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My father in-law had a fall about 3 weeks ago and had to go into hospital, his wife was only able to visit for an hour each day due to restrictions.
He was in the early stages of dementia, so I think being alone confused him a lot, he stopped eating, and yesterday he refused his medicine. He has so many other things wrong with him, it's lucky he's been getting morphine as I think the meds withdrawal and physical pain he must be suffering would be brutal.
My wife managed to travel down on the first day of lockdown to support her mum whose been having to deal with it all on her own.
He'd been moved from the hospital to a nursing home, but as a patient on his ward had covid, he had to go into isolation, so his wife wasn't allowed to visit.
Today she was finally allowed in, and my wife is visiting him now, he's in the final stages of life.I've read on here that other people have went through similar situations, like Fadein and have friends that have had to deal with people spending their final moments alone. It's super sad.
I think about when my own father died, his brothers and sisters holding his hand, my mum, my sister and my wife all around to spend hours by his bed, right there as he slipped away.
I'm 100's of miles away from my wife and she's having to dress in full PPE to say goodbye to her dad.
- Jeez, sorry to hear that, PhanLo, that's rough.Fax_Benson
- Cheers Fax, I'm glad my wife is getting to say goodbye, some people I know never got the chance. :-(PhanLo
- Oh man, it's sad. Hope this madness ends soon. Take care of your fam, even from so far away, esp. your wife!!OBBTKN
- so fucking grim. your wife should be tested and if negative, allowed to be with him without all the ppe shit.hans_glib
- That's terrible, sorry to hear it.nb
- @PhanLo we're all in this (pandemic_ together brother. Same thing here a week or two ago with my wife and father-in-law.
It's GDMF heart breaking.ideaist - So sorry to hear. Yep my father in law died of Covid in the 1st wave. He was very old but it was horrendous not being able to see him before he passed. Md dadfadein11
- died 10 years ago and yep my mum, my brother and I were there the whole time. Can't imagine the pain my partner is still feeling, I try my best.fadein11
- sorry made that about myself there. all the best mate, love to you and your loved ones xfadein11
- I'm very sorry to hear that. Your family will be in my thoughts. Hang in there!MondoMorphic
- So sad to hear that, take care of your familly and the ones you loved.D4W33D
- Very sad. Sorry to hear.SimonFFM
- xNairn
- Shite news @phanlo.
Send my regards to H.derm - Dayum brother sorry to hear this!!Projectile
- Sorry to hear, homie. Huge hugs.mantrakid
- :(
<3PonyBoy - Sorry Phan, much love.ben_
- Sad news Phanstoplying
- Heartbreaking, I'm so sorry PhanLo.utopian
- Sorry to hear PhanLowordssssss
- So sad...sorry to hear your story
:_(d_gitale - Thanks everyone. This a random place on the internet, an anomaly. Such a strange community, but I always value your empathy for each other.PhanLo
- Fadein, I was thinking of you having mentioned your father-in-law, Ideaist too.
It's strange not being able to properly come together.PhanLo - My wife had left some Welsh choir music cd's to be played for his last hours, if he survives the night they might get to go back.PhanLo
- He'd had a mad life though, enlisted in the army young, was stationed in Hong Kong, Canada, Berlin and Northern Ireland.PhanLo
- He had some fun tales about going on recon trips into East Berlin to memorise street layouts while being tailed by Russians and then doing the same when...PhanLo
- Think about people who died all alone and not even in covid times and find yourself lucky, amen.i_was
- ...they came to their side.
He said Northern Ireland was the scariest part of his service, during the troubles.PhanLo - I think lockdown sped up up his decline, but I'm glad the pressure is off his wife, she was caring for him 24/7 and it was taking it's toll.PhanLo
- Cheers Derm, I know you've been through some tough times recently too, super unfair on you all. I'll tell Hels. ❤PhanLo
- It's so sad. Sorry to hear.Longcopylover
- Sorry to hear... :(BusterBoy
- He passed away at 11pm tonight, I think getting to hear their voices helped him to let go. I'm glad my wife can comfort her mum too.PhanLo
- Heartfelt condolences to you and yours. There are no words for some things, take care.whatthefunk
- Jesus, I'm so sorry. It's no solace, but having been through a similar situation I can only say that people with dementia tend to get their head..garbage
- ..above the waves before the end. I wasn't able to be there for my Papa either, but I did get to see him take one last gasp into reality and I'm in tears.garbage
- So here's a meaningless gesture from an internet stranger, but my condolences.garbage
- My Uncle passed a few weeks ago under similar circumstances. Covid is cruelest to those who are left to pick up the pieces of a loved one that's gone.Gucci
- Closure is largely non-existent for some members of the family. It's tragic and heartbreaking. My sympathies to you and your wife.Gucci
- condolences from my side too, very sadrzu-rzu