Signs your getting old?
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- bainbridge0
My doctor has visible tattoos.
- bainbridge0
Lately, I’ve been thinking about how often casual conversations on social media end with vague gestures toward connection — “Let’s get a drink soon,” or “We should all meet up.” There’s a moment of warmth, a flash of intention, but it rarely becomes a real plan. Sometimes I’ll suggest a day, and they’ll say they’re out of town or busy, and then the thread goes quiet.
It makes me wonder... are we all just stretched too thin, or is something else going on? Do we crave the idea of connection more than the reality of it? Maybe saying “let’s hang out” is more about signaling care than actually scheduling time. But then, why do I feel a small ache when nothing comes of it? Why do I still get that feeling that I'm missing out, even when I know it wasn’t a firm invitation?
I’m not upset—just genuinely curious. What keeps us from following through on the things we say we want? And what does it say about how we relate to each other now?
- it was my 50th recently, i had no intention of doing anything until 3 days before the day i said, sod it, and created a whatsapp group for the first time ever.._me_
- ... and said ill be here from 2pm till 8pm [ or later ] - come if you want, bring your kids if you want..._me_
- throughout the day i had the pleasure of seeing everyone, if only for 5 minutes in some cases... others were there way too long.. but it made it easy._me_
- immediacy is good, otherwise it becomes sometime never..._me_
- Honestly, it's just laziness, that, and staying home taking a nap instead of hanging out with a bunch of old fogies wins hands down ;)OBBTKN
- Next week is my birthday, I love it, but this year I hardly feel like celebrating with my friends...OBBTKN
- Over time, we all become insufferable old grouches.OBBTKN
- "Do we crave the idea of connection more than the reality of it?" Some people, yes. Suggesting a meetup with no sincere intentions is a dick move.CyBrainX
- I have a friend that is always busy with life events. One day he finally said, I just need to pick a date to get together. Now we meet up and watch crappy...lemmy_k
- movies every few weeks. I invite others, but most don't make it. We make time for what is truly important to us.lemmy_k
- bezoar1
Fucking shit. The worst symptoms of achilles tendinitis after playing pickleball last fucking week. Both of dem shits. Ibuprofen, ice. Insoles are a constant. Grew up too ashamed to ask my parents for comfortable shoes and later too cheap to buy for myself. Lots of sports to wear down my high-arched feet. Your shit is fucked old fogey.
Another round of dental work, that's always a hoot. Lot-O-Crowns. Soon I'll have to some cadaver bone inserted my maxilla to address some root canal shit from 30 years ago. More nightmare fuel and take my money.
My son is 13 and I'm finding it hard to get the laughs I used to get back in the day. This one hurts more than the feet and teeth.
Shits been falling apart.
The price of car batteries have increased considerably. Sweet.
- Fun everywhere, eh?
Cheer up!!OBBTKN - I can relate to dental issues. I had $5K for periodontal work last year. They needed to put collogen in my gums to counteract receding gums. I should be ok now.CyBrainX
- Get the laser rejuvenation treatment for gums. Works like a charm had it done last time and it fucking workscannonball1978
- Fun everywhere, eh?
- cherub0
maquito said moshpit and I felt old. Like my rib started hurting just thinking about it.
- Longcopylover5
Youtube Shorts.
I just don't like them and don't click them. Because they are mostly shaky rubbish clips.I don't get it why YT wants me to watch them even on my laptop.
- Morning_star1
Re: Cherub's mosh-pit post.
I saw Rival Schools in Manchester last Friday and there was a time I’d leave a gig with bleeding ears, broken limbs and missing items of clothing. Drenched head to toe in sweat and smeared with the grime of a hundred years of spilled drinks, dusty goths, grubby punks and a million cigarettes. And It was fucking glorious.
The soothing cool night air would calm our exuberance as we left the venue with new friends and old and those over-confident fuckers we’d just hoisted clear from certain mosh-pit death. And it was damn glorious.
We’d exchange phone numbers - old school style, you know, engraved with biro across our hands and we’d pray the ink lasted until we got home. We’d share a moist, flat joint someone had fished out of their sock and we’d devour huge bags of big, fat chips and garlic mayo like so many seagulls. We arrived as individuals but left as part of a fleeting tribe. We were always glorious.
As we entered the venue, you could feel the promise of that glory amongst the greying, shiny pates and claustrophobic volume of middle aged spread. An ocean of Patagonia, Arc’teryx and Fjällräven had replaced the 90s standards of Vans, Dickies and Carhartt (what goes around comes around) and on queue, an aural manifestation of my thoughts wafted into my lugs “Did you just spill your fucking Timothy Taylor’s on my ’teryx you cunt, cost me nearly £700”. Scraping together the change for a pack of ten B&H and the gauntlet run that was the night-bus was not on this crowd’s agenda. Neither was participating in the gig. It was sterile and safe and the glory had gone.- So the crowd was lame, but how were Rival Schools? I dig themstoplying
- They were great . Walter was his happy bouncy self. Lots of energy, played everything you'd want them to, but a show like that is improved so much if that...Morning_star
- ...is mirrored by the crowd.Morning_star
- I saw him with Quicksand about 12 years ago in a really small, uncrowded venue. To your point, was great to see them but a rawkus crowd would've enhanced itstoplying
- Akagiyama2
Was supposed to go to EDC last year with one of my best friends, but he got sick and passed away.
Went this year for his memory, and to finally cross it off my bucket list.
Day 1: Felt so old and out of place, but warmed up to it and had a good time. Really enjoyed Alok, Alesso and Dom Dolla as I parked myself at Kinetic Field. Didn't explore much.
Day 2: Still felt "I'm too old for this!" but knew what to expect, and had an even better time. Explored WAY more.
Day 3: Took a friend/co-worker and took a 15mg rosin belt (5mg edibles are usually more than enough), had even more fun, saw more acts, but by day three my 51 year old fat ass was like "OK, I'm done".
Said to myself yesterday that it was great, but I won't go back, but today I signed up to get a notification when next years tickets go on sale. So, signs I'm getting old, but not dead yet? Anyway...
- I never heard of EDC or any of these musiciansbainbridge
- This is real? Looks like a scene from Zoolander: https://www.youtube.…bainbridge
- It's pretty surreal being in the middle of it. The drone lighting was pretty awesome.
https://www.youtube.…Akagiyama - is that you at 33:30?Krassy
- I went to the first couple EDCs ever.monospaced
- I've been into the music forever, but only started going to shows a few years ago. A big part of that was having the wisdom to not give a fuck anymore.noneck
- So now my wife and I go to shows all the time. We're older than average but don't give a fuck anymore. We go, dance, and have fun.noneck
- Congrats! Go find more shows to see.noneck
- prophetone6
Star Wars: The Empire Strikes Back was released on May 21, 1980... 45 years ago
- I was in the theater for that. It also was my first day of employment. My first job was at Burger King.CyBrainX
- mort_0
- adios Grandpaautoflavour
- NYCAQUTE
- Feel free to do that to mine. And yes, make it in NYC.CyBrainX
- cannonball19782
I randomly got pneumonia the other day and my blood pressure shot up to 160/100.
It's gone down since... just under hypertension levels but still higher than I'd like.
I've since changed my diet by eliminating sodium and cooking oils as much as possible and going for walks. Seems to be helping.
- jonny_quest_lives4
I now need computer glasses and a daily pair of progressive lenses for when I am not in front of the computer...
Thoughts so far...
It feels like progressive lenses are some sort of scam by the optometry cartels to just sell bad quality lenses. They just make me feel like I am going blind when my line of sight falls out of the focus zones.
Probably need that 80s glasses strap too because I keep resting my new glasses on my head forgetting about them then bending over to grab something only to have the glasses fall off my head.
Instagram hotties are much sharper now though...
- i recently stared wearing glasses for close up stuff and now have a pair in every single situation I need them, because of course, they're never to hand if not.Nairn
- I have 3 pairs I swap around throughout the day depending on what I'm doing (from being in front of a screen to driving)... not a pair less than $650 :/PonyBoy
- Yes, progressive lenses are a scam.
Stick it to da man.palimpsest - ^ It's time to bring Big Optometry down.Continuity
- I didn't even know we carried this brand of stupidpalimpsest
- It doesn't go out of stock.Continuity
- Sigh. I mean ... honestly.
https://www.eyeandhe…Continuity - "Get in the habit of moving your whole head, especially when looking through your far and mid-range prescriptions."Continuity
- The More You Motherfucking Know.palimpsest
- https://i.imgur.com/…
https://i.imgflip.co…jonny_quest_lives - this is the unfortunate reality... the distortion zone is a lot worse once you own a pair...
https://i.imgur.com/…jonny_quest_lives - my first time getting glasses... optometrist recommends progressives for everyday use. maybe should have asked questionsjonny_quest_lives
- but the optometrist never mentions distortion zones when she pitched them... you unfortunately learn about the zones when your glasses arrivejonny_quest_lives
- and the assistant is fitting them attempting to to sugarcoat my dissatisfaction by telling me "they take some time getting used to"jonny_quest_lives
- "you need to move your head more" or "practice at home with them" so here i am practicing the ben franklin stare in my mid fortiesjonny_quest_lives
- It was a woman.
You have your answer right there.palimpsest - I wear glasses only in front of computers, miopia; if I need to check something in short, I get it off. For everything else, sports, etc. contacts ;)OBBTKN
- budget progressive lenses are crap. have you tried the zeiss progressive that are for screen-life?microkorg
- i have a standalone set of computer glasses which are fine... it's the daily out and about town progressives which are zeissjonny_quest_lives
- that sort of suck or i am adapting to... basically not darting my eyes around like i have my whole life seems to be the solutionjonny_quest_lives
- in other words moving my head like an owl: https://c.tenor.com/…jonny_quest_lives
- The price for prescription progressives suck shit. I've been using off the rack Foster Grants for a couple years. $35 every 4 mo.bezoar
- I get my prescription after my eye exam, then go to zennioptical.com. much cheaper there...or warby parker.Akagiyama
- Username > Still Checks Out.utopian
- Progressive lenses gave me the shits, so have x2 pairs of diff single lens. One for comp work and other for reading close.sab
- My second glasses are long distance but adjusted to see at a distance from my chair to my computer screen. Much better than progressive or office glassesGabriel
- ^OBBTKN
