The Midlife crisis thread?
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- MrAbominable1
"Look up once in a while... Cause when death turns up sometimes you realise that death isn't the one your racing to meet. "
this.
- freedom0
People get pets so they have something to take care of and more responsibility.
If it's a well trained animal, it's most likely going to improve your life.
- pedromendez12
I had a rather serious midlife crisis a few years ago.... ill try share my situation and some thoughts.
After dealing with this I've realised we all have our own shit - you just need to try and deal with it as best you can... I'm 38 - got married and had kids very young, now divorced.
Had a pretty horrible last 4 years during the separation and divorce trying to deal with it all and seeing my kids deal with it too.... Just about got through it with a lot of good friends, too much drink, drugs and tinder...
Some things that helped me along the way:
- Exercise. Doing it on your own is good but joining a group of some kind can be great too - the social aspect of finding groups of new friends can be fantastic. This can really help your mindset more than anything I think.... try swimming, cycling, running, boxing, jiu-jitsu, football, whatever you are interested in. This is a must. Whenever I stop exercising for a while, I feel drained and I find my mind goes a bit nuts and I over think everything! Also having your body in shape makes you feel great about yourself.
- Take enough time away for yourself, do something you really want to do, travel with friends, or take a solo holiday, whatever makes you happy. See an exhibition, buy something you really wanted, wank off a goat, whatever floats your boat.
- Push yourself in your work, this can be done in a number of ways. Learn something new maybe? I started a random personal project with no brief or objective, but it's really started to gather momentum and interest from the public and has now become a bit of a personal obsession of mine. I also went back to education, currently in the middle of a masters in my work and it's given me so much focus, determination to keep improving and drive to keep learning. It's also given me a shit load of confidence in what I'm doing. I'm much more assured in meetings, presentations etc now.
- Try and surround yourself with people that are positive and that make you happy. If you're not happy in work, quit and make a change. You will never be happy if you don't enjoy your work.
Best of luck—Midlife Crisis Internet Friends™. xoxox
- this.rootlock
- Midlife Crisis Internet Friends™... I want this tshirt.MrAbominable
- w a nice Newstoday logo (I'll settle for a QBN logo though)formed
- HijoDMaite3
I have so many hobbies I wish I had more time for, that I don’t think I could ever go through a crisis. I just can’t wait to retire!!
- pango1
You buy a Harley?
- ... the open roadBonSeff
- harley’s are for retired folk. get a ducati!dorf
- Amen... I have two Ducati'snecromation
- BonSeff0
I turn 45 this summer. I settled down late and became a father even later. My youngest turned one last week and I will be 63 when she graduates high school. It scares the shit out of me.
- Why does it scare you?freedom
- Because I have old school friends who have already graduated kids and becomming empty nesters and here I am changing diapers at 2am.BonSeff
- also, realizing mortality.BonSeff
- dont be scared, there is a reason why you in your life got this child at the right time. universe is never wrong, right?api
- Thank you, apiBonSeff
- I am 50. Adopted a newborn 10yrs ago. Enjoy every second, good and bad. My son is turning 10 soon. He is holding my hand walking home from school. THat will...lemmy_k
- end soon and I am loving every second of it while I can. Be present now. Take video.lemmy_k
- word. thanks, LemmyBonSeff
- I turn 41 this year. My one wish is to be able to give of myself, to someone else (not romantic, blood or not), like this. What a gift.notype
- zaq2
- fooler1
I recently started taking Finasteride for my male pattern baldness and I'm looking for a cheap Miata I can turn into a track car.
- freedom1
I also find watching videos of artists interviews and watching them work to be inspirational.
But the best thing you can do is force yourself to move around and not sit at your computer.
Even having a little studio can be motivation to get stuff done.
- Bennn3
I think I have found a little project. I want to grow moss and lichen in a terrarium. Just watched a few videos on YT. It motivate me. I also want to try to grow a small tree inside the house and make a bonsai or something out of it.
there's hope!
:D- few weeks and you're going to get bored again. grow peyote have real fun :Dsted
- You should get a 3D printer and 'grow' yourself a dildo, then gfy with it.
Live long, Expand your something.Nairn - Nairm, your mom just called, you need to go home for dinner.Bennn
- lol @ nairnmonospaced
- freedom1
Go to a book store and read art book and find more inspiration.
- freedom2
Are you ok financially?
If so, find a place like a community theater or school that needs posters and illustrations for promotional things and volunteer your services.
Sometimes doing something for free even if you don't need the money is a bummer but sometimes if they give you a printing budget and free rein, that could be a ton of fun.
- yeah, that could be a good idea. offering my services for non lucrative organizations. thanks for the idea! Def taking this in noteBennn
- Draplin is a good example of this.DRIFTMONKEY