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- ninjasavant
My 17 year old sister is pregnant. I'm at work and I'm finding it hard not to cry. I think I need to go home. She's looking to me for answers and I don't know what to say. Today sucks.
- CALLES0
sorry to hear that... no words here
- ********0
sorry man...geez thats young....Well, i would say to try and be there for her - even if you think its ridiculous, who else will she turn to?
- madirish0
wowzers... tough man. is she in SJ too?
- MrD0
she needs support
one thing you shouldnt do is what she did wrong but how you can help her
i bet she is feeling a lot worst
- JackRyan0
Man...that's tough my cousin got pregnant really early and the father bailed, and is now in prison last time I checked. It's a tough thing to do. Her family really pulled together and they're raising it together. It makes it easier on her for now, but I don't know what will happen if she would decide to go to college or something. I wish the best for you guys.
- -sputnik-0
aw ninja, that's really tough. i can't imagine how you are both feeling. she's probably very frightened and feeling bad on many different levels right now so just be there for her and tell her you love her.
- ninjasavant0
Unfortunately she's back in NY with my parents in the house I own so I suppose I can trump any move to kick her out since my parents are fundamentalist baptists. She's going to tell her 21 yr old boyfriend today so I suppose his response will affect a lot of what happens next.
- madirish0
wow x2 man.
tough, but i too would echo dinky's comments; she (and all involved) need the support.
best wishes.
- ********0
damn
21 yr old boyfriend? He better pony up.
- canuck0
turn a negative into a positive. thats all i can suggest.
- k0na_an0k0
all you can do is give her your support, and if needed, be a shoulder to cry on.
good luck man.
- level2b0
Let her know she'll be fine. She needs you and your parents support.
- Point50
I can't lie, that's a tough one man; but like canuck just said, keep this on the positive. I've said this before on here but I'm going to say it again "In the end, everything is going to be OK"
Be her brother and help the young woman out. I wish the best for you and her.
- robotron3k0
ninja, everything will be alright. In fact things may actually bring your family closer in the long run. you should support her and tell that to her. you should also help your family as well. the reason I know is the same thing happened to my sister years ago, and everything turned out alright, in fact, things actually made our family closer.
- ItTango0
it's gonna be rough, but it ain't the end of the world.
whatever plans she had before will be harder to come by, but not impossible. hopefully mr. 21 will step up.
give her tough love, but no lectures...
best to her...
- mrdobolina0
I have an incredibly awesome nephew out of a situation very close to this. Believe me when I say this doesn't have to be a sad time.
- version30
cry happy or cry sad?
we are after all talking of you being an uncle
- OSFA0
Damn dude, I am really sorry to hear that, I can't imagine how you are felling right now, but u have to be strong and be the support your little sister needs. We're here for ya' man. Good luck.
- emokid0
everyone's already said this but support is the most important thing. don't be angry or upset. and being the elder brother, make sure your parents don't get upset or angry with her either. easier said than done but talk to your parents and ask them to be supportive as well. be there for her.
- sherman0
my sister was 16 when she got pregnant which was 11 years ago now.
it kinda fucked my whole family up for a while and it was tough on everyone. The positive thing was the she was born healthy and lived with my sister until my sister basically abandoned her with my parents and took off with some other dude and has had 2 more kids in the meantime.
She now lives with her real dad who finally started to get his shit together.
my parents try to do all they can for Brooke (now 11) but she definitely has some issues.
my best advice is be supportive and dont let your anger or judgment get in the way. i resented my sister for all the pain it caused the family and sadly we dont really speak anymore. its been so long that i feel we can never make right.
its all very complicated but I wish you and your family all the best in the decisions that will be made over the next few years and I hope your sister will continue with her education.
Shes in for a very changed life.