Mom Thread
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- Bender0
- a nice one :)moamoa
- I am impressed by the formal cooking attire...TheBlueOne
- that's a lovely apron on you...Greedo
- At first, I was like, this guy is cute. Then I remembered you are designerror and I thought your Flickr pictures were adorable too.Jaline
- adorable too. So I guess you look a bit different here ;)Jaline
- I was going to post: "this dude looks like d-e". Then I read Jaline's note. Ah. It's like Ragnarök all over again.Witt
- 7point340
I wish i had more to say to you. more words that may offer condolence.
though i don't know you or your mother, i feel a certain connection in having heard about this for the past few months and having seen her beautiful face in those wonderful photographs. Bless you for taking the time to capture those memories and account for them here. we are all witness to her now, and therefore she will live on forever in your personal experiences and love, and in our minds as well. thank you so much for sharing with us in what was likely the hardest span of your life to date.
so sincere, so beautiful.
Bless her now, and now that she is in a better place away from pain and suffering.
all my best. all my thoughts and prayers.
- mrdobolina0
I wasn't going to tell anyone this but many of you know already. My Mother has had health problems for quite some time now. About 3 years ago she lost her job and was un able to handle things at her home. So I started paying all of her mortgage and bills to keep things going for her. She then got a job and worked for about 2 years, handled things herself for the most part. Was doing great. Then in May, she learned that her job was moving to Pennsylvania and that she would be without work again. Her health is worse now than it was the other time, she is 60 years old. So I reluctantly decided that I would move back down to her place and handle things for a while. I have been here since July 1st. It is really tough sometimes but I feel as though I am doing the right thing. I haven't lived with her for at least 15 years.
- dobs, you are wonderful to step up for your mom like this. Where are you now?monkeyshine
- good man dobs.grunttt
- yeah, well played champ. :)kuzzAAAAM
- wow had no idea, good on you for helping when you are most needed.Greedo
- you will never regret itDr_Rand
- good on you uncledobs. that must be very difficult, you ARE doing the right thing...vespa
- thanks, I felt kinda weird like I was a loser at first. living with Mom, but it is what it is.mrdobolina
- loser? Dude, you are a hero.TheBlueOne
- never accept the judgement of those who chose mediocrity.kuzzAAAAM
- nice one. way I figure it is they take care of you, you take care of them.Spanna
- also swap the words aruond like "my mum lives with me" not "i live with my mum". Like you take care of her sorta fingkuzzAAAAM
- that's NLP that is.... in the ass.kuzzAAAAM
- hahah, she is a pretty cool lady. her pets make me insane though.mrdobolina
- 2 years ago, I refinanced her place and put it in my name, she didn't have the credit at the time. so this will be my retirement home.mrdobolina
- retirement home.mrdobolina
- So you can bring chicks home?
:)TheBlueOne - haven't done that yet. I have the ultimate backyard afterbar spot though. Kegerator and cable tv outside.mrdobolina
- the neighborhood has changed a lot, lots more young people and pubs and shit.mrdobolina
- I just started hitting the pubs in the area last weekend.mrdobolina
- If you tell people you're taking care of your mom, they are losers if they can't understand. Girls dig it ;)Jaline
- good luck, by the way.Jaline
- thanks. wanna come to an after-bar? ;)mrdobolina
- after my dad died our whole family moved into the same building as my mom... although we have a different living quarters and separate entrances, you could say we've lived with my mom for close to 15 years nowDr_Rand
- quarters and separate entrances, you could say we've lived with my mom for close to 15 years nowDr_Rand
- 3 generations in the same building, and I am grateful for itDr_Rand
- superstar dobs. luv ya even more now :Dkelpie
- heh, Dobs, I would if I lived near you.
Nice, Rand. I have extended family that does that :)Jaline - man, and here's my mum telling me white people totally neglect their parents. I'm showing her this thread.kuzzAAAAM
- haha, kuz, my mom says the same thing sometimes. But only because of the "homes"Jaline
- yeah, the "homes", hehkuzzAAAAM
- monkeyshine0
Tank, I'm sorry for your loss. That photo of your mom is beautiful; obviously she was a strong person with a beautiful spirit - it shines through.
My mom died 15 years ago (it still kinda stuns me that its been so long) and I miss her every day. I feel so lucky though to have had her in my life; she taught me so much about life and creativity - and strength.
Since this is a sharing thread...I haven't shared this with many but at my mom's funeral we were all standing around the coffin and these monarch butterflies starting swirling around...hundreds of butterflies swirling around all of us. It meant something to me because my mom had painted two beautiful paintings of these butterflies and I loved those paintings (she was also a musician). After the funeral I wrote this poem.
A Thousand Butterflies
A voice
sonorous and blue
echoes a song
through waves
of my subsistenceMolten, mahogany eyes
greet me,
widen the edges
of my callow vision...
no more.Now there are
a thousand butterflies
cast in colors
of your creation,Chariots ablaze,
sweeping you
over tear-stained earth
into frescos of
honeysuckle and light.
- skt0
sorry for your loss tank.
- moth0
Sorry to hear it Tank.
I should go pay my folks a visit this weekend.
- DaveO0
Amazing thread amidst the trite, useless shit that's on here.
Seeing my mum this weekend, 2hr train ride away. She's always so excited to see me & we always go and hang out with grandparents and shoot the breeze driving around the north (of england).
How do they get to be so awesome?
- paraselene0
thinking of you, tank. i'm so sorry for your loss.
- Spanna0
sorry for your trouble, tank. makes me look forward to seeing my mum in a few weeks. I hope my daughter is as proud of me as I am of my mum.
- kuzzAAAAM0
oh god, this thread is gonna make me cry, i'm not reading it anymore...
i just hope chossy doesn't stumble upon it cos i don't think there are enough kleenex's in scotchland.
- PSYKHO0
So sorry to hear that Tank, my heart goes out to you and your family. God bless and may her soul rest in peace.
- kuzzAAAAM0
:'( that's awful man, i imagine she was well fit when she was younger.
i had a go at my mum for getting arthritis, last night. As if it's her fault, hehe, but i was shouting at her for taking her health for granted and that i used to warn her about her health and that she needed to do more active things to keep fit, but she never listened. she's almost 60 and well, i can see her struggling in old age already and it makes me concerned sad etc... ,through all the bullshit, you dont want 'em suffering do you? :'(
did your mum believe in re-incarnation? if she did, maybe she came back as something really cool, like a Jaguar in Guyana.. that would be cool huh? But reincarnation isn't really true, so i prolly doubt it.
also, my granny's dying, but that don't really bother me too much, even tho we do have a loving relationship, still, old people are meant to die, and well granny was always old and decrepit. But i don't like that shit happening to my mum cos she was so strong and nurturing and i remember her still being pretty. Like i wunt be fussed with grandparents going but the thought of mum...*sniff*
- vespa0
so sorry to hear of it tank, thinking of you and your family.
- BaskerviIle0
Really sorry to hear your sad news. I can't imagine what you're feeling right now. I've read some of your other posts leading up to this and I think you've coped amazingly
My mum's been through two different cancers, in fact she's in hospital overnight today having a checkup, but I don't think I can imagine her not being around anymore.
Know that with your status here you'll always be able to talk to people about how you're coping.
- uncle_helv0
Sad news tank, god bless, RIP
- neue75_bold0
sorry for your loss Bart. I know you knew it was coming, but still, doesn't make it any easier. You know you've got a friend a short train ride away to get shit-faced with anytime you feel like it :)
- sixpacksgirls0
she's so beautiful, sorry for your lost tank..stay strong
- six0
tank, i want to thank you for starting this thread. i have cried and cried reading all the posts. my mom died last year and its the hardest thing i've ever had to deal with in my life.
so sorry for your loss
- jonatne0
I need to spend more time with my mom. With both of my parents.
- hektor9110
Sorry about your lost.. best wishes to you and your family.