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- ghandolf0
Both parents gone here as well. Mom went first due to a medical condition, then 5 years later, my Dad was also suffering medically, and he missed his bride so much. The day he turned worse, I was notified by telephone to come quickly. I live 110 miles away, and the whole trip up there I was speeding. Every time I passed the Highway Patrol they were distracted or not looking at me. I finally arrived at his death bed, to whisper in his ear, that it's okay to go... his work here was finished - "Go, and be by your brides' side"... and he took his last deep breath of air, and left us.
So I don't buy the argument any longer, that they can't 'hear' you... and that there aren't 'forces' at work that we don't understand.
Blessings to all of us who have lost our parents, or any loved ones.
- Hombre_Lobo0
hope you're ok sea sea. cant imagine what thats like.
its nice to put some time aside each year for friends or family who've passed. hugs hugs hugs!
- Projectile0
Yeh lost Dad at 14y/o then Mom at 25y/o. 5 yrs later I really wish I'd had a chance to get to know them better. At least I got to have a few bottles of wine with Mom as an adult and have a chat... and thank GOD my gf at the time loved to sneak off and do the same... she'd find out things that a mom can't really tell her son. Was still a snotty brat who hated my Dad when he went so only ever saw him as a parent, not a person. But god, still so many questions and no one to answer them.. no hope of grandparents for my kids one day... no one to go to for advice on anything and everything
But parents or no parents, life is fucking great!!!
- drgs0
zzzZ
- sea_sea0
and here's to the memory of all our fathers and mothers who have past on... good or bad they did what they new best.
we tend to torture ourselves with tons of questions, but i do believe once someone moves on, they see our worries as unnecessary. in other words letting go is the only way, we too, can move on.thanks for sharing guys, moments like these are what keep me coming back to this joint. ;) group hug! lols
- sea_sea0
@kona... :( sudden death is so tragic, so sorry to here that. thinking back at the very first months, i was relived he was gone. more because he suffered so much i was glad that was done. the first year was hard, especially around the big holidays. i think my way of dealing with it was staying busy and that included alcohol. not good but i was young enough to not know any better. wish i had a sibling or someone close with a brain to help guide me a bit.
I bet your boy will keep you busy and in the long run that helps keep you focused forward, if you know what i mean. family and good friends are key, lots of hugs help too. my condolences to you and your wife.
- evil10
Here's to the memory of your father and to all the memories he gave you.
- Ambushstudio0
I feel you, my dad died 3 years ago Feb 22, his B-day would be march 27. Sad month for me too...
We had a very bad relationship and I fucked up a lot with him, he died and I wasn't near him, I will never forgive myself for that. But I'm finally starting to cope with all that shit, it's better now.
- i here ya, it's not easy dealing with death and the amount of mental work that comes with it. hope you find your peace. <3sea_sea
- BusterBoy0
My dad died 19 years ago. Mum died 6 years ago. All my grandparents gone. I have 2 brothers who hate being near each other since my Mum died. Makes me miss the old days when family just seemed like it would always be there...until it isn't.
Families sometimes give you the shits...but that's part of life. Suck it up and enjoy them while you can.
- benfal990
I know the feeling sea_sea,
it's been 14 years for my father. I was 18 y-o.
- prophetone0
my dad died ten years ago due to health complications. i never got to say goodbye.
- kona0
how did you cope? my mother-in-law whom i was very close with passed away on monday from a sudden heart attack and it's been difficult.
- awww man, sorry to hear it. Hope you're as good as you can be.Hombre_Lobo
- thanks buddy.kona
- Amicus0
Makes me even more glad I got to see my folks, sister and bro-in-law on the weekend.
4 hours by road from the folks and 4 hours by plane + 2 hours by car from sister. Oh, the tyranny of distance.
- SteveJobs0
you are all very lucky :/
:)
- ok_not_ok0
Remember when you're young and you think your dad is Superman? And then you grow up and realized he's just a drunk who wears a cape.
I keed...God Bless All Papis!
- monospaced0
I'm calling my dad.
- arthur0
My dad died 19 years ago, when I was 18.
Guess I've now spent more of my without him than with him.
- sea_sea0
18 year bump. (wow!)
Being the cowboy that he was, I bet he's having a blast in the big rodeo in the sky. ;) lols
Can't believe it's been 18 years now. still miss him like it's the very next day. <3
- Hombre_Lobo0
^ that sounds like a wonderful childhood mate, you cant beat big kids as childhood friends. I'm pleased to see you're seeing the positives, you sound a lot happier :) I hope this thread has helped you a little dude.
There is a lot of love in this thread. My sentiments go out to all the people who have posted their stories.