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- shaft0
If this really happens, never look back. Be an asshole, don't be a "friend". Meet her a few months later. This will either keep you fucked up or give you a surprising dose of calmness. Then meet her again, a year later.
However, this is just a piece of free advice, and since you paid nothing, don't expect it to be perfect. This worked for me, but I'v seen people stay in some kind of relationship after they break up to good efect, they're some kind of cousins after that.
I couldn't do that, it's either all or nothing.
- aka0
Shaft has a point. I broke up with my girlfriend a year ago when she went OS, but we've still stayed in touch and I'm glad we're still friends.
But it has made it harder to let go, and that "feeling" hangs around for a lot longer. If you jsut cut the cord and walk away, it will hurt a lot more at first, but for not as long....Good luck man, but I'm sure you'll know what has to be done when the time comes.
- shaft0
They always call you to get some help just a few weeks after they dumped you. You're the only person she can rely on, etc. So you take her dog to the vet (wasn't it yours too?), help her change apartment or go to some university offices with her due papers. She might even go to bed with you. After that, just when you expect there might be a chance for coming back, she starts talking about someone she just met and you start thinking wtf?
I think that's their way of saying goodbye.
- instantok0
http://www.lyricsdomain.com/6/fo…
put this on her phone as the ring when you call
- toe_knee0
jesus i just sang along to that
- ghandolf0
I'm in the same boat. I did it a year ago, after 5 years together. I've never gotten over her yet. It is best to just cut ties and let go, and don't look back. You simply can't be friends with someone you loved that much, and then see them with someone else. We teatered back and forth for a year, trying to find a comfortable spot until I finally told her not to come over or call anymore.
Also... write down all the bad things about the relationship right now. It will help later, and journal all your feelings. If you're mad, be mad. If you're hurt, be hurt and write it all down to get it out. Save it, and read it back when you're missing her. Other than that, all you can do is stay busy. Do things YOU always wanted to do. Take care of yourself and treat yourself well.
Bless you man... this was the hardest thing I ever had to go through.. including my divorce - cause... I hated THAT bitch.
This one I loved.Peace -
- instantok0
last time i got dumped i just hit the weights really hard...30 lbs of muscle and a tight tshirt later all i had to do was walk down the beach and catch a bunch of looks and i couldn't even remember that chick's name...i highly recommend it...
ahem...since being in a great relationship the aforementioned 30 lbs of muscle have turned in to roughly 50 lbs of some sort of gooey substance...not very attractive but i can balance a drink on my stomach while sitting on the couch...score
- _salisae_0
went through this last year .. there are no quick fixes. it'll hurt for awhile. as long as you can accept that you'll do good.
- johndiggity0
oh, and a premature welcome back to the single people's club!
- jimeeboy510
Thanks for everyones advice...I can't stop trying to re-evaluate my situation and if its worth throwing all away. Its one of those situations where its a bunch of lil problems, not major ones...ya know? Is this a common issue in the 2nd and 3rd yr? Just a bump in the road? Or have I reached a dead end? I guess only I will know...and i'll find out if we can coexist after I put more thought into this.
Again, thank you all!
- bartosz0
it always sucks... but that's life. one day you feel the most amazing feelings in thw world... the next you're feeling the most amazing pain.
Don't Be Crushed - Hawksley Workman
- whoohaa0
before you leave her fuck her hard and do all the nasty shit you couldn't do before
if that doesn't help
smack her ass say thanks and get the fuck on
plenty of bitches out there no need to get a headache from this
you either love or you don't, stop the bullshit
preach
- mayo0
I think it's a polite gesture to have one last Valentine's day together, but personally I couldn't do it. I would see it as an empty gesture whose only purpose is to relieve guilt on either side. Part as friends, but why delay the inevitable? That would just torture me, like a final count down. Allow yourself to hurt, cry, yell, you deserve it.
I'm probably going to get my ass kicked for liking this band, but their music seems to clean my blood (3 albums in particular). I don't know if this song will help, I used it to accept what happened and to move on with all i "had left" of me because I didn't want to lose any more of myself. This is a link to the video. It has puppets in it :)
- mayo0
Sorry, started another post because my first one felt too long.
Good luck through this hard time and best wishes on a brighter tomorrow. Love will happen and there won't be any doubts when it does.
- ********0
Its one of those situations where its a bunch of lil problems, not major ones...ya know?
Is this a common issue in the 2nd and 3rd yr? Just a bump in the road?
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i would say yes, been there my self, and from time to time i'm still there..it feels like the other one is trying to change the person you are into something they want, and that is partly true, sometimes you give in, sometimes not.. it's not easy to find the balance,
i think i found it and somehow i have learned to like my girlfriend for all the good things she does, and love for all the mistakes she make.
- airey0
"...ladies and gentlemen this is your captain speaking, light 'em up we're going down..."
take care man.
- forcetwelve0
mate - if you're feeling like you should split - split.
do what your mind initially says - not what you justify to yourself.
- toe_knee0
welcome to singledom
"What am I doing here
Your face is a mess
You walk by and give me room
And you put on your dress
I say I'll see you soon and I
I'll give you a call
I hear the door slam and feel nothing at allWhat am I doing here
I've been here for weeks
Gotta get outta of this room and go
Go clean these sheets
Why am I lying here and with what was her name
I feel nothing at all I feel no shameIt's another one night stand
Cause it makes me feel like a real man"
- clerk0
al green - how can you mend a broken heart