Purity Balls
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- gramme0
premarital sex is underrated.... or so it seems, why do so many people seem to feel guilty/unhappy about the fact that they've had sex....
bolus
(Mar 8 07, 10:29)Premarital sex is overrated. I know this. My parents told me all the reasons why I should wait til marriage, but I had to find out for myself, being the stubborn bastard that I am. Being a pastor's kid, I was your typical church-product gone wrong. In college I drank my face off, slept with girls whose last names I never learned, and in general wasted much of my time.
Through a series of painful relationships and scrapes with financial and emotional ruin (disappointing friendships, a DUI, etc.), I reached the end of my rope. I had a 180 degree change of heart. I stopped getting drunk. I started respecting other people and thinking about my place in the world as it related to my capacity for love. I stopped sleeping w/ my then-girlfriend, and eventually we broke up.
My conscience had been doing overtime for too long. Granted mine had been sharpened during chidlhood by the principles I was raised with, but I still believe that everyone has a conscience, and whenever one violates their sense of right and wrong, they are actually doing themselves harm...regardless of how weak the conscience in question may have become.
I don't see slavery or a lack of freedom in believing that sex is best enjoyed from within the structure of marriage. Humans have proven to be emotionally wired as lifelong monogamous beings. To live otherwise tears at our souls and leaves us empty. That, to me, smacks of slavery. I think no relationship on earth provides the safety and strength of a lifelong marriage commitment, when it comes to sex.