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Aug 17: Wife complains of back pain and starts vomiting later that night.
Aug 18: Bring wife first to Urgent Care, then ER for scan of possible kidney stones. Scan comes back showing a 20cm/8in. tumor on her ovary.
We immediately start talking to doctors and oncologists to find out what to do and how quickly we can get it done. We're put in touch with a gyno oncologist who will perform the surgery, but she finds out about my wife's past history with colon cancer. She had a section of her colon removed in 2018 and no cancer signs since then. But this doctor is pretty sure that this new tumor is related and so she throws out the possibility that this is metastatic (Stage 4) colon cancer. Our heads are both spinning, and the awful thoughts of what the future could possibly look like start to sink in and scare the shit out of us. We get another upper chest scan to see if there are any signs of cancer and thankfully there were none. The oncologist tells us that they won't know if the tumor is benign or malignant until they perform the procedure and send a sample to pathology.
Aug 26-28: Work trip to Charlotte where I come down with an insane stomach bug and have to sh*t my brains out oh about every 37 minutes. Including on an airplane - sorry fellow passengers.
Aug 29: I bring my wife to the hospital for a hysterectomy then come home to be with our boys. Surgery is successful, but Doctor tells me that the tumor ruptured a few days prior and she found "a gelatinous gunk" spread all over her abdomen which makes testing a little more time consuming - normally they can get an answer in about 20 minutes during the procedure. Removed the uterus and appendix for good measure.
Aug 31: My wife comes home from hospital and is recovering nicely, walking around slowly and sleeping a lot.
Sept 1: Laying in bed with my wife we get an update to her medical chart that no malignant cells were detected! Tears of joy and relief fill our eyes.
We will follow up with the doctor for next steps.Life is beautiful my friends. And health is wealth.
- So sorry to hear all of this and relieved she is doing well and recovering, and that there is no cancer. :)mg33
- Great to hear - what a rollercoaster. My mum got the all clear recently after having a growth removed. What a load off!mort_
- I teared up at the end :) That was a stressful read (meaning: I know how stressful medical shit can get)... Happy things are looking up, man!! <3PonyBoy
- Wow, that must have been a hell of a right. These type of things sure give you a fresh perspective of what matters in life.milfhunter
- Jeez. Glad things are looking positive - that's a crazy two weeks!Fax_Benson
- Insane man, love and hug and kiss all those around you_niko
- What a ride. I sincerely hope for a full recovery.monospaced
- Hope the best for you guys, sending positive vibesHAL9001
- DUUUDE.
*hugs & kisses* to you both.ideaist - Holy shit, dude. That was an intense read. So glad your wife is on the mend. Healing thoughts for you all!elahon
- Really glad it didn't end badly, was worried as the story went on.PhanLo
- Oh wow. Thanks for the reminder and all the best to you and your loved ones.Longcopylover
- Stresfull read, man. All the best, take care!
And as lcl said, thanks for the reminder ;)OBBTKN - Thank you all - and sorry for stressing you guys out. Haven't told too many people and it feels strangely good to type it out here. Thanks again allstoplying
- Fucking shit. Quite a bit to deal with. Lots of love to you and wife.bezoar
- Wish you both all the best._me_
- Life can be a shitful ride of emotions at times. Best of luck to you both.BusterBoy
- man that was harrowing reading.. so glad it ended well.. was expecting it to take a left turn to badlandsautoflavour
- ❤️jagara
- TL;DRrobthelad
- Tears. All the best!stewart
- Thank you for sharing. A wake up call to always be grateful.Green_Pork
- Username does *not* check out unfortunately
.... then somewhat fortunatelyProjectile
- bainbridge1
What age do you want to retire?
What are you going to do in retirement?- Retirement? LOL...I'll be working until I'm dead.BusterBoy
- Theoretically, in 14 years, but as long as the government keeps playing bingo with my taxes, I see it as difficult.OBBTKN
- I have a pension and a long-term savings plan, but now I can't make contributions because my daughters still depend on us, and how!OBBTKN
- My retirement plan: cycling, travel with my wife, and draw/paint as much as possible ;)OBBTKN
- Retirement is a mental thinggrafician
- Retirement is a pipe dream when folks didn't live as long. Life is about mind, body & spirit and IF work is one of those for you, work 'til you're dead...ideaist
- ...Most older folks I know are imbalanced and bored either mentally, physically OR both.ideaist
- Never retireGardener
- asap
danceneverscared - 60.
Murder.sausages - Will not ever fully retire, but I'm on track to work less year on year and be 3 days a week by the time I'm 55 (10 to go). I'll indulge my hyper fixations.slappy
- That is not even an option so far.ApeRobot
- - 60
- Not have to work to survivepalimpsest - 60.
murdered or poisoned.
or perhaps drowned.pango - tangent: my dad was retired for 10y up til corona hit, then he went to the nearest hospital and applied as a nurse and has been doing it since with the excuse..ArchitectofFate
- that retirement sucked, and it sucks less to just work.ArchitectofFate
- Always thought retirement was the end goal to life but with it within 10yrs now, it seems expensive and boring as fuck and I'm not looking forward to it.HAYZ1LLLA
- Gardener3
I lost out on bidding for this NAIM Hi-Fi system in the auction yesterday - I went to 2.5k but it finished at 6.2k, damn...
- You're just asking for a divorce at that point.palimpsest
- that's a 20k set...sted
- I always set a limit, this pic is just half the amount of stuff there was, all the original boxes too...Gardener
- Jesus! That would sound amazing. I thought your limit was always a pound? Or is that just for football bets?Ianbolton
- what even is this? and why spend money on it?robthelad
- 6.2k, pounds?? Gosh... It's a lot of money for a hifi. I listen to music all day, but...OBBTKN
- it's the internet box. and he's got many of them stacked on top of each to boost the signal.pango
- https://storage.goog…pango
- lolsted
- It's mine, apparently, so you can't have it.Nairn
- just guessing by the photo its a Naim NAC 552 with 2x amp + power supply and a Rega CD-player (it had these loading trays that look like the Enterprise :)sted
- I love Nairn's expensive hi-fi gearIanbolton
- Here’s an easy explainer:
https://y.yarn.co/7d…_niko - of course always a quid on the football Ian, but this was just catnip to me, and I didn't stand a chanceGardener
- That would only take up space you could use to store more records.fooler
- You know, yer right!Gardener
- will it airplay my crunched up spotifylists?ArchitectofFate
- sted0
Aside of "fanny pack" how you call that mini side-bag that Men are wearing?
- https://pbs.twimg.co…pango
- MariconeraOBBTKN
- dealer sackdee-dubs
- My mate had one on the other night. I called it his "man purse" but he opened it up and it was a legitimate ping pong paddle bag complete with paddle and ballsfooler
- here in Yorkshire we call them bum bags, which i don't really understand. But that's what they're called!Ianbolton
- gayrenderedred
- wokeneverscared
- Jajajaja, mariconera, jajajajahajaMiesfan
- @OBBTKN LOL!Krassy
- https://www.youtube.…utopian
- @Ian back in the 90's folk wore them round their waist so they'd be on the bum rather than over the shoulderPhanLo
- Pusher-Bag.Longcopylover
- Hand Bag or Cunt Carry, either is accurate.mrAtor
- Hip bagstoplying
- thank yousted
- Bumbags are extremely useful but i can't help feeling anyone who wears one is a twat and I really don't know why that is!?HAYZ1LLLA
- I need it to carry my dime bags.pango
- They are a practical way to carry things.
And not a rucksack.PhanLo
- curiouscat0
Finally got around to watching Superman, and this scene with Mister Terrific set to 5 Years Time by Noah & The Whale was *chef's kiss.
Well played, Mr. Gunn.
- Just don't pay attention to the shadows (or occasional lack thereof).Nairn
- Shadows? We don't need no stinking shadows!curiouscat
- OBBTKN24
My wife and I are celebrating our 25th wedding anniversary today, our silver anniversary. We're going to dinner with our daughters, and later on, we've booked a weekend getaway just for the two of us.
It may seem like a long time, but honestly, time has flown by.
Gosh, it's been an incredible adventure, zero regrets... now, here's to another 25.
Take care of your loved ones. It's the only thing that matters in this crazy world ❤
- 1/4 century club; nice hustle to you & yours!!!
XOideaist - Congrats!!maquito
- Zorionak!!! Qué gusto oír cosas así❤️Miesfan
- huge congrats dude! My wife and I did something similar last year for our 25th :)exador1
- enjoymilfhunter
- bravo!neverscared
- I never understood the 'achievement' part of anniversaries until I'd been married for 10 years. 20 years together next year! Congrats dude!DaveO
- Thanks guys! ⸜(｡˃ ᵕ ˂ )⸝♡OBBTKN
- Congratulations OBB!canoe
- Congrats and Happy 25th Anniversary!!!instrmntl
- Congrats!stoplying
- 1/4 century club; nice hustle to you & yours!!!
- autoflavour0
I’m sure back in 2016 this seemed like an unlikely and crazy future..
Bleakly looking at the state of the world and the coming technology prison we are sleepwalking into,.. this seeems too plausible now
- Nairn0
^
"In our city we don’t pay any rent, because someone else is using our free space whenever we do not need it. My living room is used for business meetings when I am not there." lol, no.- What?!grafician
- own nothing .. because EVERYTHING is a subscription.autoflavour
- and if you dont behave, take your vaccine, comply you will be locked out of the system.autoflavour
- the Empire never tasted so real.. Greedo should shoot firstautoflavour
- Nairn3
- Brave New Worldpablo28
- What's wrong with her eyes?
Ida means crazy in Spanish ;)OBBTKN - +1 @pablo exactly. or a black miror episode.renderedred
- "written" and "art directed" by ai using ai slophans_glib
- capitalismneverscared
- https://www.youtube.…pablo28
- I also do nothing, ai does it all for me. life is pointless. I am happy._niko
- sounds like Stockholm syndromeeveryangle
- https://medium.com/w…yuekit
- Her article was really saying "this is what the future could be like" and even seems to cast doubt on it being a good thing.yuekit
- But people interpret it as WEF wants to take away your stuff :)yuekit
- Exactly, OBBTKN. Anyone who's seen eyes like that on a person Knows.Nairn
- yuekit, its not a "what the future could be like" .. its front and centre of Agenda2030.. which is well documented on the WEF siteautoflavour
- The article I posted is where the "you'll own nothing" thing comes fromyuekit
- Agenda 2030 is a United Nations sustainable development plan
https://sdgs.un.org/…yuekit - Her article is kind of pretentious but I don't think it's actually reflecting some sort of evil plot. She's describing a future where we all use Uber and Airbnbyuekit
- i see dead in her eyes.milfhunter
- canoe0
Working on positioning and GTM for two great designers who are changing from project-based and hourly billing to subscription.
Here's some of the sites I pulled up ranging from cheap bullshit to good-looking work...
https://www.superside.com/
https://designpickle.com/
https://manypixels.co/
https://kimp.io/
https://flocksy.com/
https://penji.co/
https://www.magier.com/
https://www.designjoy.co/
https://passionates.com/
https://fancy.design/
https://www.creativecorner.studi…
https://awesomic.com/
https://www.hatchly.co.uk/
https://nlc.com/
https://www.wegrow.design/pricin…- isn't this just a fancy fascia for "retainer"?hans_glib
- Oh no, not Brett lolgrafician
- A retainer sells time/capacity; a subscription sells throughput and a workflow, there are more constraints on a subscription. not identical. similarcanoe
- If this were still a graphic design forum people would talk about this relatively new take on winning and charging clients. #rantovercanoe
- cannonball197824
I got engaged, at 46, not four days ago, to the most wonderful woman.
- Lynda Carter?
Congrats! You fool.Nairn - congrats. never too lateautoflavour
- Congrats!YakuZoku
- Congrats, young man ❤️PonyBoy
- Congrats! My knee hurts just thinking about itMrT
- Hehehe... Congratulations! Not late <3OBBTKN
- Love is in the air.palimpsest
- Congrats! Fire yourself off into that glorious future.yuekit
- Hoes > Bros
Kiddin'!!!
Hoes ≥ Bros!!!
; )ideaist - Nice!stoplying
- Lynda Carter?
- microkorg1
Got an unlock code to grab tickets to see Radiohead at O2 in November.
- shellie15
Congrats @cannonball! My partner and I decided to get married next year on 11/11 (our doggo's 16th birthday). I'll be 43. It'll be my first marriage, so I'm pretty excited after waiting a long time to find my perfect match after kissing my share of frogs. But sometimes patience pays off.
- congrats, shellie!!!!PonyBoy
- Congrats!OBBTKN
- Better Call Saul!utopian
- Congrats Shellz!!!YakuZoku
- my wife and I send each other screenshots or photos of every 11:11 we witness. Great date for a wedding. Congratulations!bogue
- congrats! and never too late to have a baby. we became parents at 40 and loving it.Beeswax
- Gardener6
I've been busy this week
before/after
- Good work!!OBBTKN
- It's my 4th shop on the high street, the church is next!Gardener
- That's a great gig. Wish I could tidy up the shops on our scruffy high street.Fax_Benson
- okay, so you didn't kern that type?utopian
- ah no but there was a bit of a to-do, I was up the ladder in top pic and long ladder which was fully extended next to me blew over in the wind..Gardener
- crashing to the pavement taking the letters C and U with it! I had to glue the letter pieces back together and the re-affix them holding them...Gardener
- onto the hoarding until the glue set - you wouldn't know from the bottom pic, am just glad the ladder never hit anyone as it fell.Gardener
- PonyBoy8
My wife texted me a moment ago asking for the security code that should have arrived before her text (she's trying to log into an account of ours)...
I replied, "OU812" w/a smiley.
Her response was "Didn't work... I just sent a new code request."
*sigh
The adorable creature has next to zero pop culture appreciation... *whispers: I don't think she's seen Star Wars.
- Ahem... Explanation, please?OBBTKN
- Send her 5318008 next_niko
- I had to google it, it said "Oh you ate one too" then I was like "Star Wars?"YakuZoku
- OU812 is also a Van Halen album :) I mentioned Star Wars simply to point out that I shouldn't be surprised she unfamiliar w/a popular silly rebus from the 80's.PonyBoy
- haha... she'd instantly know the 'boobless' one tho <3PonyBoy
- Loved me some hair bands toocanoe
- Van Hagar!stoplying
- bainbridge-1
- The philosophy bit actually makes perfect sense here.jagara
