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- Jaline0
The idea that one needs to take their significant other for a 'test drive' before making the commitment of marriage is utter bullshit.
gramme
(Mar 8 07, 10:18)and your fairy tale experience is utter bullshit. it's an opinion.
acescence
(Mar 8 07, 10:53)gramme was saying that one doesn't "need" to have sex before marriage, whereas you were saying straight out that his experience is "bullshit". His was more fact than opinion.
- mrdobolina0
thing is jaline, he preaches that people should wait until marriage and he didnt. Flagellum does the same thing and he has said that he had sex before marriage. So Im calling bullshit on it.
Do people that choose not to be married just die virgins? I mean be for real...
- gramme0
seriously, gramme. you say all of these things and all I see is "this guy has tons of hang-ups"
mrdobolina
(Mar 8 07, 11:13)Then you sir are walking through life deaf and blind. I am very happy with how my life has turned out. Exactly what hangups are you referring to? How I learned from my mistakes? How I've been freed from my own vices? How I am offered eternal forgiveness? How I have been blessed with a wonderful marriage to the woman of my dreams, whom I will never deserve? How my relationship with my parents has been renewed? How I finally have friendships that mean something?
You just told me more about yourself than anything about me.
- mrdobolina0
just my opinion, please do not ruin the sanctity of my opinion!
- barbtastic0
gramme- that is your experience, tho.
premarital sex did not cause you to make all the other irrespoinsible decisions, it was just one of them [for you]
i'm sure you learned something from the mistakes you made? haven't they made you wiser, rather than just taking someone older generation's word for it?
- gramme0
thing is jaline, he preaches that people should wait until marriage and he didnt. Flagellum does the same thing and he has said that he had sex before marriage. So Im calling bullshit on it.
Do people that choose not to be married just die virgins? I mean be for real...
mrdobolina
(Mar 8 07, 11:22)dobs, I'm not sure why you persist in attacking me as I've never attacked you, but whatever.
Dobs, I made mistakes before becoming a Christian. I thought I was a believer as a kid, but it turns out I never understood grace until I came face to face with my own depravity. Just because I fucked up in the past doesn't mean I can't recomment for other people to not dulpicate my mistakes.
I don't regret the past per se, because it has made me who I am today. Of course if I had to do it all again I'd do things differently, but that's a moot point. hindsight's 20/20, I'm just glad for what I know now.
- version30
re fucking tarded
that's like buying one specific car without test driving any of them
i thought that was the point of dating, to find what you liked/don't like about the person you'll be with
- barbtastic0
gramme, another thought:
i'm sure your children will respect your opinion more if you share your experience with them, rather than just telling them how to live [not that i assume you would]
i guess i'm only saying everything happens for a reason, and your experience and honesty will make you a much better father...
- harlequino0
As someone who has, and continues to have, loads of premarital sex, I am very secure and happy with those choices. I have nary a negative memory about any of it. Sex has nothing to do with good or bad, it's about responsibility. Everything I've done was consensual, safe, and thought out. I remember my partners findly, with a deep respect, since I respected and cared for them at the time.
My gf and I, who plan to marry soon, are both in total agreement that we are happy with our past choices.Just wanted to provide some contrast. Good god, this is a hung up culture (and world come to think of it).
- Jaline0
If you read gramme's posts, he's not really pushing his opinion in the way some others have. He's just stating his own experiences since there's no one else (except flagellum, but he's a different story altogether) who is speaking (about waiting to have sex until after marriage) the same way.
Anyway, I'll stop talking for him now, heh.
- barbtastic0
harlequino-
once again, bravo!
:)
- ********0
i think the whole finding god thing makes you a little naive gramme, but you do make your points quite well, you're articulate and not too overbearing. for that, well done.
*engages in premarital sex, whilst smoking crack.
- mrdobolina0
gramme it isnt an attack, when you put all of this personal stuff out there be prepared for people to disagree.
- gramme0
premarital sex did not cause you to make all the other irrespoinsible decisions, it was just one of them [for you]
i'm sure you learned something from the mistakes you made? haven't they made you wiser, rather than just taking someone older generation's word for it?
barbtastic
(Mar 8 07, 11:25)For sure. In a perfect world I would've taken my parents at their word; they were both virgins and still have a great marriage after 34 years. But, no use crying over spilt milk as I said before. And yes, I am very grateful for what I have learned.
- Jaline0
Nice, harlequino :)
- ********0
alot of slut justification goin on around here!
- gramme0
i thought that was the point of dating, to find what you liked/don't like about the person you'll be with
version4
(Mar 8 07, 11:28)Yes, that's the point of dating. Not sex. I suggest that people who believe that knowing how a person is in bed before making a serious commitment are sadly lacking in faith and imagination.
- BonSeff0
put a sock in it gramme
so sick of this self rightous drivel
i dont care to know how often you sex up yer virgin bride.. jesus
show some respect
- Jaline0
re fucking tarded
that's like buying one specific car without test driving any of them
i thought that was the point of dating, to find what you liked/don't like about the person you'll be with
version4
(Mar 8 07, 11:28)This is like the debate of arranged marriages.
Many people ridicule it (and for good reason) but there are lots of people for whom it works out for. It also doesn't work out for others, and everyone knows how divorce rates are high no matter what kind of marriage you're in.
- Jaline0
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