marriage?
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- buddylee0
if you're asking random people on a message board if you should do it or not then there's already some serious problems...
gabriel2--------------
It's not about asking people whether I should marry her or not, but to ask for opinions on the topic of marriage to hear other people's experiences.
I thought alot about thing myself and I just wanted to hear other voices.
It's not like if I am running a poll and the end result will decide my fate.
I am just curious about the situation.
- -leah-0
oh and when you get married people give you lots of presents and money!!!
- -sputnik-0
lol leah! :)
- _salisae_0
congrats sputnik!
- hiphoprelic0
Marriage should not be forced or coerced.
- xaoscontrol0
Not taking the time to read the responses, but as a married guy (6 years), i have to say you need to MAKE SURE that marriage is what she's implying before you start worrying about it. Your worry will eventually shine through and she'll know something's up.
Not sure how long you've been together but if it's a few years, then it may honestly be time to move to that level of commitment (whatever it is).
Seriously, I wouldn't stress untill you know exactly what she's means about taking a step forward...and ASK if that means cohabitation, marriage or splitting up. Regret is a feeling you don't want to have in a case like this.
- driftlab0
I think it was Josh McDowell who said...
"Don't marry someone you can live with... marry someone you can't live without."
- ********0
don't do it, unless she is drop dead gorgeous and make sure you check out her mother too, because she will be her in 20 years. ;)
- jevad0
" i'm getting hitched jan 8th"
congrats!!
- -sputnik-0
thanks :)
xaos is right about talking to her...find out what she wants and expects out of the relationship. if she really does want to get married, then be careful and don't let yourself get manipulated into something you aren't ready for.
- Point50
Don't buy a car unless you test drive it first... Right now that car is double parked on your life and you have to figure out how to move it. Sounds like the only way you get to drive that thing is to use the key (marriage) because it's locked, and I'm assuming that you have tried to slim jim it but have had little succes if the odometer is still reading 000000.0. Your other choices are to get it towed (dump her) or get it stolen(get dumped).
If you use the key, you can always trade 'er in (divorce)
- chach0
yeah, i had a friend that commented on this same situation; it has stuck with me since:
"sure babe, i'll marry ya...
for a while."
:)
- MLVR0
One of the cool things about this girl is, she really doesn't care about how we get married. She has mentioned to me that she wouldn't mine filing the paper work and that's it. No big ceremony or anything.
buddylee(Dec 14 04, 11:06)
Well, then it's all clear. Just make a marriage fraud, have her sign faux papers.
Aah, You're welcome!
- Ekard0
are you a virgin too?
- Mimio0
Why don't you just talk to her about it?
- buddylee0
Why don't you just talk to her about it?
Mimio
(Dec 14 04, 12:35)--------------
We talked about this morning, she didn't say it out right. But she was upset and aid that if we lived together things wouldn't be this way. Now to most that would seem like nothing, but she's a traditional girl and she'll only move in with someone if she's married.
And no, I've the pleasure of many womens private areas. :) I is no virgin.
- tim5250
One of the cool things about this girl is, she really doesn't care about how we get married. She has mentioned to me that she wouldn't mine filing the paper work and that's it. No big ceremony or anything.
buddylee(Dec 14 04, 11:06)
nevermind all that. do you love her enough to want to spend the rest of your life with her? what do you want? are you ready to take responsibility for playing the role of a husband, friend, lover? marriage is a big comittment with lots of obligations and resposibilities. through the good and bad times. think about it and ask yourself if you are ready for all that comes with marriage.
Good luck!
- brooke0
A girl should never pressure a boy into marriage. I've found that all the relationships I was most insecure about were the ones I wanted to rush, ironically. I guess I felt I had something to prove.
I know you love each other. I can only imagine how much she loves you. She should be more confident with the relationship that it will eventually lead to marriage, but not until you're ready & 100% sure.
Don't ever do anything you're unsure of, Carlos. Pay attention to your instincts.
- buddylee0
I am such a chicken. Last night I take out my girlfriend’s family out for dinner with the intention of asking my girlfriend’s mother permission to marry her daughter.
My girlfriend and I have already been talking about this for several weeks now and I figured asking her mother would be a good first step to marriage.
So I figured I would ask the mother right after everyone was finished with dinner. Throughout the whole meal I’m thinking in my head of the right words to use and what language I should ask her in. Spanish or English? Spanish, which is the language Hilda is most comfortable in or should I ask her in English, the language I am more comfortable speaking in. These thoughts ran through my head the whole time during dinner.
I’m looking at everyone there, hoping they eat slowly so that I can build up additional courage.
They all finished dinner and I suggested they eat some dessert. Again, stalling like a basketball team with a short lead in a close game. To my surprise they agreed and ordered some dessert.
Additional time passes and her youngest sister eats the last of what remains of her traditional Mexican Flan. Everyone else was already done minutes earlier. A short silence comes across the table, everyone had completed dessert and there was nothing else to do or say. This would have been a good time for me to stand up tall and proud and ask her mother for her daughters had in marriage.
So with everyone looking at me as I pay the bill and give the waitress her tip, I stand up and thanked everyone for coming and excused myself to go to the restroom. That was when I whispered into my girlfriend’s ear and told her that I was too much of a chicken and that I’ll have to ask some other time.
I suck...even in 2005 :(
- ********0
ohhhhhh you ARE a yankees fan :P
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