Dating after a certain age
- Started 6 years ago
- Last post 21 days ago
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- necromation3
Split from a long term relationship of 12 years - We just ended up becoming more flatmates and will remain friends...|
But now i got myself a Russian model (no,not a mail order one!) and genuine super kind soul. Oh i'm 46
- NBQ00-1
- The problem is, after you exhausted your friends network, co workers etc, been to some meetups with odd bods, where else are you to meet anyone?shapesalad
- You may well see an attractive to you lady while out and about, but if you dare to approach they respond ‘I have a bf’.shapesalad
- Plus in my area of London 75% of the women I see in my neighborhood, at the supermarket etc are covered in a black bed sheet. Can’t even see their face.shapesalad
- I actually met a bunch of very cool women on Bumble a few years ago (in NYC). But I would chat very briefly and if there was any connection meet in personhardhat
- Shape, they’re covered in bed sheets and you’re complaining? You’re half way there buddy!futurefood
- I don’t think your biggest dating hurdle is the “black bed sheets”, ya racist fuckscarabin
- sted1
- necromation2
Oh, i know it's a tired trope... Get fit! The way women look at me now is waaaay different, I can't say I was ugly and I never really had any issues finding partners but it was usually a very different effort... Now I've completely changed my appearance thru just training and taking more care of my health, I'm still in a happy relationship of 5 years but now when I go out with mates I can guarantee i get hit on by at least one woman, it feels super weird and almost outta body, it's a nice confident boost but i know what i got at home awesome :)
- *is awesomenecromation
- you get hit on by women? where do you live? usually women don't hit on a guy no matter how hot he is as they expect the men to make first moveNBQ00
- Where is this land of women who are constantly hitting on middle aged men?!HAYZ1LLLA
- < Thailand_niko
- < Guinea-Bissau.shapesalad
- < Ukraine.zardoz
- May also be because you are not looking and just relaxing with your friends you get hit on. You send out a different vibe.Nutter
- Combination of being fit, and what Nutter says. Fit, chill, and living in the present with your mates? That sort of person is irrisistable, men or women.Continuity
- No wonder you're getting flitered with, necro!
Take notes, NBQ00.Continuity - Also, do dispense with the PUA bullshit about women expecting men to make the first move, NBQ00. Real life isn't an Andrew Tate video. God.Continuity
- Also-also, *flirted withContinuity
- < Epstein Islandutopian
- is this the Russian model you mentioned below 3 years ago?fadein11
- I've got a friend who is the absolute bullseye of female desire. We'll meet in a pub for a chat and women will start wandering over asking if knows...Horp
- where the toilets are, or what brand of beer they should try, or what the time is whilst wearing a watch and holding a mobile phone. They queue up to ask stuff.Horp
- Horp, is he a male top model?NBQ00
- < Alabama - his mom..hydro74
- I noticed something similar not long after i got married... there's a confidence and relaxation that goes along with marriage. women 'sense' that you're notexador1
- desperate, or 'looking' or hitting on them etc, and that can be attractive. Also, there's the sense that if someone else thought you were worthexador1
- 'taking off the market' that maybe you're worth looking into. Also, at our age in life success, or atleast comfortableness can be very attractive.exador1
- a buddy of mine for the past 30 years or so is a pretty successful black dude. Works in marketing for big banks etc. When we were young dads, he and his wife,exador1
- and me and mine took a trip to New Orleans. as we walked through town, both of us pushing strollers with our kids etc, maaaaaaan, the looks he got.exador1
- handsome, black, well dressed, and a good dad???? it was like they were pushing his wife out of the way to chat him up lol...exador1
- I think at 50 (me) at this point its likely the fact that i'm still slim, dress decent, and after 30 years with my wife, am not 'on the prowl'... so it givesexador1
- off the 'i'm safe' vibe i suppose....exador1
- I've been hit on few times by women before. Only to realise it yrs later lolpango
- Guys take note: The women of little talked about country Guinea-Bissau are looking to get their pussies stretched. They'll do almost anything for a western visashapesalad
- I've already been on a sortie there and managed to bang a decent amount. I only picked up a couple STDs but it was worth it.shapesalad
- Are you on a quest to collect all kind of STDs?pango
- So you've gone and managed to pick yourself up some syphillis, eh, shapesalad? It would certainly explain your brain-rot.Continuity
- You know that someone is a Virgil when they start bragging about 'stretching pussies' of desperate girls in developing countries.canoe
- I wish my Latin was good enough to be called a Virgil, canoeGnash
- In most western countries chances of getting hit on by women is slim even if you're handsome. On the other hand women start complaining why they never get...NBQ00
- ...hit on anymore. Couple women told me already.NBQ00
- @pango you mean hit by a few women (not hit on) ;)NBQ00
- ya by them
https://i.imgur.com/…pango - LOL Shapesalad will chime into any conversation to talk about visa desperate foreigners. Sad little man.HAYZ1LLLA
- shapesalad-5
1) Withholding sex
2) Withholding fun
3) Withholding affection and approval
4) Being very controlling
5) Trying to change your husband
6) Being moody and emotionally volatile
7) Demeaning men's activities
8) Get them to open up their feelings and insecurities, then use those against them
9) Mothering your husband
10) Treat them like they don't have feelings and dismiss their emotions- Sorry your going through that. But you know you can always leave and go to Guinea Bissaupango
- Since it's abundantly clear you can't make a woman happy, I suggest you try it with men. You might have better luck.Continuity
- My wife is 0 for 10 on this list... I married a literal angel, tho.PonyBoy
- ^ I don’t know about that, pony - When you told your fire story in the blog, sounds like you left her behind! You got the dog, though :)Gnash
- haha!! She was already at work. <3PonyBoy
- ;)Gnash
- Faden 11 - It's actually 4 years apparently she told me! feels like five lolnecromation
- NBQ00-7
- NBQ00-7
- NBQ00-7
- NBQ00-7
- NBQ00-4
- NBQ00-1
- I had no idea it was this bad for guys on dating apps. Holy Jesus.NBQ00
- Guys are the ones doing it.bainbridge
- bainbridge0
Dating apps suck.
- fooler17
I'm slightly over 50, I've been separated for over 3 years, I just signed the divorce papers yesterday.
I've been serial dating since my wife moved out. I've dated all sorts of women... Short, Tall, Skinny, Curvy, Older, Younger, Anti-Vaxxers, Trumpers, Radical Feminists, Sound Healers, Buddists, Country Music listeners... I've really enjoyed meeting new and interesting people but never found any deep connection with any of them.
I met a woman 2 months ago and we have so much in common, so many life experiences in common. She's beautiful, smart, funny. She's about my age with 2 sons like me. Finalizing her long marriage soon like me. We've talked on the phone everyday, texted countless times during the day.
I haven't felt like this about anyone in decades.
We've spent 4 weekends together already and can't wait to spend more time with her.
The only catch is she lives 2 hours away and The Dave Mathews Band is her favorite artist. I've broken up with women for less, I think I can handle the distance and will have to tolerate her music taste.- Also she was a designer/AD but is getting another degree to become an art therapist. I never dated another designer, we're a peculiar group.fooler
- Go with her, TDMB is a decent band, you can't imagine what I've endured in 25 years of marriage ;)
Good luck, life is short!OBBTKN - you won’t always live 2hrs away. maybe someday you’ll find a band you both like. Those are little things. If your values align, you like her and she likes you.monNom
- That’s what really matters. You can flex on the other stuff.monNom
- this is nicested
- I've made her playlists and slowly introducing her to safe alt bands like The National, Spoon, Elliot Smith, Band of Horses...fooler
- and I've actually like some of her suggestions. I never thought I'd be listening to Taylor Swift and Ed Sheeran but the things we do for love.fooler
- ahahahahsted
- Taylor Swift duuud how old is she? :)))sted
- 2 sons and 16 lolsted
- "she's about my age" yeah just reversed :F you are 51 she is 15 lolsted
- I'll have to check the legal age limit in our states.fooler
- ewww sound healerspango
- its funny because one of her sons is into bands like Cradle of Filth, Maggot Stompers Corpse Pile, Vomit Forth & Dying Fetus!!!!!!!!fooler
- LOL @pango! That was a strange short relationship.fooler
- That Dave Matthews Band turn at the end!!! Lolz.
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!ideaist - Naw... enjoy it man! Dating at our age is wild. I’m in a similar situation. One woman I really enjoyed hanging out with hated live music. I though that was a....thumb_screws
- ...deal breaker but not having all the same interests worked really wellthumb_screws
- Baffled at dating antivaxxers and trumpers but DMB is the deal-breaker. Yikes.cotton
- They were hot. The crazier the hotter sometimes. I only really know that one DMB song from 30 years ago. Crash. Its not terrible.fooler
- Great post - enjoy and good luck! PIITBstoplying
- 2 hours away ain't a big deal, but DMB might be the deal breaker, haha!! My wife is a DMB fan, btw (I am not), it was high on my shit list too, but all good.davey_g
- Lol you dated anti-vaxxer Maga women but Dave Matthews Band bothers you.NBQ00
- have you met DMB fans???? they're the worst!
uggghpango - sounds funmilfhunter
- At some point it's more important to choose who will put balms on sore muscles you can't reach as you age than to a fully align on musical tastes.mg33
- lol @ the Dave Matthews band part. I agree that could be a warning sign.yuekit
- Horp4
I loved reading your post Fooler. So much to relate to.
I'm 55.
My ex and I seperated very amicably, getting on for six years ago now.We're lucky. We just recognised it had reached the end and we made a change that worked for all of us, and we're good friends. Great friends even.
I've dated all sorts since, then I had a 3 year relationship that revived a brief thing from way back when I was 27.
That ended and I dated a few more women, exploring dating apps for the first time.
It became alarming to me how many really strange people there are on dating apps.
I have 3 really alarming (but also quite entertaining) anecdotes about 3 different people I went all the way to date#6 or so with.
And then just as I was about to delete the apps and write it off as a dud avenue with genuinely dangerous risks, I matched with a really amazing woman, and we've been a thing ever since.
But...
She loves Maroon5
Maroon fucking 5
- Hahaha! It could be worse (DMB!)fooler
- "she willllllllll be looooooved~~~"
i bet you can hear that in your head now.pango - but i thought it was the law that ladies must have terrible music taste...
*ducks from incoming brickbats from all the women on this site*hans_glib - "women on this site" hahaha! We scared them all away years ago.
*Waiting for Shellie (SP?) to respondfooler
- palimpsest0
Have y'all ever done some crazy shit during dates that you restrained yourselves from doing when you were younger?
Because the premise is making it look fun.
