The Midlife crisis thread?
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- mg3333
Damn it feels good to be a gangster.
- Haha deadly manpedromendez
- lol cool! :DBennn
- heheutopian
- LOLpango
- Midlife looks good on you.sea_sea
- Yas!!OBBTKN
- Set PSB Part Deuxutopian
- niceMrAbominable
- Mcif!Miesfan
- https://www.youtube.…jaylarson
- +1 utopian - I've saved it to my QBN mugs file for future use :)Nairn
- Yeah, yeah, go ahead and treat me like set, see how long you last when I've got my finger on the ban button! :Dmg33
- haha nice :)sted
- pedromendez17
- awwww id get one.pango
- Im on it ( ͡~ ͜ʖ ͡°)pedromendez
- T-Shirt of the Dayfooler
- XLmaquito
- Make the logo just a tad biggr. Wait, did I just say that?maquito
- The CD in me would be already asking for a logo with MCIF.maquito
- We all grew old.Khurram
- XL too, one in black and another in red, dankeOBBTKN
- would buymantrakid
- XL?! you fatties! Get reading the Healthy Thread...shapesalad
- Take my moneyCalderone2000
- i think you already KNOW that I'm in. Awesome Pedro.MrAbominable
- I'll take two XL pleaseformed
- that is excellent! I'll take one for sure!lajj
- Fantastic. I'll take a medium.mg33
- Can we get a "The Making Beats Thread™" version too :)microkorg
- Haha cool - ill set up a print run :)pedromendez
- Midlife Crisis Internet Friends is a good album title.shellie
- copyright infringementimbecile
- @shape... We're a bunch of big guys, you, shortie ;)OBBTKN
- I'm in.ben_
- for a large.ben_
- pedromendez16
MIDLIFE CRISIS INTERNET FRIENDS™
As requested, I set up a little print run on Everpress here. It's a print on demand campaign that is open for 21 days and then prints and distributes the full order in one go. Printed on the best quality tees they have available - it's 100% organic cotton unisex tshirt so hopefully the organic cotton eases the pain of your midlife crisis.
Fyi, I've set the cost set to the minimum so no profit in this :)
And Maquito, I've made the logo bigger as requested ;)- why down vote?shapesalad
- ^prolly cause real MLC would insist on Threadless or AA.MrAbominable
- Also, THANK YOU, Pedromendez!MrAbominable
- I ordered 3. The extra two will help keep me warm when i'm homeless.MrAbominable
- Haha, no worries MrA :) I actually set up a threadless store too but it seemed a mess in comparison to everpress.pedromendez
- ¯\_( ͡☉ ͜ʖ ͡☉)_/¯pedromendez
- Dude! You rock! I feel guilty about the logo comment, but thank you so much!!!maquito
- One one hand I want this really bad. On the other I would never wear it in public. And my wife would roll her eyes every time she saw it. A real dilemma.monospaced
- Man up! Wear it with pride!
Heck! Or you can frame it! It's a piece of art!pango - mono, you and your wife have no humor? :)NBQ00
- Great!! Thanks a lot for your time Pedro!OBBTKN
- ordered 3 because i couldnt decide on a color and I know im going to die inside when i wear the first one down to threads. THIS IS ALL I HAVE LEFT NOW. THANK U!mantrakid
- Or mono, just tell people it's a band.pango
- Or cut your cock off.deadsperm
- hahaha! you guizemonospaced
- any idea on the sizing? is it similar to american apparel?dorf
- Here's a pdf link I found dorf, hope this helps > https://www.stanleys…pedromendez
- upvoted and orderedlajj
- just checked sizes, i think i need a xs, small would be a bit loose but workable.dorf
- meh doesn't work here in uk?hans_glib
- What doesn't work hans? The link?pedromendez
- no, i just get an error pagehans_glib
- "SOMETHING
BROKE :(
Sorry, we’ve encountered an error. Please try what you were doing again and get in touch if it continues to fail."hans_glib - as you were, it's just my shitty old chrome mucking abouthans_glib
- sweet :)pedromendez
- Ordered one. Wife says I can't wear it in public. Psshhhhhmonospaced
- rattail10
I have seriously thought of starting this thread a few times!
I'm in my 40's, Married for 10+ years, 2 kids, a house and a dog. I have an attractive fit wife that has a great job and lots of friends... the perfect life but I'm still miserable. I feel like packing up, leaving everything behind and move to a remote island.
I've almost done it a few times but I can't stand the thought of my kids growing up in a broken home as I did.
I've been at the same job for 6 years and do not find it fulfilling at all but I'm afraid to quit or go freelance and leave a steady paycheck and benefits. Just yesterday my wife told me she'd support the family if I quit and became mr. mom. Things would be tight but we ran the numbers and we could do it.
I'm not sure if that would make me any happier because my home life isn't that great either. I've thought of therapy but I had a real bad experience with one when I was a kid after my parents split.
Maybe we should start a Free Therapy thread now.- Your wife sounds willing to help you through this, which is not always a given. Also, leave that bad therapy experience in the past, feeling the need for itspl33nidoru
- is a good reason to try again, if only for a session or two to see how you feel about it. Try to go for a different gender than the 1st timespl33nidoru
- do it! mix it up. you're not in a prison - you're free to walk out the door whenever you want.sarahfailin
- I have a friend who was one of4 brothers in a fam. The day after the youngest graduated from HS his dad packed up and disappeared. He's still haunted by that.robotron3k
- Sounds strange that you would be willing to leave your wife if everything seems fine on that end. Sounds like her and kids are what will keep you grounded.ArmandoEstrada
- Maybe you need a passion or some projects to work on?Bennn
- Find a therapist that you like. My guy, Ken, I trust him with everything. First counselor, not at all. Ken, yes.misterhow
- you need an allotment, grow some veg, husband some chickens, sense the seasons, tune yourself to nature.shapesalad
- Mr. Mom does sound like a cool titleMaaku
- but don't turn it into a competition to grow the biggest leek, just spend some time being still, feel the rotation of the earth, the slow pace of plants growingshapesalad
- envelop in a sense of loneliness, and allow yourself to be equal to nature. do that for 30 mins per day. return to wife and kids, you'll really appreciate themshapesalad
- How old are your kids? If they're young, it would be amazing to just take time off from work and bring them to museums and on field trips all the time.freedom
- Do more fun kids stuff. Get to know your kids.freedom
- Have you talked to your wife about any of this?monospaced
- If I were you, I'd find a good therapist, try out being Mr. Mom, and start some crazy creative projects with the fam.e-wo
- I don't post much on QBN but have been going thru similar circumstances. Figured the root was a lack of good mates to spend down time with... have you got that?Beardy
- Interestingly enough, I think the longest study was done on what makes men happy. Things you describe is not really what makes us happy. It was our work orBoz
- that we feel we make a difference with something we love doing. Relationships were important but being happy with our work was the main conclusionBoz
- So I think you need to find that again. A good wife as a partner and kids will then just make it all even more worthy but meaningful work is a primary thingBoz
- for men's long term happiness.Boz
- it will pass, life will pass too, far too quickly, even if sometimes it's a drag... but seriously you need something bad, it will heal yourzu-rzu
- To be clear I meant "leave your job" not your family xDsarahfailin
- Do both. Go freelance, but first take a solo trip to Nepal and go trekking for a month.Projectile
- notype10
Is this my weekend rogue - midlife crisis post? but in a quiet place, Hehheh...
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I remember logging into this place when hanging at my (then) girlfriend's dorm at Columbia in 2001/02, ...Newstoday. God that was a long time ago. After 17-18 years on the qoob, it's time for me to say farewell.
Sadly, I never really got to share 100% of myself here, just surface level but some of you have shared in my triumphs... and I, yours... over the years. So grateful. I have to admit that I'm a better person on the planet because of this place.
Shoot me an email if you'd like to stay keep in touch IRL / visit whenever you're in town or I'm in your town (looking @ a few of you)
Love to you guys.
- Godspeed, notypeGnash
- Why leave?eryx
- Wow 555 soul, yeah long ago when we had lots of DJs and events, I remember stuff at TKNY before DKNY sent him a cease and desist. The old days...robotron3k
- I had a dope pair of Triple 5 Soul cargo pants that were my favorite. <<< Signs your getting old?fooler
- Never understood these sorts of farewell statements...it’s a website you either visit sometimes or don’t.yuekit
- And I’d like to announce I’m formally leaving my newspaper subscription. Has been a blast but I need to let go. Bye my sweet friend.BusterBoy
- after more than 10 years visiting this place. people feel attached here.pango
- alright man. keep in touch.pango
- Why leave? I think I'll feel like I was part of something bigger if I am still reading this at 80.
Enjoy the retirement notype!formed - I don't get why you should leave, either.
But OK. You are, so see ya.Continuity - It's just a website bro, anyways take care...robotron3k
- Why are you leaving? We're losing members every weeks, is it the downfall of the QBN? Are we too old for this? Whats happening? So many questines!Bennn
- It has been a pleasure notype, good luck with everything and hope you'll come back! Ciao!Bennn
- maybe hes being sent down? ... no internet accesswoowahesque
- these goodbyes are so funny to me. a cry for help? maybe. hehe. best of luck (seriously). don't die and stuff. stay pretty.showpony
- why is this posted in this thread?Krassy
- COuld be a a result of a midlife crisis.. "Why the hell I'm still visiting that website, I'm 40 y-o"Bennn
- deadsperm13
New enamel pins for sale
#ripset #pagingimbecile- Where can i purchase, must buy :)pedromendez
- I'm looking for investors now that you got that Ferrari money from the t-shirts.
Hit me up!deadsperm - brilliantGnash
- copyright ® infringement™pedromendez
- put that on a tshirt ill buy it..
FYI qunt.com is availablepedromendez - @pedromendez
https://i.imgur.com/…deadsperm - lol ^Gnash
- too big. not infringement. but have you purchased reproduction rights on the font?imbecile
- To be precise it's 23mm, I have small hands. I haven't yet bought reproduction rights on the font (it's only a comp). I'm waiting on pedromendez's deposit.deadsperm
- @imbecile
https://i.imgur.com/…deadsperm - https://memegenerato…Gnash
- Reproduction rights for Cooper Black? It's already licensed for commercial work by default. https://fonts.adobe.…monospaced
- Adobe font licensing: https://helpx.adobe.…monospaced
- In that case:
Fuck you @pedromendez!
I don't need your Ferrari money.deadsperm - Haha sweet, endorsed by Kanye too, so you should be good ™ ® $
https://i.imgur.com/…pedromendez - QBN strikes again with the cool factor!
Bravo @deadsperm! s l o w c l a pKrassy - Perfect!Turboslacker
- jpgjpg12
Turning 44. Some days it's hard to fight the feeling my best working days are behind me... But just because you're not getting it from the work doesn't mean you can't get it elsewhere. I took up the drums 2 years ago and got playing with some friends. We just started putting the stuff we're doing out there... we got some positive local reviews and even got played on the local university station. never under estimate the small victories.
- Nice! Sounds like you're having fun and finding other branches to venture out on. Keep it up!capn_ron
- This is actually awesome. Keep going!Gucci
- Fwiw, my 84 year old boss just retired in March. Still really smart, and doing good work. Just keep at it.section_014
- Krassy14
From @pedromendez' Everpress link above
Hahah!
- BonSeff6
getting a house ready to sell and still living in it, contractor over promising and under delivering, house has been in shambles for a month, eating like shit cause the kitchen is fucked and working my ass off to clear it out to show. wife watches hgtv and thinks this shit is a breeze. every weekend is hard fucking work, yard, painting, packing, cleaning up dust after the workers leave. and still delivering at my job with the normal internal and client bullshit. i am loosing it.
- hang in there man! Keep an eye on the mountain topBennn
- Tryin, BennnBonSeff
- i love it when they say "this is what WE should do", meaning you make it happen. take it easy man...renderedred
- Thanks. I am just trying to hold shit down, but when I break I feel like an asshole.BonSeff
- Pile on a one year old and five year old which i would much rather be spending time with.BonSeff
- That sucks. Try to get a list going so you can see an end to it, don't let the wife keep moving the goal posts.eryx
- Yo da man Bon! A real man steps up, you’re showing that.moldero
- sounds more like a first world problemutopian
- We're building a new house, and yesterday after one of those "house renewal" shows my wife decides to change the intire kitchen layout, windows includeddmay
- "wife watches hgtv and thinks this shit is a breeze" - sorry, that made me smile. It's what my partner thinks about EVERYTHING I do, work-wise or around houseNairn
- Thanks for the words of encouragement on my 1st world problem. Yesterday was a fucked up day. Thanks for allowing me to vent.BonSeff
- You mean your place doesn't magically change after a commercial break? Hang in there, dude!desmo
- pedromendez12
I had a rather serious midlife crisis a few years ago.... ill try share my situation and some thoughts.
After dealing with this I've realised we all have our own shit - you just need to try and deal with it as best you can... I'm 38 - got married and had kids very young, now divorced.
Had a pretty horrible last 4 years during the separation and divorce trying to deal with it all and seeing my kids deal with it too.... Just about got through it with a lot of good friends, too much drink, drugs and tinder...
Some things that helped me along the way:
- Exercise. Doing it on your own is good but joining a group of some kind can be great too - the social aspect of finding groups of new friends can be fantastic. This can really help your mindset more than anything I think.... try swimming, cycling, running, boxing, jiu-jitsu, football, whatever you are interested in. This is a must. Whenever I stop exercising for a while, I feel drained and I find my mind goes a bit nuts and I over think everything! Also having your body in shape makes you feel great about yourself.
- Take enough time away for yourself, do something you really want to do, travel with friends, or take a solo holiday, whatever makes you happy. See an exhibition, buy something you really wanted, wank off a goat, whatever floats your boat.
- Push yourself in your work, this can be done in a number of ways. Learn something new maybe? I started a random personal project with no brief or objective, but it's really started to gather momentum and interest from the public and has now become a bit of a personal obsession of mine. I also went back to education, currently in the middle of a masters in my work and it's given me so much focus, determination to keep improving and drive to keep learning. It's also given me a shit load of confidence in what I'm doing. I'm much more assured in meetings, presentations etc now.
- Try and surround yourself with people that are positive and that make you happy. If you're not happy in work, quit and make a change. You will never be happy if you don't enjoy your work.
Best of luck—Midlife Crisis Internet Friends™. xoxox
- this.rootlock
- Midlife Crisis Internet Friends™... I want this tshirt.MrAbominable
- w a nice Newstoday logo (I'll settle for a QBN logo though)formed
- pedromendez7
Orders closing today for these midlife crisis internet friend tshirts, if anyone else wants one. Will be screenprinted and shipped out to all you beautiful people within a week or so then. xoxox
©opyright® Infringement$™
https://everpress.com/midlife-cr…
- https://www.youtube.…deadsperm
- +1OBBTKN
- A perfect accessory for late friday beers, mugs thread is going to be full of drunk qbners wearing it, wait for it, lolOBBTKN
- Can I combine it with my Maga hat? Or it's a disrespect to the community?OBBTKN
- Only if you're drinking Cosmopolitans.deadsperm
- How about some regular QBN logo shirts?section_014
- Yes for sure section, I'd buy - i think the QBN Gods & Mods (or someone else here) should totally do that.pedromendez
- the .eps logo is floating around, you could make your own in minutes and order it yourself, evenmonospaced
- lameimbecile
- cunt™ :)pedromendez
- CLINT™ArchitectofFate
- sea_sea7
joining this thread just for the t-shirt.
kidding, made some life-altering changes in my life, only for it to all fall apart in a matter of days. not sure if i should laugh or cry anymore. staying positive and picking myself up off the ground has been the hardest won't lie.- I've never done something perfect on the first, or even 20th, try, but that 21st time,..
Recovery can take some time,
maybe just stay down a few days.lemmy_k - keep at it, less fucks given and it'll be finerenderedred
- i'm def staying low and looking inward for a while. hoping less fucks given starts creeping in quickly as well.sea_sea
- sea_sea, the effort of change frees us from the false safety of monotony. embrace the unknown for the opportunity it will provideimbecile
- Thank you, I so appreciate your words. I am slowly understanding that now. Letting go of resistance is the only way to flow down the stream. <3sea_sea
- I feel you have a good soul sea_sea, you'll be alright. i'm sure you'll figure it out. :)Bennn
- thanks benn, already feeling a little better as the light creeps in. xosea_sea
- I've never done something perfect on the first, or even 20th, try, but that 21st time,..
- MrAbominable8
49 and wrestling with failure. There are some external forces but largely I'm a product of my own construction. In my 30s, I had NYC by the tail, writing about design and working at a prominent fine art gallery. A few years later, the company I was working for Enron-ed. Suddenly in my peak earning years, i was sapped with depression and effectively black-balled from a small community.
I switched gears and moved to freelance design work but didn't really have the hussle to make it work and '08 didn't make for friendly freelancing. I still have a few freelance clients but it's mostly drip-feed moonlight work.
In this past decade, I've been married and divorced. Bankrupt. And overextended with zero savings on multiple occasions.
In the past few years, I've been able to crawl back into my original field. It's changed a lot and I've had to change my perspective and expectations. On Friday, before I saw this thread, I was smoking a pipe, drinking whiskey mid-day and watching the East River from my penthouse patio in the rain. I make very little money but ostensibly work in the field of luxury. Old contacts are starting to wake up and I'm working my way to cobble together things i'm supposed to be good at.
And all I can think about is how much I hate my coworkers and want to walk away from it all. again.
Like I said. There are a bunch of external forces but i'm the common denominator in all my problems.
- note: office in a Sutton Place penthouse. I live in Harlem.MrAbominable
- if i learned anything when i rolled over into 50s, it's to take it easy and day by day. zero fucks given most of the time.renderedred
- ^ yes. the world-shaking went away. now i just wrestle with 'what do i settle for'.MrAbominable
- i get what you say, your post also reminded me of my story. i am still trying not to "settle" for anything. that part is pretty lonely ;)renderedred
- Urgh. This reminds me of me a bit, and I'm 45. It's fucking depressing.Continuity
- dee-dubs3
Mid 40's here and try as i might i still can't fucking tell the difference between parsley & coriander!
- Coriander has a lot more taste and aroma!nbq
- hahahahanecromation
- take a sniff at the leafsBennn
- My local Turkish shop has bunches of them right next to each other and it fucking gets me every time.Nairn
- Parsley has wedgier leafs, coriander leafs are rounderdmay
- ^ Nairn....mine too!! I've resorted to asking my kids to go into the shop and buy it cos it doesn't seem so dense for a child to be asking which is whichdee-dubs
- huh? there is a massive difference, parsley being darker green for a start.shapesalad
- Bennn5
"You’re not getting younger. Sorry, but it’s true. If you don’t start taking the time to pursue your dreams, you might find yourself at the end of your life with nothing to show for it but a lot of Facebook posts and a bunch of TV shows you just had to watch."
I dont remeber where I take this quote.
- Downvotes? WTF? Making a big effort to read instead of TV. In fact, I'm outta here for today.lemmy_k
- Yipese-wo
- You got the quote from a facebook....jkok_not_ok
- exactly this. why is everyone sticking Netflix into their brain every night like some sort IV drip fed sedative drug, designed to numb the masses.shapesalad
- lemmy_k5
I am looking for part time woodworking gig. Tired of unfulfilling work. I will work two jobs until I can support my family making stuff from trees.
- vwsung18t2
38, I bought a house 6 years ago with my fiancee. We broke up, been living alone in the suburbs for a couple of years. I put up my house for sale this week. Sent out word to everyone I know to take all my stuff. I gave away half my clothes. I don't value things anymore. I only need the essentials.
Arranged my job so I can work remotely full-time. Now I'm going to decide on moving to LA, close to NY (Queens, Brooklyn) or out of US. Excited about a new life but also terrified and anxious. It'll be like this for a few months until the house is sold. Then, I'll be traveling. Maybe in my travels, I'll find a new home.
- holy shit, I think I always thought you were another QBNer!
. Anyway.
Sounds like a plan, especially the cutting down on 'things'. I need to do more of thatNairn - do i know you?vwsung18t
- haha, No not at all - we've just been visiting the same site for nearly 20 years! For some reason I had your handle here as the original pseud for someone elseNairn
- sounds like depression.imbecile
- yeah so crazy that some of us have been around here for so longvwsung18t
- if you value a 'thing' so will someone else, so then you've go to protect, insure, lock up that 'thing'... and that's how you spend your life.shapesalad
- if you value being in the moment, aligned with the rotation of the earth. if you value life and simply being here alive on earth.. no one can take that.shapesalad
- it's a daily challenge.shapesalad
- but I like your plan.shapesalad
- thanks. i'm also seeing someone for the first time since my ex. maybe it'll become somethingvwsung18t
- I recommend motorbike routes over Northern Southeast Asia, you can still get internet access in the small towns...robotron3k
- Thanks robo. I think I heard that motorbiking in Vietnam is cool. I will look into it.vwsung18t
- Sounds rough, but also sounds like you're pulling through. A sabbatical is great if you can swing it - get your mind clear.ben_
- Accepted an offer on the house. Closing at the end of June!vwsung18t
- ...but Girl I was dating for 2 months just broke upvwsung18t
- ...now the buyer is pulling out so I have to find a new buyervwsung18t
- holy shit, I think I always thought you were another QBNer!
- Bennn2
- I like this and read about it before - probably somewhere on hereIanbolton
- Seriously contemplating a jump from "comfortable but feeling of emptiness" to "delight and fullness, but no wealth." Near-poverty is preferable to emptiness.e-wo
- I agree, practicing minimalism and simplicity is possible, we buy too much stuff.Bennn
- buying stuff supports a workforce. no products to buy > nobody making anything > no jobs > homelessness for everyone. capitalism is the cure my boy.imbecile
- so ikigai essentially means buy more stuffprophetone
- currently between passion and mission. Sliding slowly down.cannonball1978
- ikigai is saving your money while getting others to earn it for youimbecile
