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- liquid
Hey,
I just want to know....
when did you finally figure out your wife or husband was the one?Did it take time..? or was it almost immediate? And I am not talking about all it took to get you where you are (maybe years) and that you didnt break up at all.....but did you just always know....and if so .....when?
Thanks. Ken
- nice-land0
engaged 3 months after we started dating. 2.5 years married now. I guess I knew pretty quickly.
- swollenelbow0
how nice-land, how?
- liquid0
nice,
how long did you know each other before that?
and when was yours and hers last relationship before you started dating?
- gruntt0
for us it just seemed obvious after a certain point.
we were best friends first, before we ever dated.
- blaw0
my wife and i had been dating about 9 mos. we were on our way to see a local blues band and i looked over and thought, "what do you know... somehow i've managed to fall in love with that woman."
so i told her so. 9 mos. later we got engaged and have been married for 8 years.
- van_rijn0
met the mrs in the netherlands.
knew the mrs for about a year.. now married 3 1/2
- ********0
define marriage....
- jevad0
sometimes...you jsut know
- nice-land0
We had met once before at a music venue and were wearing these matching 'jersey' t-shirts mine was blue and hers was green, she said something about them and I forgot about the exchange. then about 6 months later he met again at a mutual friends monthly dj event and turned out we had a mutual friend. she just seemed to be perfect, beautiful, simular interests and was really sweet. As far as me thinking this is the one, I guess it just felt right so i went for it. I had never really thought about marriage before I met her so I guess it ws a sign.
- nice-land0
DUh...
we met again at a mutual friends monthly dj event and turned out we had a mutual friend.
...a bunch of mutual friends, it turns out
- tny0
dated for 5 years, got a dog, bought a house, got married, had a baby girl. it was a natural progression. like niceland, i had never really considered it before i met my wife.
- swollenelbow0
are there ever struggles? little things here and there that annoy or bother you? if so how do you get over these, and how do you prevent from them becoming bigger issues?
- arthur0
Met in college, dated for a year, moved on together, dated for 4 more years, got engaged for a year and now we've been married nearly 5 years, bought 2 houses and had a son.
Things just felt right, you know, they always did, just a natural progression. I really wanted to be sure I could stand spending so much time with someone before I got married to them.
- zombiewoof0
talk, fight, yell, throw coffe grounds, whatever...just don't let it fester. oh yea then don't be too much of a hardhead to appolgize.
she's my second wife... met at a house party and there was instant chemistry.. you know the long stares from across the room... finally I asked her number, picked her up for some strong coffee the next morning and a moterbike ride in the country.. 8 years later we are still in love, and yes we still occasionally throw coffee grounds at one another.
- nice-land0
example of a struggle:
my office bathroom has an automatic air freshener that stinks like cheap perfume. Meanwhile my design director is a big fan of strip clubs and my wife know this. If I spend to much time in the bathroom during the day I end up having to defend myself that I wasn't at the strip clubs all day geting lap dances. This has happened twice. Kinda funny but not really.
- arthur0
Are there struggles? Of course. We argue about some stupid shit nearly everyday. It's all small stuff though. We just keep the bigger picture in mind.
We want to keep things cool because we love each other and we want our son to have a happy house and have both of his parents around.
- gruntt0
the trick is to talk about the little things while they're still little.
i strongly support living together first.
you don't really know someone until you live with them.
- ********0
im going to buy one online from never never land so he stays >24 forever
- mogwai0
i think some people kinda know way in the back of their mind or subconciously that they are ready for marriage, then the dating game gets much more stringent. you start to try people on see if they fit in your life, try your last name behind their first. but you still dont imagine yourself married, then suddenly you meet someone, and you can imagine yourself being married, possibly even have children. this is probably the right person, or maybe you just love her ass, or the sex. so you move in together (important step imo) and the sex-lust fades away. what are you left with? A) life partner? (marry) B)Annoying person (do not marry).
- liquid0
nice, bring her to the office....or just bring the thing home for her to smell......
wasnt really worried about the struggles....there will always be those....
I am more just trying to understand if you can just know.....
did all of you go hot and heavy to begin with? talking whenver you had a chance?nic.....the just know.....thats what I am talking about... when did you just know?