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- flashbender0
I believe benfal can provide some advice on how to win a girl back.
- capn_ron0
E, i'm out this weekend. Let's go for a ride tomorrow. I'll buy you a beer and you can tell me all your sorrows! hahaha
- whereRI0
aye mon.
same here, nearly three years with a girl who dumped me a few weeks ago. i have been drunk ever since. but when not drunk i have kept busy with work and tried to do as much exercise as possible. and it helps. i got outta hand last night and i feel i must stop using the break up as an excuse to get wasted beyond the limit all the time. its time to sober up. a trip home to south africa really helped too. surfing is like being baptised. id recommend it.
hang in there
- BaskerviIle0
Here's my take on this kind of thing (from my experience).
• did you ever look at other girls when you were going out, did you always think how great it would be to be single? most do during a relationship, it's normal. now are that guy that your past self envied. The grass is always greener.
• There are 6 billion people in the world, yes this girl may have been great for you, but are you really telling us the odds of you meeting the perfect girl for you is really 6,000,000,000 to 1? In reality after 3 years with someone you get on with, you'd have developed similar feelings. It's not that she was perfect for you, it's that you made it work. You can do it again, it will just take time and there are no easy shortcuts to get back to that kind of familiarity with someone.
• in a year you'll look back and not see things with a different perspective.
• Either all of the above, or you really should be with her, in which case keep trying to work it out, but you rarely get to the point of breaking up if there's not at least some reasons for doing it
- CALLES0
ohhh... did you guys already divided the friends? who got the apartment and who got the firends in the divorce?
and how is the fapping department BTW
- RW0
...say no! You will not control me! No! You will not take my soul! No! You will not win this game! Because it's a game, guys. You want to think it's not, huh? You want to think it's not?
I am the one who says yes! No! Now! Here! Because it's universal, man. It is evolutional. It is anthropological. It is biological. It is animal. We... are... men
- studderine0
once again, QBN is da shit
- boobs0
Focus on the next girl! And the one after that!
- kona0
getting drunk and beating yourself up over it is the absolute worst thing you can do.
get drunk and beat someone else up over it. a california hobo maybe.
gimmie a holla if you want to chat dude. in my old age and many sex conquests and adventures in my younger years i can say that i've been-there-done-that. 3+ years with "the one" and we broke up. i was devastated and spiraled down to rock bottom (*que soft music and mtv "where are they now" type graphical treatments). drinking yourself through the weekends is not good.
besides look at your uncle kona. years later "the one" i realized wasn't even close to being the one. she was nothing more than a life lesson in history when i truly found "the one".
cheer up. surround yourself with friends (if you have any you mountain man lookin hobo lol) and move on.
however. if she truly is the one, you know what you have to do...
VEGAS!
i'll meet you there
- this should be extra funny to you because you know from experience how awesome i must look saying thiskona
- HAHAkona
- A vegas meetup is a great idea.woodyBatts
- i'll bring our baby and studderine can walk around holding him. total. chick. magnet.kona
- thanks dougie fresh, that helped out.studderine
- i didnt know babies attracted the ladiesstudderine
- DoTheMacarena0
I say: Get all hopped up on 4Loco and head down to TJ. Nothing makes you appreciate being single more than a near-death experience, a handful of STDs, and a velvet Jesus.
BTW, bottle service is <$100 @ Hong Kong club. Just throwin' that out there...
- studderine0
what do you do when your ex is hanging out with your friends back home?
- airey1
get yourself ready for the 'i fucked your ex' email / txt / telegram.
welcome to life.
and remember, things could be worse. this could be my problem.
- Continuity0
Watch 'Swingers'. It's the gospel, as far as ex-GFs go.
- Continuity0
As for the ex-hanging out with your mates, there's nothing you can do about that. She can make her own decisions, as can your friends. Just calmly and sans drama let them know - if they bring her up at all - you're not interested in discussing her, and change the subject. If they have any understanding at all, they'll respect this. If they don't, cut them out.
- airey0
or alternatively move on and if they discuss her then feel well balanced enough to discuss her also. fuck sake. if it were some fucker that killed your family and got let off prison i could understand Continuity's comment but i've never really understood the drama of pretending a person that was important suddenly ceases to exist. we've all had our heart torn out but surely evolving is better than some horseshit sticking your head in the sand routine? what do i know.
- It's simple; you can't properly heal if the ex remains in the picture immediately post-break upContinuity
- Giving yourself space from the ex and the break is better for moving on, and getting to the pint you can deal with her in the futureContinuity
- ... future.Continuity
- yeah, space is true.airey
- always took a few months of no contact before the ex's i've kept friends with worked.airey
- Or dated them again. Exactly.Continuity
- landi-1
Still with so much to say. Perhaps in another 5 years. For now, I'm proud of you.
- bainbridge0
"Wasn't working out; mutual breakup."
Move on. If something doesn't feel right, there's always something better, be it jobs, women, friends, homes, hotel.