blog
- Started
- Last post
- 76,550 Responses
- ********11
30 something years old and i stuff my days with work and my home life consists of playing with fish tanks and or random things like painting my apartment walls alone. Not being the bar/club type doesn't help fight being alone all the time but regardless if I was that type I wouldn't spend my weeknights dropping $20 on a single drink to sit at a bar counter by myself when I can buy a $20 bottle and get plastered at home. Plus the women are usually the last type of girl i'm looking for. I've dated people in other states, been catfish'd a couple times, been relationships that could have ended in being married but usually i'm cheated on. I swear in the past 10 years I've dated 2 people and both weren't worth my time.
People tell me i need to get on tinder, POF, OKC etc. To me that shit is a waste of time (i gave it a go and its a waste of time). In my early 20s i met women from working at a Trader Joes and it was pretty solid. I left shit jobs like that to get into web development something worthy of a career but now its like i dont have time for shit anymore and i settle for chatting with people i haven't seen in ten years or people who are not even in the same state.
bitter.
- #aboveitimbecile
- You'll be fine - there's no need to get on with inhuman fuckwagon apps, just be who you feel comfortable being (somewhat socially) and you'll find Her.detritus
- ..or she'll find you!detritus
- What kind of fish do you have?garbage
- try what I call the 180 degree rule.mugwart
- what ever you think you should be doing that has done you wrong before ... do the exact opposite.
Always sets me right!mugwart - ^ https://www.youtube.…Krassy
- BTW, don't worry, pockets. Real relationships are never planned or forced; let it all be and you'll meet your sig other.Krassy
- Its important to make time for random parties. Pretty much my only source for meeting new people now day.pango
- I've lost too many friends to marriage and children... :(pango
- Where do you live, we need to hang out.Maaku
- Great read. Grocery store is a great place to meet people!Hayoth
- bars are fun but not the place to get dates... most people will remain in the clique they arrived withscarabin
- Almost 40 and this is still me. You are a complete person now. Acknowledge and act accordingly. Slmeone will eventually love you for itcannonball1978
- Usually men did all the chasing and did the gentlemanly thing and asked a woman out. Now that’s changed and we can’t be arsed doing all the chasing!Ianbolton
- I don't understand people's issue with the dating apps. You mentally swipe left or right with people in a bar. If you both like the look of eachother..********
- .. and one of you has the bollocks to make a move, you start talking to each other. Same concept with the app. It's no more shallow or empty than meeting..********
- ...in real life. I had a lot of fun on tinder years back. Met some really lovely and very interesting people.********
- If it works for you, cool. Not everyone's programmed the same though, and some find it quite ghastly, as I do.detritus
- Yea I know. Why?********
- Because I'm not programmed that way? It's a largely unanswerable query, especially in tiny little notes here - "why do you not?"detritus
- OP says he's tried them, they don't work for him and implied a hesitation to use them further - I merely provided a counter datum to let him know it's ok to notdetritus
- Yea but why********
- I think I already explained why I do not, to be fair...********
- It's only an unanswerable query if you simply have an opinion without really knowing why. Which is odd.********
- It's 'ghastly' to older folk in the same way that shopping online is, or browsing the internet on a train is. Or sending an email rather than a postcard is.********
- That's because they're not programmed that way. But that's not a justifiable answer, it's just called being stuck in your ways without any beneficial reason...********
- If that's your reason, then fine, I get it, but don't try and pretend it's a justifiable viewpoint when you simply can't justify it.********
- I'm antagonistic even when I try not to be, but there's no other way of responding to that, really.********
- You assume too much, as often. I've always been this way — most (not all) people I've been with have been people I've known for at least a wee while.detritus
- I find that format of intamcy much more.. intimate, and therefore worthwhile. As I say, do wtf you like - not my business. Just that shit's not for all peopledetritus
- So your pushing such modes is as bad, if not worse than simply encouraging people to be comfortable with themselves and live as they wish.detritus
- You're the only pushing the idea that it's ghastly. I'm simply asking why you think that...********
- In my day it was getting pissed and going out on 'the pull' - these days there's an app for that. I'm not against the app per se, rather the base fuckery.detritus
- Knowing someone first and forming a further intimacy based on an already existing relationship is amazing, no one is denying that...********
- See? it's a pain iin the ass to try and distill a complex answer into these little notes, hence why I'd rather not have bothered. I needn't, either.detritus
- ... but you still met that person in the first place, so you can still meet a person on an app like tinder and form the same type of relationship.********
- You're the one making assumptions on what people might do with their encounters created using an app, and you're the one blanket labelling it as ghastly********
- I think it's perfectly reasonable to ask for an explanation of that slightly odd behaviour that is very reminiscent of OAP's irrational aversion to technology********
- An app is SIMPLY another opportunity to meet someone. What you do with that opportunity once you have it is up to you. Calling it ghastly is bonkers.********
- I'm not trying to be a cunt, it just seems like an incredibly archaic and small minded stance to take. *shrugs*********
- For someone who claims to be so open minded, you seem to find it hard to accept that people are allowed their own countering viewpoints.detritus
- I think some stuff is ghastly — so fuck? I'm not demanding anyone else think that, I'm just giving my opinion on the matter. Not everyone thinks as you do.detritus
- And, again - i couldn't fuck about the app per se - meeting someone and fucking them in one fell stroke's as old as time. I just don't see any value in it.detritus
- ..personally.detritus
- hah, I didn't see your last "small minded" note - sorry, I tend to view you as small-minded - you have a hard time accepting opinions outwith your own.detritus
- And you have a high capacity for polarising inputs wihilst at the same time muddying output, which is ..well.. tedious to engage with.detritus
- Damn you're defensive.********
- Some people use it to meet and fuck. Others use it to meet and form very meaningful relationships.********
- I only have a hard time accepting opinions that differ to mine when the person is unable to properly explain them. Saying 'I'm wired that way' is like...********
- ...answering with 'because'.********
- Well, you're mostly offensive.detritus
- You're welcome to think whatever you like is ghastly, and you're welcome to have no reason whatsoever for that, but you're acting as if it's an opinion based...********
- ...on sound reason and rationale. Yet you're unable to provide any of that rationale whatsoever.********
- I haven't been offensive at all. I guess you take offence to someone who doesn't accept 'because' as a reason for such a strong opinion.********
- I wasn't going to respond again, but - I did answer, but you're too self-involved with whatever pointless ego-inflating crusade you're on today to have noticed.detritus
- Uh, listen to yourself. You replied, and I COMMENTED ON IT, and said that you can have those exact types of relationships having met through an app.********
- You're the only one totally missing things because you're too blindsided by your idea that I'm a just an antagonistic cunt.********
- You're making assumptions about the way the app can be used, mainly that it is only used for one thing, which is ridiculous. It's just another way to make...********
- ....initial contact. What people do with that is infinite and wonderful. Grandad's shitting on the internet again.********
- Offensive: "pertaining to offense or attack, used above in direct response to your use of defensive. Do keep up.detritus
- "I'm antagonistic even when I try not to be" - set, above, not 20 minutes ago.detritus
- See how you expect inputs one way then output in exactly the same fashion, yet don't see the total disconnect?detritus
- Perhaps I am making certain assumptions about the way these apps are used - but the apps are indeed mostly used for quick leg-overs. Personally, mi no gusto.detritus
- Now you're focusing on something else because it's been made very obvious that your opinion on these apps is small minded and archaic.********
- Some people use it as a quick leg over. A guy in this office went on one tinder date, bought a house with her and had a baby last month.********
- I know of plenty of people who have deep meaningful relationships that met on a dating app. It's JUST another way of making initial contact.********
- To call that ghastly because some people use it for a quick shag is fucking archaic, small minded and reminiscent of OAP's opinions of the internet.********
- Just admit it.********
- I don't know what the focus is here other than you and your constant need to espouse your youness. It's quite dull, but here we are.detritus
- Actually I have the constant need to expose and correct small minded bullshit opinions.********
- Which yours obviously was here, and the fact you're now trying to focus on anything but that, simply shows you're very much aware of it too.********
- I'm sorry that my opinion on how I live my life and how I view life is wrong, set.
You win?detritus - or by admitting false defeat am I denying you further opportunity to self-aggrandise and belittle strangers on the internet?
You win?detritus - I'm sure all this is helping pockets, regardless.detritus
- lol. I'm sorry you feel belittled 'cos your opinion on something that changes and benefits so many people's lives as being ghastly was exposed..********
- ... as being small minded, bullshit grandad mentality.********
- Not only that but you were warning people away from it. Now that's ghastly.********
- I don't feel belittled by you — but constantly calling people 'small minded' is inherently belittling.detritus
- Now, read back through this mess and tell me who's defensive? Tell me who is unable to accept opinions other than their own?
You win? What, exactly?detritus - Calling dating apps ghastly because you incorrectly think they're mainly used for one night stands is incredibly small minded. Facts is facts.********
- I think tindr is ghastly.
Am I wrong?detritus - ..and warning people away from something that could change their lives for the better, simply because you have an archaic viewpoint on it, is ghastly...********
- You're clinging on for dear life when you really should have admitted you were being small minded towards it at least 25 notes ago.********
- ok.detritus
- ANYWAY... good luck to pocketscannonball1978
- lol, yes.********
- This guy sums it how to be single and happy nicely https://youtu.be/PlT…robotron3k
- most side notes ever. atleast people feel the same way...somewhat. just makes me bitter at times to think about.********
- bitter.********
- Maaku: I'm in the Pasadena,CA area********
- Online dating sucks, worse for good women. Just be polite, filter well. I met some lovely women online, inc future wife...shapesalad
- mix online with all other interactions and chances. don't depend on it. otherwise it'll get you down.shapesalad
- this guy, can't tell if dodgy or not, but some of his videos really help me and my realtionships, this one esp: https://www.youtube.…shapesalad
- https://media.giphy.…fadein11
- Truth.********
- i_monk8
Waiting. Waiting. Waiting. Waiting. Waiting. Waiting. Waiting. Waiting. Should know by Friday if I've got the job. Waiting. Waiting. Waiting. Waiting. Waiting. Waiting. Waiting. Waiting. Waiting. Waiting. Waiting. Waiting. Waiting. Waiting.
- goodluck!********
- don't fuck this one up, pangoGnash
- https://i.imgur.com/…pango
- :<i_monk
- goodluck!
- Hayoth0
Capn_ron can you break down Ramsey's baby steps? Congrats on the accomplishment.
- baby step 1. googleGuyFawkes
- https://www.biblemon…GuyFawkes
- https://i.imgur.com/…utopian
- what Guy linked to up there. or dave ramsey.com also. i am officially on baby step 3 now.capn_ron
- https://www.daverams…Gnash
- im on step one, sell all earthly possessionsfuturefood
- well this weekend I should be goodfuturefood
- futurefood, you got this. get that $1000 and then kill those little debts. you are in the exciting time. The big debts take a while and drag on.capn_ron
- OBBTKN4
Fixed my old car, for another 5 years more? Will see...
Insane the amount of money, time... We can waste on those things. I'm officially in, in the Erick Spiekerman's war against the abuse of the automotive industry.
Times are i've paid both cars and my house, i've got solid savings, and friends are trying to convince me to buy a brand new car... Fuck it.
In a side note, strongest year start in life, full of new gigs, interesting projects and new clients coming at me after listening about my good work ethics, at last!
Go locos, have a nice day!
- Ey captain, congrats on your debt management skills! Can you send me a pair of stickers? HeheOBBTKN
- < reading it again... gosh, it sounds arrogant, sorry for this :(OBBTKN
- Thanks yo! I am down to 1 sticker. I'll get one out to you if you send me your address.capn_ron
- ^ only one left? man, this is a treasure... srly, I'm in EU, will cost a lot to send it here, if you're being serious, drop me a line to felix at obabatiken comOBBTKN
- i just bought a new car last year. i still drive the old one 5/7 days a week. :/imbecile
- check your fax machine OBBTKNcapn_ron
- Thanks cap, very much appreciated! :)OBBTKN
- Maaku10
UI/UX is a slooow process, especially in big companies where the hierarchy goes up a tall ladder. After a couple of months of back and forth, I can finally see the fruits of my labor.
Working in advertising for too long made me obsess with short deadlines. I think I'm too hard on myself and my work and I need to be more patient.
- Yeah, i feel you... Long deadlines and dev processes are booooring, keeping it high is not easyOBBTKN
- sounds like a fortune500 company, UI team UX team Dev team..just sit and collect. smarter not harder********
- think not react.umbee54
- cookie monster says you have to stop and think it through.umbee54
- very long.notype
- ********9
Hump Day, half way there...
Have a good day everyone
- PonyBoy13
lost my pup of nearly 16 years today... she died in my arms about 3 hours ago
last night the wife and I rushed her to the vet... we were told they didn't want to put her down / felt good about her and sent her home w/us after taking blood etc. Didn't even have time to get the tests back... poor thing went from bad to horrible... she was gone before I could even get her back to the vet (not even a mile from home).
Anyway... going to miss you Penny (Penelope)... such a fun pup over the years.
This is her about 2 months ago (not even) hanging w/Ollie—
- damn Pony. sorry for your loss. these little pups are such a big part of our lives it is the same emotions as losing a family member.capn_ron
- Hang in there. so sorry :(Gnash
- awe sorry man, she looks like a rescue i lost about 3 years ago, she was 14GuyFawkes
- sorry pony!utopian
- Sorry for your loss :*(********
- Awe man that’s rough. My sympathies.monospaced
- Wonderful looking pup, cute lil' tail. Sorry for your loss, cheers to Penny.garbage
- So tough .. sorry for your loss PonyBoyRamanisky2
- Thanks, All... missing her something painful... fucking hate this part where you see and hear her everywhere :(PonyBoy
- So sorry Kevin :(OBBTKN
- I feels. Hang in there pal. Sounds like you had a great time together.********
- Sorry for your loss. Bye Penny.Longcopylover
- Sorry for your loss matefadein11
- ahr man that sucks. hugs from Londonmugwart
- I'm sorry for your loss Pony :(ernexbcn
- Sorry for your loss Pony, I know the feeling :(Bennn
- sorry to hear that :(loool
- that sucks bud, remember the good times. My best buddy is nearly 15 and her health is starting to go downhill. Sucks.flashbender
- SUCKS Pony! find some good pics and frame them. :-(HijoDMaite
- Sympathynbq
- UGH so sorry to hear that! I've been there. Just remember the amazing life you gave her that she might not have had otherwise.GM278
- Sorry to hear, losing pets is awful, their the fucking best. It does sound like she had pretty good innings with you. Remember the good times.thumb_screws
- Oh man, I'm so sorrymartinadolfsson
- My heart bleeds for you. I'm so sorry. Penny is adorable.FawnDog
- 16 years is a great age, that's what love does for a dog.mrAtor
- :(moldero
- Sending condolences for your lossrobotron3k
- :(pinkfloyd
- Man, I feel for you, so sorry. My pup is 12 and losing the function of his rear legs and it's getting worse every day. I'm in the same boat...davey_g
- boo. sucks. you kept things going for 16. damn. bravo. hopefully she suffer too much on the way out.jaylarson
- Thank you, All... <3PonyBoy
- jagara5
People on QBN are nicer than they used to be.
...and go!
- ********5
An old lady sitting opposite me on the train just said I had a really smiley face. Little did she know I was laughing to myself at her ridiculously large hat. Now I feel bad.
- Let's piece this together. You just split with your lady, and some hotness with a cool hat flirts with you and you don't reciprocate?garbage
- lol********
- LOLMaaku
- show her the Set PSB 2017 thread "want to see more of this smiley face? check THIS out!"Krassy
- adont forget to say "want to see christ!"mugwart
- garbage3
Currently having a horrible bout of insomnia, and every time I get bored and check back here it's that god-damned autofellating chihuahua.
- Isn't it always, I mean — figuratively, if not literally?detritus
- I watch him go at it for a few minutes and I'm out like a lightFax_Benson
- it tends to happen more in the winter because lack of sun / vitamin d, try to get some sun and go for a walkGuyFawkes
- i don't knowdasohr
- I've been resetting my clock these past few nights with melatonin. Fuck me have I been tripping balls in my dreams. Also sleeping really well... .detritus
- I might try the melatonin route. I've been up for two days now, so I'm basically tripping balls while awake.garbage
- Eish, you have my sympathy - I start losing the plot after about 20 hours awake these days, and not in an enjoyable way.detritus
- Melatonin made me feel really depressed the next daySunSunSun_
- Hayzilla0
The Daily Express is OBSESSED with Carol Kirkwood for no reason. A dowdy 50yr old breakfast BBC weather presenter.
- Whenever I encounter the express I'm always amused by the realisation that there's a British newspaper worse than the daily mail.detritus
- it does seem to be aimed at a very specific audience - a woman called Joan, 60, from Kent.Fax_Benson
- Maaku0
My project manager is 30 and thought he was older than me (I'm 35). Today he was shocked to see me without a beard. #burn
- notype1
PDA, do you all do it?
What's too much?- Personal digital assistant?pango
- Ahaha, public display of affectionnotype
- Nobody wants to see anything beyond a kiss.monospaced
- lol monoSunSunSun_
- notype1
What's the sculpture at Washington Sq Park right now?
- I think it’s an Ai Wei Weimonospaced
- Yeh that's what I thought. I like it... what were your thoughts on it?notype
- Interesting use of the space. Better than some of his other stuff, but the message remains the same. I like the scale of it.monospaced
- I know. Mere impressions. Not deep thoughts.monospaced
- Yeah the scale is incredible. Difficult to walk through during the daytime though (constant cameras)notype
- I don’t know much about it- but while walking through your vision gets a little tunneled... in this vast space. I like itnotype
- It has to do with immigration and passage to a new place I think.monospaced
- Ah... makes total sensenotype
- BusterBoy3
Just saw a 7 minute long safety video for a major international airline...filmed in 10+ countries. I thought each of the destinations followed a bit of a pattern that I'd recently seen.
Turns out, the countries shown matched with some recent destinations of a mate of mine...who also produces Ad campaigns. Lucky bastard has been travelling the world for the past few months directing the campaign...
- Gnash2
i_monk, have you heard yet?
- Gardener0
an odd lot at the auction today - no I didn't bid for them
- face_melter2
Getting back up to speed with 3DS Max and Unreal, drank too much coffee and now my eyes are vibrating.
- Krassy3
What credit card should I apply for in the US if I want to earn airline miles?
Looking for advice based on experience, please. Thank you, QBNrs!
- there is a website you can use where you add in what perk you're looking for and it scans the offers. creditcards.com maybe? we have the venture cardkona
- nerd wallet.comlvl_13
- remove space ^
https://www.nerdwall…lvl_13 - thanks, guys!Krassy
- https://www.forbes.c…imbecile
- fadein117
Having a lovely evening remixing a track by someone on here. Love this place sometimes, random conversation leads to a colab. I will post when done. If we like it (more importantly if he likes it as it's his song).