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- version30
Her happiness is not your responsibility, it never has been, it never was, only she can be honest with herself. only then will she be truly happy if she decides to
statistically, there is another, true love should not make you suffer like this, my stepmother is not perfect, far from it, but what she brings to the table, compare to that of my "mother", things have drastically improved. My grandfather now says his son "is happy"
My father did it for me and I suggest it to any father I know who's confused, I'll quote
"Stay where your son can get to you"
No next town over, not your homeland, no new state, stay close. When my father left the house my mother and he lived in, he moved in right by a park i biked to everyday. I'm tearing up now realizing how important that was to me.
I even told a friend the same advice and not once in the past 6 years have I not been thanked for that advice on birthdays and christmas.
she doesn't matter, you don't matter, only he does. 9-10? at that age he's dad's best friend and a wad of willing play-dough. now is your time to shine as a dad, not nic.
I know what it's like to watch children cry and suffer because they realize what's going on. Just be happy he understands you.
- jevad0
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- OSFA0
good one v4. Agree 100%
- neue75_bold0
“If you’re going to try,
go all the way.
Otherwise don’t even start.
This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives, jobs. And maybe your mind.
It could mean not eating for three or four days.
It could mean freezing on a park bench.
It could mean jail. It could mean derision.
It could mean mockery, isolation.
Isolation is the gift.
All the others are a test of your endurance.
Of how much you really want to do it.
And you’ll do it, despite rejection in the worst odds.
And it will be better than anything else you can imagine. If you’re going to try, go all the way.
There is no other feeling like that.
You will be alone with the gods. And the nights will flame with fire.
You will ride life straight to perfect laughter.
It’s the only good fight there is”
- material-10
...notice something about them and make a positive comment. Take them out for a romantic, quiet dinner and tell them you LOVE them and really MEAN it.
Because one day you might not get a chance to anymore, and you'll kick yourself for all the times you didn't.
jevad
(Feb 6 07, 12:06)thanks nic, I need to live by these words.
- jevad0
anytime dude - I think we need to go get some beerz
- material-10
cool
- ********0
I'm not sure bukowski was very happy.
- joyride0
I think when people get into the trying to save it roll, they concentrate on making it better so much it just adds to the stress. You're always thinking, "is it working, am I/we doing better".
Stop it!!!! Things worked out before because you were having fun just doing things. Not worrying about it, no stress. Go back to just doing fun things together, don't talk about the relationship or any of that. Just be fun, carefree and confident!
I know it's hard to just flip that switch, but the harder you try to show her that you're working hard to save it, the more you push her away. Just go back to having fun, the rest will fall in line.
- mayo0
i haven't read all the posts yet nor do i know too much about the situation, but if it's worth fighting for, why wouldn't you fight for it? If you still have it in you, i'd say keep trying. When it starts breaking you is when you should decide to keep going or not. You don't seem broken.
- jevad0
I don't live in a world of absolutes. I take one day at a time.
- ********0
imagine having bukwowski as your marriage counselor
- _salisae_0
buk wow ski
- jevad0
imagine having bukwowski as your marriage counselor
Rand
(Feb 6 07, 13:21)AHHAHAHAH
- mayo0
I don't live in a world of absolutes. I take one day at a time.
jevad
(Feb 6 07, 13:19)That's all you can do nic. And make each day count. I forgot about your son. Have you asked him how he feels? My papa stayed with my mother when he shouldn't have for my sister and I. I really wish he wouldn't have.
- ross0
imagine having bukwowski as your marriage counsellor
Rand
(Feb 6 07, 13:21)haha. Weekend at Burnies 4 – Hank the Marriage Counsellor
Good vibes sent your way nic.
These things always have a way of working themselves out.
May feel like a bad thing now, but in the long run, things happen for a reason.I haven’t read all the above posts, but here are my 2 cents.
-If it’s worth it, go for it and consequences be dammed.
or
- break-ups happen, and people get back together because it is a familiar and comfortable situation. The issues that cause the break-up in the first place usually rear their ugly heads at some point, and you’re back to crapville.
Just do whats best for the little one, and you’ll be happy
- ********0
sorry, meant to say bukkake
- horton0
i'm a stepdad.
kids flourish wherever they are, so long as there's love.
as for being good parents; imo most important that your child sees a happy and healthy mom, and a happy and healthy dad...
a not-so-happy but together mom & dad does more harm than good.
- horton0
+ when you're done hurting get a bottle of whisky and..
- version30
cien!