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- jevad0
Thanks all - much appreciated. Time for me to grow up and start being responsible I guess....
- emokid0
teach him to call MX at odd hours and yell "COCK!"
- radar0
don't tell him to FUCK OFF, atleast not to his face.
Why did you choose to adopt an 8 year old versus an infant, it is an honorable step.
- mattyd0
congrats jevad!
some advice:
start right away with the stories about how you had to walk up a hill both ways to get to school... in the snow... with no shoes. make sure he hears that story 4-5 times within the first three hours.teach him that it is not what you know, but who you know and make him begin networking immediately.
if you catch him smoking cigarettes, don't reprimand him on the spot. just say 'youre smoking? alright! lets rip a few butts together!' then go out and buy two packs. tell him a real man smokes an entire pack in a night. he'll be feeling the effects after half a pack and it is more likely to make him quit than if you just started yelling at him.
remember that underaged drinking is going to happen. just make sure he doesn't have any car keys unless they belong to a drunk friend (you wont have to worry about that one for a while though).
since he is coming from another culture, let him teach you a bunch of things about where he came from first, then let him in on the american/british way of life. it will allow him to feel more at home in that regard.
and please, whatever you do, don't let him listen to your record collection. you are going to set the poor kid back like two decades with the kids in high school.
- emokid0
i wish mattyd was my dad.
- jevad0
"and please, whatever you do, don't let him listen to your record collection. you are going to set the poor kid back like two decades with the kids in high school.
mattyd
(Dec 13 05, 10:28)"HAHAHAHAH
radar - long story - my wife was his caseworker for a while so we've been seeing him for about a year on the weekends and just kinda grew attached to him, in the same way that he grew attached to us. We got sick of seeing him moved from foster house to foster house....
- mattyd0
oh my bad, i thought he was coming in from another country and this was your first contact.
disregard half of what i said.
- kyl30
I remember making a roast beef sando at age 6. My dads girlfriend at the time told me I wasnt old enough to appreciate roast beef and that I need to make a baloney sando.
i never forgot that day and hated that bitch from then on.
lesson: don't underestimate the kid
- -sputnik-0
we go 4-wheeling with a friend of ours who regularly brings his 8 and 10 year-old along. they have SO much energy!!
my advice would be to do stuff w/him that will use up his voluminous energy (and prevent him from getting bored and into trouble) like snowboard, skate or whatever you're into. there's lots to do outdoors here so that shouldn't be a problem ;)
congrats jev!!
- ********0
you'll be quite the role model
- gruntt0
i just had lunch with my wife who just so happens to be an elementary school teacher. i told her of your good news and she told me that eight years old is the BEST age! she's an authority on such things so congrats to that.
- exador10
can't believe it!..
actually, yes i can..
dude, that is totally fucking awesome!...
fatherhood aint easy, but it sure is a lot of fun, and nothing beats hearing yourself being called 'dad'
sincerely.
its the fucking best.you're a cool cat, jevad, and i wish you and your wife all the best, and i hope that your new adopted child adapts quickly to the new family-life
the transition can't be easy, and there's bound to be some heartache and tears.but just play some kenny loggins or some iron maiden, and everything will be a-ok
:)yeah...i've been reading your blog...hahaha...
footloose!...footloose!...kick of your sunday shoes!
cheers buddy
ex
- zombiewoof0
My oldest is 8. It is an incredible age. They can think for themselves, yet they soooo depend on you for guidance.
My few tips:
They want to be involved, so give 'em simple taks to complete.
Listen to them, no really listen.
Be their parent, not their friend.
They crave boundries.
They also enjoy simple routines.
Take 'em fishing.
It must be the spirit of the season but this is the third adoption of folks I know in as many months.
Peace to you and your (new) family.
- Point50
Big ups jevad! Glad to hear that everything has gone well with your adoption process. I would give you advice except mine are 4.5 and 1 years old, so that'll do you no good.
I tell you what, you were smart with that whole not having to change a diaper thing!
- spendogg0
Congrats Nic that is super awesome. Give me a shout and uncle Spen will come by and do some arts and crafts.
No whisky I swear.
- grayhood0
awesome jevad!
- piperboytoy0
congrats and good luck.
at least you won't have to change diapers anymore.
- jevad0
yeah...I think skipping the poop stage was a choice decision
: )
- Jaline0
They can be VERY persuasive. Stand your ground!
And then you will inevitably give in at the end of the day :P
I have 4 younger siblings...
- GouchoMarx0
well done sunshine, the world needs more men like you, you could have saved that kid from a life of drugs and abuse so remember that whenever you have any doubts, like when your mates give you stick about firing blanks or being a pedo; jusy remember - you are doing a great thing there son, I met many troubled people in my time, gone through the system like, fucking right mess all that care home and stuff, turns out bad ones I tell ya.