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- digitalswarm0
I'd like to read a passage from Dave Mason:
So let's leave it alone, 'cause we can't see eye to eye.
There ain't no good guys, there ain't no bad guys.
There's only you and me and we just disagree.
Ooo - ooo - ooohoo oh - oh - o-whoa
- version30
Where we have strong emotions, we're liable to fool ourselves.
-Carl Sagan
- Complexfruit0
"If you accept the pain, it cannot hurt you."
- version30
Never feel self-pity, the most destructive emotion there is. How awful to be caught up in the terrible squirrel cage of self.
-Millicent Fenwick
- ********0
It's a difficult situation to be in. I'm in it myself right now. Part of me wants to fight for something that I know could be good again, that I know was one of the best things I've ever fucked up. But at the same time, I don't believe it's what the other person wants and as hard as it might be, I have to respect that.
If it's not something you both want then it simply can't be forced.
- edd-e0
jevad you need to tell off people more often in the first post back again in the FMTs those euros been doing it wednesdays sometimes you better repremand them and get your juices flowing back again ....come back to us!!!
- Jaline0
"sometimes you have to go until you get to the point where you will always know in your heart you did everything possible. After that, it's not you anymore. There is someone else in the situation."
yes.
jevad
(Feb 5 07, 16:43)love that
- slappy0
Of course you should fight for whats right in your heart, its the only thing that is actually real around you.
Money, cars, careers, ipods, xboxes, most of the precieved objects around us are things that are just meanlingless things with a dollar value attached.
I'd give it all away in a second if it meant being close to my wife or family... thats just the way I feel.
- slappy0
Sorry about the typos, trying to type fast in case I set off a fun alarm at work...
- _salisae_0
anything really good is hard work
- version30
When you make a mistake, don't look back at it long. Take the reason of the thing into your mind and then look forward. Mistakes are lessons of wisdom. The past cannot be changed. The future is yet in your power.
-Hugh White
- Point50
man, if you've really fought the good fight, and you believe that what you have described about your emotions being true, then you need to look at it as you've won. A lot of people would have given up a while ago, but you haven't. Just fight for your true happiness. If what you want doesn't stay, then you roll with the punches for a bit, because something better is right around the corner. It takes bad shit, sometimes really bad shit, to help you appreciate and understand what is really good in/about your life.
chin up, straight forward, and don't let your guard down.
- Seff0
good words point5.
- Jaline0
If this is about your personal life, then there are some obvious factors (ie. people who depend on you) that you have to consider.
I'm sure you already know this, and I don't want to get into it here for privacy issues (although I think some members here know about that too).
- liquid0
sent you email.....
- joyride0
We'll you should have met up with us this weekend. You would have been laughing at least part of the time.
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#2's the best, I was trying to hit this little kicker out of the trees and hit the freakin tree... lol
- GT_10
I thougt this was the PVN, not the EMO.
- arthur0
Jevad, I haven't read through all the posts, but have you tried marriage counselling?
My wife and I are in the midst of a rough patch. We've been together 13 yrs, have a son and want things to work out, but are open to all possibilities. So far counselling has been helpful for us. Sometimes it helps to talk to a professional.
Would you two be open to this?
- jevad0
arthur...that was my initial argument - but she seems not to think it's in her best interest. Indeed, there is much I can blame myself for in this breakdown of communications, but until she is ready and willing to accept partial responsibility there is not much i can do...and that is the most frustrating part.
For whatever reason, our paths have separated. Somewhere along the way here we lost each other, and lost ourselves.
I think the only thing that might save it, is the imte apart to rebuild what we are, and what we were, as individuals.
Only then will we be able to focus on what we had, what went wrong, and what we might be able to have again.
She says she feels like herself again now that we are separated - that she feels happier and more confident. I'm truely happy for her for that, but inside it burns to know she couldn't be that way with me...that she had to turn her back on me to get there.
And caught in the middle of this desparate time is a 9 year old boy who already has lived the life of a 90 year old, and needs nothing more than the stability and love of his parents. Which he will always get no matter what.
He must remain my focus - everything else is of a secondary concern.
Thank you all who posted for your wonderful insight, concern, and quotations.
They mean a LOT.