of crafting and/or minor sewing of outfits. i did sew the 25ft tall Wizard Hat tent ;)bliznutty
- my bff k-rad is professional af and makes a lot of clothes for me. https://www.etsy.com…bliznutty
- cool to the tent! hope it was hand stitched!!
nice accessories - but are they vegan ;-)mugwart - was joking btw! I wear leather boots to remind myselfmugwart
- she's not vegan. lol. she taught me to sew. not hand stitched at all! each seam is double stitched the right way and i used a 1953 all-metal commercial machinebliznutty
- ^ cool. Keep us updated sounds amazingmugwart
- -1, -1,- 1! How dare you be positive?!