Purity Balls
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- bolus0
you're talking a lot of sense today barb
- ender790
barb, sounds like your folks did a good job and represented their beliefs well. you are very fortunate to have parents like that.
- barbtastic0
you're talking a lot of sense today barb
bolus
(Mar 8 07, 10:30)
--------------------i hope that wasn't sarcasm :)
- -sputnik-0
this is just like pushing the drinking age from 18 to 21...delaying growth and denying your kids the ability to open their eyes.
that way they get to college and drink til they pass out and ho out something fierce.
- bolus0
it certainly wasn't :)
i would've used the //sarcasm slashes
- barbtastic0
i'm happy that my parents understand that i took away good things from what they taught me, even if we don't agree 100%
it was a struggle for us to accept each others values at first, but they realized that we turned out to be a good, kind people, and they are proud of that...
i can only hope to be so lucky if i ever have kids of my own.
- barbtastic0
that way they get to college and drink til they pass out and ho out something fierce.
-sputnik-
(Mar 8 07, 10:32)
--------------------totally! all the kids i knew with strict parents are the fuck-ups now!
- -sputnik-0
Yes, heaven forbid that we encourage strong relationships between fathers and daughters and promote sexual purity in young women.
flagellum
(Mar 8 07, 09:38)i don't think encouraging a strong relationship w/one's father while encouraging a healthy perspective on sex is mutually exclusive.
- -sputnik-0
that way they get to college and drink til they pass out and ho out something fierce.
-sputnik-
(Mar 8 07, 10:32)
--------------------totally! all the kids i knew with strict parents are the fuck-ups now!
barbtastic
(Mar 8 07, 10:36)same here...they really didn't know what to do w/themselves once they get away from the protective pen their parents set up for them.
- ender790
sometimes it takes screwing up to make you say, "oh, damn! THAT'S why they said not to do that!"
- barbtastic0
yeah the "beacuase i said so" never works
- barbtastic0
hehe and neither do my typing skeelz
- Jaline0
that way they get to college and drink til they pass out and ho out something fierce.
-sputnik-
(Mar 8 07, 10:32)Well, this is why it's not good to be too strict on your kids. Because they obviously need to experience some things for themselves. My parents are cool sometimes, but other times they are waaay too strict (as some of the threads I have created before would suggest). It all depends on the day. Overall though, I think there comes a time when you have to accept the fact that you can't shield your kids from everything.
They have to experience some things by themselves to actually grow up. At the same time, I don't completely blame my parents, since I know lots of people whose parents give/gave them everything they want and their lives are shit now.
- ********0
of course by all means experiment and learn.
But there comes a point when it is just sad.
When the sluts are in their late 20's - 30's still whoring it out every weekend. The looks on their faces says it all.
- barbtastic0
of course by all means experiment and learn.
But there comes a point when it is just sad.
When the sluts are in their late 20's - 30's still whoring it out every weekend. The looks on their faces says it all.
morilla
(Mar 8 07, 10:51)
--------------------but that's their problem, not anyone else's
- acescence0
The idea that one needs to take their significant other for a 'test drive' before making the commitment of marriage is utter bullshit.
gramme
(Mar 8 07, 10:18)and your fairy tale experience is utter bullshit. it's an opinion.
- gramme0
premarital sex is underrated.... or so it seems, why do so many people seem to feel guilty/unhappy about the fact that they've had sex....
bolus
(Mar 8 07, 10:29)Premarital sex is overrated. I know this. My parents told me all the reasons why I should wait til marriage, but I had to find out for myself, being the stubborn bastard that I am. Being a pastor's kid, I was your typical church-product gone wrong. In college I drank my face off, slept with girls whose last names I never learned, and in general wasted much of my time.
Through a series of painful relationships and scrapes with financial and emotional ruin (disappointing friendships, a DUI, etc.), I reached the end of my rope. I had a 180 degree change of heart. I stopped getting drunk. I started respecting other people and thinking about my place in the world as it related to my capacity for love. I stopped sleeping w/ my then-girlfriend, and eventually we broke up.
My conscience had been doing overtime for too long. Granted mine had been sharpened during chidlhood by the principles I was raised with, but I still believe that everyone has a conscience, and whenever one violates their sense of right and wrong, they are actually doing themselves harm...regardless of how weak the conscience in question may have become.
I don't see slavery or a lack of freedom in believing that sex is best enjoyed from within the structure of marriage. Humans have proven to be emotionally wired as lifelong monogamous beings. To live otherwise tears at our souls and leaves us empty. That, to me, smacks of slavery. I think no relationship on earth provides the safety and strength of a lifelong marriage commitment, when it comes to sex.
- gramme0
The idea that one needs to take their significant other for a 'test drive' before making the commitment of marriage is utter bullshit.
gramme
(Mar 8 07, 10:18)and your fairy tale experience is utter bullshit. it's an opinion.
acescence
(Mar 8 07, 10:53)It's not a fairy tale bud, it's real life experience. Our marriage is what it is largely because we waited to have sex. I won't apologize for that.
How dare you talk down to me about my marriage. You haven't the least idea what you're talking about.
So what if you don't agree with me? That's your prerogative. But when you step over the line and belittle the sanctity of my marriage, that's when I say you need to keep your uninformed opinions to yourself.
- mrdobolina0
get over it, wow.
- mrdobolina0
seriously, gramme. you say all of these things and all I see is "this guy has tons of hang-ups"