No kids, you can work weekends!
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- Boz
I don't have anything against kids.. I get why people get them and why they want them..
I'll probably get to a point in life where I might want kids (or not) but I'm getting increasingly more annoyed by the fact that people (like me or a lot of others) without kids are looked as more "exploitable" with work hours than the people with kids.
It's starting to bother me a bit when I'm expected to deliver stuff or work more time on projects (either by my clients or agencies) because I don't have kids, while those, who made conscious decision to get kids, get away with a lot of stuff.
What's up with that? It's like you are more respected and given more space if you have kids and if you don't, well it's kind of a given you will work like a bitch.
I'm a really hard worker, I guess it's just starting to bother me more and more since I'm noticing it more and more as I'm getting older I guess.
People, who made a decision to get kids (nobody forced them) are getting off easy with a lot of things just because they have kids, as if their time is more valuable than mine.
Hey, you wanted to have kids, now put up with the work and time and not drop shit on me because I don't have kids so you can go have barbecue with yours.
It just sucks big time.
- bjladams0
i'd give up work to spend time with my kids anytime.
- bjladams0
i'd give up work to spend time with my kids anytime.
- nb0
I'd give up kids to spend time with my work.
- Boz0
But that's the thing.. I don't care.. it was a decision "you" made consciously, you should be held to the same standards as everyone else in regards to work and obligations to business and your colleagues.
If you find life hard and can't do things you shouldn't be excused.. you shouldn't have had kids to begin with. Instead, I'm suppose to cover or work twice more (as a given thing) because I don't have kids so you can go have wonderful time with yours.
It's really annoying.
- monospaced0
I sympathize. My coworker, who's sitting next to me right now, has two children and ends up "working from home" almost twice a week, and the rest of the time he ends up leaving at 5pm, or showing up late because he had to drop them off. The result is that I get the majority of the workload and am constantly picking up where he left off.
- I always drop the kids off before work...rupedixon
- * GASP * he leaves at 5 o'clock??dewilde
- yeah. what's up with that!twokids
- well, I guess what I'm saying is that he doesn't really ever put in 8 hrsmonospaced
- bjladams0
i dont dump stuff on people for my family... if i cant do it, i pay someone else to- if there's nobody that wants the money/work, i stay up late and do it.
- d_rek0
Haha. Both of you twats - monospaced and Boz - can eat shit.
Fucking spend some time with some children and then get back to us.
- monospaced0
c'mon d_rek, you can't really say we're in the wrong for being a little bothered by this. And anyway, I spend plenty of time with my friend's children, and I respect the time they demand. I also recognize that there is little choice in the matter when a person is a parent. I don't agree with Boz's opinion that it's a choice that they shouldn't have made, but I do feel the effect.
- nb0
There's all sorts of biases when it comes to parenting.
For example, in Canada it's difficult to find a doctor that will perform a vasectomy or tubal ligation on a person without children.
But walk into a clinic and tell the doctor you want 15 kids, and you're likely to get a prescription for fertility drugs.
- Boz0
@bjladams,
that's commendable but unfortunately in most situation you will be better off than people without kids. It's just that expectations are different which is a bit unfair.
Most people exploit that a lot. It's like, it's a given you are ok to miss stuff or not work weekends because your kid has baseball practice or some stuff like that..
I mean I'd like to play basketball on the weekend, but i'll cover or do a project for someone with kids who is having an awesome time. My time is not less important than someone else's just because they have kids. I didn't make them have kids.
- Boz0
I mean what I'm saying is that, when someone says, I have to go home at 5pm because i have to take my kids to training, and the rest of the folks without kids are slaving until 11pm, you should be told "no, sorry, you can't go, find someone who will take them"..but in reality that's not what will happen.
I don't hate kids, I like them, but it's a matter of responsibility. It's really lame as fuck to expect someone to get ass-raped with work because they don't have kids and "he/she just dosn't have anything better to do anyways" attitude..
and that's generally what people with kids feel like. They feel like their shit is more important. I'm not dismissing the importance of kids or that you have to take care of them, I get it, but that shit shouldn't drop on my back, like monospaced pointed out. And that's very often occurrence.
- stoplying0
Hey Boz, just curious your age in relation to your co-workers. Are you a young buck? Are you new to the job? Not making excuses, just askin'
- omahadesigns0
life's short. people love their kids. what work is more important than your kids?
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- making apps for apple junkiesplash
- oh please. how about being responsible enough to carry your own weight at work?iCanHasQBN
- omahadesigns0
solution:
buy some kids.