Breakup Advice
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- mg330
You've never seen Red Dawn!!!
For my very last day of college, which involved one very brutal final exam in my French 4 class, I made a t-shirt iron on that said "Red Dawn Is The Greatest Movie Ever."
Mostly to humor myself and distract my classmates. Anyways, that final exam was like trying to outrun an atomic bomb blast, so the shirt at least kept my spirits up.
- jkinginc0
i'm feeling better already!
- mikotondria20
Codfather, believe me when I say that 27 is probably one of the most difficult in-between ages that people get to - ahead of you you just see the staid married life that you had drawn so much of your teen and early twenties identity from, you start to question those attitudes of mature rebellion and 'freedom' that you have spent the last 10 years honing, and cant see any happy way to transition, hell - you don't want to become what it is you perceive being properly grown up (30), to be..
But honestly mate, for me certainly, 30 was a great milestone, to get to 30 with 10 years of a meaningful relationship behind you would just be fantastic I think - you're really not going to change much in the next 5 years, if you're happy now, be glad and look forward to tomorrow, next year/5 years ahead will take care of itself, if you love this girl, and you feel loved then run with it, the single life is one that people remember through rose colored specs, forgetting that it was more often than not drinking and socialising to try and meet someone to counter the lonliness of sleeping and being alone, however fun that process was..
Just dont confuse your relationship for your own individual existential angst, talk and grow together, and then decide.
- moogoo0
Codfather, believe me when I say that 27 is probably one of the most difficult in-between ages that people get to - ahead of you you just see the staid married life that you had drawn so much of your teen and early twenties identity from, you start to question those attitudes of mature rebellion and 'freedom' that you have spent the last 10 years honing, and cant see any happy way to transition, hell - you don't want to become what it is you perceive being properly grown up (30), to be..
But honestly mate, for me certainly, 30 was a great milestone, to get to 30 with 10 years of a meaningful relationship behind you would just be fantastic I think - you're really not going to change much in the next 5 years, if you're happy now, be glad and look forward to tomorrow, next year/5 years ahead will take care of itself, if you love this girl, and you feel loved then run with it, the single life is one that people remember through rose colored specs, forgetting that it was more often than not drinking and socialising to try and meet someone to counter the lonliness of sleeping and being alone, however fun that process was..
Just dont confuse your relationship for your own individual existential angst, talk and grow together, and then decide.
mikotondria2
(Aug 16 07, 16:51)well said. *tear*
- Tara0
always follow your heart/gut. and that's it. best compass you'll ever have.
- Witt0
the poster went vacationing last week...
thread keeps going...
... gotta say...
... fucking bastards...
project less about your lives and work more about it you silly cunts!
ohoh. who's saying aw? ow im?! fon profoyle?! whoe's he? dunno. fock it.
that's my story.
- renaphuah0
You should have known what you wanted earlier
you know that when the other half has been with you for so long (7 fucking years!) she is ready to settle down in a few years time (same goes if the other half is a man)
If you still think trying something new with other pussies... i mean women, then be prepared to be either happier or more unhappy, you cannot expect something better because life is full of surprises.
What if the next girl is a crazy wedding obsessed type?
Or what if the next one is a whore?
The best thing for you to do is think about what is best for you. She will get hurt and definitely will hate you for life (hell has no fury over a woman's wrath)but its up to you mate. maybe go for younger girls, they will probably be more fun ;) and wont pressure you. but who knows, some girls wanna get married young nowadays to jump into the the bandwagon :) or if they have no ambition or whatsoever and figure life is easier if they get married.
i am giving you my point of view as a 23 year old girl, had some ups and downs in relatonships, know a guy who is 38 year old who doesnt wanna settle down, but his ex moved on (good for her), now he is looking for young pussies but couldnt get lucky, because he is an old bag, and a prick.
it's your life and it is your choice. life is short and full of surprises. and always, do not expect too much. and what happens next comes from the choice that you are going to make.
good luck.
- renaphuah0
i read all of codfather's entries
i feel sorry for you
you sound so pathetic
i do hope she find someone who knows what he wants
- Point50
codfather:
• don't look back, move ahead
• don't look for something better, just live your life in your own accord and it may just find you
• keep your mind, finances, organization and body in tip top shape while you're single; hell, you won't have shit else to do so just get better.
• don't chalk this up as a loss, take it with you as a hell of a lot of experience. I don't give a fuck what anyone says, if someone were to spend a year or two in a horrible relationship at least you left with the pure experience of it all.
- dkmb0
when do we get to find out the outcome?
- madirish0
are they still together, or did it happen yet? someone post on myspace for me...
madirish
(Aug 16 07, 11:26)
- OSFA0
hahaha...
on the next episode
- Jaline0
I'm kind of planning to get married around the age of 27 (still have 6.5 years until then), but you never know...
- Jaline0
Witt, you want to talk about something?
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- e-pill0
when i read thru the posts i didnt see if cod and his girl live together...or are they just together living separately??
i lvoe how renaphuah says 'pussies'!!!
;)
- Codfather_0
Codfather, believe me when I say that 27 is probably one of the most difficult in-between ages that people get to - ahead of you you just see the staid married life that you had drawn so much of your teen and early twenties identity from, you start to question those attitudes of mature rebellion and 'freedom' that you have spent the last 10 years honing, and cant see any happy way to transition, hell - you don't want to become what it is you perceive being properly grown up (30), to be..
But honestly mate, for me certainly, 30 was a great milestone, to get to 30 with 10 years of a meaningful relationship behind you would just be fantastic I think - you're really not going to change much in the next 5 years, if you're happy now, be glad and look forward to tomorrow, next year/5 years ahead will take care of itself, if you love this girl, and you feel loved then run with it, the single life is one that people remember through rose colored specs, forgetting that it was more often than not drinking and socialising to try and meet someone to counter the lonliness of sleeping and being alone, however fun that process was..
Just dont confuse your relationship for your own individual existential angst, talk and grow together, and then decide.
mikotondria2
(Aug 16 07, 16:51)can't log in with my prev login as im on my laptop and can't remember my passw - anyhow....
mikotondria2 - after much worry, thinking and frustration over the last few days I've made the decision not to break up with her. I had a quick look at this thread just to thank the people that gave their advice (aside from the ones that told me to become a monk or gay, although that was tempting).
I hit upon your response randomly and it is 100% what I was thinking yesterday and is bang on what I feel - mighty strange!
I realised that I love her too much to through it all away and that the desire that men have to screw around is always going to be there whatever relationship their in - at least on the evidence of the majority of friends that I have and what I have been feeling.
The point that someone made about living for now and if you're happy now (as you say) you should be glad and that living in the past or anticipating the future is not the way to go. I almost feel that because we got together so young I have anticipated that we were always going to break up one day and in a way that had sedated me in our relationship and I wasn't giving 100% recently.
Anyway I have gone with my gut feeling and I feel really happy about that now.
Ta for everyones comments again! Hell of a lot cheaper than a therapist.
- Jaline0
I'm happy for you...
- OSFA0
no cops? no restrainng orders? nothing???
pfffft
- Tara0
that's really nice to hear, glad you worked through it in your head