Breakup Advice
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- rafalski0
Usually someone else is there - already or in a subliminal form.
Witt
(Aug 16 07, 03:17)I want to have more relationships before I settle down.
codfather
(Aug 16 07, 03:18)Uhh.. so you say this saving yourself for marriage thing isn't working for you anymore?
And what's with this "don't come to nt with that shit" attitude? What's wrong with you people? What you mean he should decide without us?
- Witt0
she might have had a holiday fling
Bluejam
(Aug 16 07, 03:30)That is the thing - if she said she wanted to break up with me because she found someone else I think I'd be relieved - I guess that is saying something huh?
codfather
(Aug 16 07, 03:33)yeah - it's saying were your guilt lies. more, it's saying that that was what happened to you. if it had happended to her too you would be quits. and happy for ever after.
- codfather0
I think the Monk idea might be the solution - that or erasing shit from my mind like in spotless mind.
- Raniator0
Basically, you need to find out she's been cheating on you.
Ta da, problem solved.
- kelpie0
And what's with this "don't come to nt with that shit" attitude? What's wrong with you people? What you mean he should decide without us?
rafalski
(Aug 16 07, 03:33)lol
- Raniator0
Mate, we need to see a picture...
- rafalski0
Keep in mind its not easy now to find a proper girlfriend.
senseg
(Aug 16 07, 03:18)That is actually sad. Like saying people should stay together out of fear of loneliness.
I guess most do.
- trevedda0
Be very sure this what you want.
7 years is a long time, and it will feel odd not to be together after that time.
If half the relationship (you) doesn't want to be in it. Then the chances are the relationship probably isn't working for BOTH of you.
Being honest and talking to her is not neccessarily any easier than cutting and running.
I say again, be sure, then check again. It's not going to be easy to go back (if you wanted to).
- codfather0
Enter response:Keep in mind its not easy now to find a proper girlfriend.
senseg
(Aug 16 07, 03:18)That is actually sad. Like saying people should stay together out of fear of loneliness.
I guess most do.
rafalski
(Aug 16 07, 03:46)This is what I am fearing the most but I think you are right I should stay in a relationship for this reason, it makes no sense...
- rafalski0
My underlying feeling is that I'm going to get more frustrated and unhappy as the relationship carries on because I want to have more relationships before I settle down.
codfather
(Aug 16 07, 03:18)Also, it might be a good idea not to tell her that you're missing out on screwing around in your early 20's. In a few years you'll see her over a couple of lattes and have a nice retrospective talk.. Then you'll be able to say something like "apparently I wasn't mature enough when we met, I had to make my own mistakes in order to grow up.. " or "we were just a couple of young kids on this highway of life , nobody had told us how bumpy it was"..
On second thought, I'd scrap the latter version.
- codfather0
Also, it might be a good idea not to tell her that you're missing out on screwing around in your early 20's. In a few years you'll see her over a couple of lattes and have a nice retrospective talk.. Then you'll be able to say something like "apparently I wasn't mature enough when we met, I had to make my own mistakes in order to grow up.. " or "we were just a couple of young kids on this highway of life , nobody had told us how bumpy it was"..
On second thought, I'd scrap the latter version.
rafalski
(Aug 16 07, 04:02)Shame I'm 27! I'll probably regret all this, get really depressed and jump off a bridge in a year or so - but hopefully not. Glass half full huh.
- codfather0
I will be sure to let you know how it goes and whether I made the right decision in a few months time! Signing off...
- 23kon0
how long have you known that you wont get married to her - and if its been for a while - then WHY have you been going out with her for so long?
i hope you manage to think of a decent excuse for when you break the news to her cos if you tell her what you've written on here then you are going to end up with some shredded clothing, broken computer/tv/dvd/hifi or a dented/wrecked car.
- OSFA0
pssst guys, I think he's ghei...
- TheBlueOne0
If you are not happy now, get out.
If you are happy now but for some vague reason think you'll be unhappy in your future, get over it. Humans are terrible at predicting what will make them happy or sad in the future. What we envision is usually wrong.
- AndyRoss0
There's only one thing to do in your predicament:
join the army.
- Witt0
Was I too harsh? I hope not. Sorry If I was.
- OSFA0
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There's only one thing to do in your predicament:join the army.
AndyRoss
(Aug 16 07, 05:31)hahaha
- barbtastic0
tell her you don't like her ability to kern.
skt
(Aug 16 07, 03:01)yr just jealous of my kerning stylez
- 5timuli0
Regret the things you have done, not the things you havent.
/cliché
Or... just join the FFL.
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