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- jimeeboy51
my gf for almost 3yrs and I are talkin bout splitting, or going on a 'break' as some people call it. only bc we have noticed that we disagree on many things...not bc we don't love each other no more. But because of that, we can't find outselves beyond a bf/gf relationship. Bc it's mutual, we're planning on having a last vday dinner together and hope that we part well. Does anyone have any advice before we pull the plug or any good tunes that you can recommend to soften the blow? This is tough on my mind....
- -leah-0
aw man, your story breaks my heart. i wish you strength and luck :)
- Nac0
stay focused and keep your mind occupied with priorities, you never know what may happen in the future, if you do split, it may be for the best permanently, if not, you guys will probably find something you will miss in one another....never know thats all im saying.... all happens for a reason brother
- jimeeboy510
thanks leah. I really hate this. Half of me wants to stay...but my other half says I can't. What a miserable relief.
- jimeeboy510
I'm a believer and preacher in what you say Nac...its just harder to do than it is to say...FUCK!
- Nac0
trust me I know, I am kind of in your shoes, but being through a break up before where I was with someone for almost 6 years, you live, and you learn, and you grow from it, but let nothing stop you from being what you want, not even yourself, stay up
- johndiggity0
do not, under any circumstance, look back. you'll feel better in no time.
- toe_knee0
get her pregnant so she cant leave you
- blackspade0
dont
look
back^ what he said
- jimeeboy510
nice one toe_knee...i think in that case, i wouldn't be able to leave her.
- BonSeff0
have a nice dinner, and for desert get all emotional and start crying, then laugh hysterically and tell her to get the fuck out before you pee your pants.
- gruntt0
that 'don't look back' thing is good advice.
a 'break' is really just a bullshit way of approaching a hard situation with both of you hoping it won't hurt as bad.
it's gonna hurt. period. probably harder than you think. but by calling it a 'break' it gives you both a loophole to go running back when you think it hurts too much.
i'm really not trying to be an asshole, i'm just saying it like it is.
good luck to you both.
- jimeeboy510
You're an asshole Gruntt...but you make total sense. We never went on a break before and its a bs reason for me as well...and you're right..it cushions the blow by saying that. Thanks all.
- -leah-0
good advice gruntt!
- ********0
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that just sucks
- gruntt0
you called me an asshole and said thank you in the same response.
you're gonna be fine.
;)
- sheepman0
think about why you are breaking up and make a mental note of the way you feel right now.
chances are 1 month from now, when you are totally miserable and missing her, you won't remember why you broke up with someone that you loved and try to get back together with her.
you should probably write it down or something.
- jimeeboy510
I'm usually on the advising side of the story too...its just soooo different going being the one going through the emotions that come with all this.
check out this song:
The Ataris - A Beautiful Mistake
perfect example of how I feel.
- jimeeboy510
Sheepman, I know why we're not compatible and I won't forget it. But the hard part is leaving all the memories. But its harder to look into the future as well.
- jimeeboy510
man...I just noticed that i started a pity thread for myself. Thanks putting aside the pity and laying it on me thick.
- toe_knee0
Sheepman is right. Write down everything that pisses you off about her, then tattoo them to you're brain, and when you think of her think of the shitty way she made you feel.
And delete her phone number cause you will try and call her for the easy shag