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- BonSeff0
just try to keep her positive. good things will come of it.
- barbtastic0
crying?
she's lucky her choice to have unprotected sex produced the most favorable circumstances...
i'm sure it's a shock, but she's not going to suffer from an uncurable disease and die, and you're gonna be an uncle!
:D
- OSFA0
Dr. Barb has spoken.
- ********0
yeah, compare all life's problems to a STD.//
- -sputnik-0
just support her...there's lots of time to talk about and plan her future. right now she's not only in a scary situation, but she has (or will start to have) some crazy hormones which might freak her out even more. just make sure she doesn't get depressed, especially towards the end of the pregnancy if the father decides not to participate.
- OSFA0
btw, how are YOU sput? I bet you can't wait eh?
- -sputnik-0
thanks for asking OSFA. one and a half months to go, and i'm ready NOW! lol
- OSFA0
Hahaha, I bet.I remember when my wife was pregnant and almost due, she couldn't wait either.
Are you walking a lot?
Best of luck!
- -sputnik-0
i was walking almost daily at lunchtime but then it got so hot i couldn't...now i try to like 4 times a week :\
- Gucci0
*sends positive vibes.
With lots of help the kid can come into a loving familial environment and be happy and healthy. It'll make all the stuff you're feeling now much better in due time.
- barbtastic0
i guess i am just trying to figure out why ninja is so upset, is it just the initial shock?
my sister was 20 when she got prego, and i cried b/c the father is the bigest jerk on the planet, but i knew my parents [also baptists] and me were happy to be there for her...
i don't have to words to explain how much i love my neice, she has had a profound effect on how i see the world and taught me so much about myself, i get giddy thinking about her crazy antics :D
- mrdobolina0
Couldn't agree with Barb more, once the kid is born, the grandparents see it, most of the lameness will wash away.
- Jaline0
It just happened. Give ninja some time to think about stuff.
- robotron3k0
Couldn't agree with Barb more, once the kid is born, the grandparents see it, most of the lameness will wash away.
mrdobolina
(Jul 16 07, 12:33)well said.
- barbtastic0
Couldn't agree with Barb more, once the kid is born, the grandparents see it, most of the lameness will wash away.
mrdobolina
(Jul 16 07, 12:33)he means everything but the baptist hehee
- Llyod0
shoulda used a rubber
- ninjasavant0
I agree with the sentiment that in the long run this can have a positive impact and the prospect of being an uncle and having something take the heat of my mom's constant requests for a grandkid will be a welcome relief. I found out the boyfriend was planning on proposing in the near future so I'm hopeful that he will step up to the plate on this as that will make the whole situation that much smoother.
The initial sadness was over the fact that my sister is immature and not really cut out to handle this at the moment. Fortunately people can surprise you every once in a while and this situation would hopefully grow her up a bit. I'm also sad because I know she's going to have to reevaluate her life and her plans and that just hurts me to know she might miss out on some of the things she wanted to do. I kinda grieve with her more than for her in that regard.
My parents are the wild card. I could possibly see this splitting them up for various reasons I won't get into. And if my sister decides to terminate the pregnancy, well, my mom used to bring me with her when she would march in front of Planned Parenthood when I was 10ish. So that would cause no shortage of intense drama. And if my mom finds out after the fact and knows that I knew and didn't stop it, well the outcome of that is less than desireable.
For now I'm going to concentrate on the potential positive outcome and prepare myself for an ungodly amount of late night calls and constant support for them and not worry about the negatives until I have to.
*crosses fingers really hard.
- mrdobolina0
good luck dude.
- madirish0
good luck dude.
mrdobolina
(Jul 16 07, 13:57)x2
- -sputnik-0
i completely understand the stress, ninja. i don't think anyone is cut out to be a parent at 17. even though things will work out and there will be great joy coming to your family, your sister will still have to make sacrifices. that which may come easily to those her age without children (such as college) may be more challenging to her, but with love and support she can do it. i guess i'm sort of answering some of the "what's the big deal" sentiments here.
yes, it's a blessing...but it can still be a very hard reality for someone that young to face