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- Ginja
So its like this... I've been going out with my girlfriend for months and shes been having trouble with this guy at college and work (same guy) because he doesn't like me and wants to be with her. He's been really nasty to her and got her to the point where shes been in tears and has got the rest of the class to not involve her in anything. Shes now moved in with me and tonight is having some friends over which I'm fine with, they're all nice people, apart from she sprung on me last night that this guy has been being nice to her and she has invited him too. I've expressed that I really don't want him in the house but shes just not getting it. Advise please.
- BonSeff0
if he shows up, you have my permission to punch his face off
- de4k0
let him come.
be as nice as pie.
spike his drinks with strong laxatives/lsd.
enjoy the show.
- Ginja0
Thats all I wanted, someone to agree that I'm right in thinking he is a prick and should not be there. Why the fuck does she not see this....? Oh I forgot to mention she also used to date the guy.
- ********0
"Oh I forgot to mention she also used to date the guy."
this is the key to this whole dilemma.
you should be the only man in her life (besides her father) that should be making her cry over the words he says.
this girl still has issues with her old boy friend.
talk it out out, let her know how you really feel. dont hold back.
its a problem. fix it or get rid of her.
..... god im a dick to chicks.
- MelC0
allow him to come over, but make sure that your girlfriend knows that you don't like him. That's the mature thing to do. Hopefully your girlfriend will respect your feelings next time and not invite him around any more.
If you don't say anything, you'll build up a resentment that will come out some other way.
- Ginja0
I already have made myself perfectly clear though. It pisses me right off that I'm not the only guy in her life. I mean to say that I feel close to her but I don't feel it back.
This is not her latest X this is one from a few years ago.
Fuck, her latest one is a whole new story.
Which is... I was working last Saturday night and she went out to get drunk in town with 2 of her friends that I know.
It turns out though that she met up with her last X. The thing is she didn't tell me and I found out when I found some messages in her phone.
And before you ask why was I looking I'll say... She always looks in mine for some stupid reason so I thought I'd look in hers. Now I think the reason she always looks in mine is because shes the one that feels guilty for doing something wrong.
- VectorMasked0
Ok. I gotta start by saying I am a bit drunk. and here I go....
I would advise you to "Protect your shit". The dude has not right to get in the middle of you both in any way. Try talking with her as much as possible until she finally gets it, coz she needs to understands you. She needs ot get that you don't want him around to screw things up or cause any problems. *IF* you do get to being in the same room as him at any given moment, show that you don't like the guy and that he is not welcome in the life of you and your girl, but yet be a gentlman.
Be careful man. I just lost my girl of 4+ years coz of her friend that didn't know me and yet didn't like me and brainwashed my girl.
- VectorMasked0
I hope what I just wrote makes sense coz I am drunk :o)
- jox0
Sounds like one immature and selfish girl if you ask me.
Don't get me wrong, but you might want to prepare yourself with the thought of breaking up with this chick. She obviously doesn't give a damn about you.
Good luck man.
- VectorMasked0
Sounds like one immature and selfish girl if you ask me.
Good luck man.
jox
(Apr 28 07, 23:44)I gotta agree with Jox here.
You need a good long talk with her, coz she does seem a bit like she is in that thin line when a immature person becomes a more responsible/mature one.
Good luck.
- MelC0
Ahhh. You have to be really clear with that you're not happy with the situation. Or you need to get out.
I don't hang out with any of my ex boyfriends - even though I still care for them and consider them friends. It would make my current boyfriend uncomfortable and I care about him too much to do that.
- stewart0
that's just crazy.
imagine that continuing a year or so - you'll be a wreck because of the stress. i don't think its worth to invest in a relation like that.
but let me guess, there's something that she's really good at...
- MelC0
Vectormasked - are you in Vancouver?
- Ginja0
She is still a child and I wish she would grow up, but you can't say that with out things going a bit wrong can you.
I feel like she doesn't care and when I found out about her meeting up with her X. Every 'i love you' etc lost all meaning. I was on the verge of breaking up with her and shes already thought I want to twice since then.
If he is there when I get home I'll say hi to everyone and just ignore him perhaps.
- Ginja0
I don't hang out with any of my ex boyfriends - even though I still care for them and consider them friends. It would make my current boyfriend uncomfortable and I care about him too much to do that.
MelC
(Apr 28 07, 23:49)Thats exactly how I want her to think. It would atleast show she cares about me.
- welded0
If things don't get normal soon, break it off or:
1) she'll fuck 'em
2) you'll get too worked up over it to be a decent boyfriendYou're both already checking each other's phone messages. What's next, keylogging on one another's computers? Your relationship doesn't sound very healthy at all.
Oh, and if the dude keeps being a douche AND your girl makes it clear she doesn't want him around, do that punching his face off thing.
- MelC0
Maybe she's surrounding herself with other guys because she's insecure and thinks you're going to break up with her.
Much easier to jump out of a relationship when you've got another to jump into.
- MelC0
Go with the face punching thing.
- Ginja0
MelC, the problem is she surrounds her self with X's, which makes me stress which would then make me do that. If she didn't and she understood more and thought about what she was doing instead of not giving a toss about me I'd work my hardest and being the best boyfriend.
- MelC0
You need a hug.