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- 7340
romance... even simple things like love notes and flowers when they arent expected or asking them out on a date even though you've been togetehr for 2 years... it makes them feel like you still are crazy about them... girls take a lot of work but they are just so fucking good. dont let things get stale or think you should put less effort because youve already 'got ' her
- sucka!joyride
- are u single?moogoo
- me? no734
- Me? yes of course, that's what I'm about for the time being.joyride
- well do u have a clone, 734? lolmoogoo
- haha.. sorry my friend read ur post and thinks ur a dime piece :)moogoo
- joyride :P
girls like that shit.moogoo - oh hahahaha... thanks. sorry only one of me... ive learned from a lot of bad relationships734
- yeah I know moogoo, but that type of stuff does not keep people together, it's just nice.joyride
- true. joyride it doesn't.
im still trying to figure that whole love shit out myself. its weird.moogoo
- gramme0
friends first. Benefits after. It will make the benefits better.
(You know of course I personally recommend holding off until marriage, but I know most people disagree with that. I do, however, know a great number of people who waited, and are happily married after many years. It's not fairy-tale stuff, it's true.)
Sex complicates things. Married sex is still complicated, but not so much as unmarried sex.
- gramme0
What I mean is that the relationship is only as good as the friendship.
- jevad0
hahah - sex does indeed complicated things. Unfortunately I am a sex fiend and need a lot of it.
- Fariska0
"I don't know why mine always seem to be so complicated...why I can't just play it cool. I think I fall in love way too easily and get way too intense and emotional too early on in the game."
"I think I made a mistake not giving myself enough time after my divorce."Somewhere i read that you need half of the time you've been in a relationship to recover *completely* from it.
And if you "just play it cool" probably wouldn't be a enough for you.
Maybe you look for complicated relationship. You should get along with that, accept it, and "go ahed with lead feet" (to use an italian idiom). I guess is a pleasant thing get engaged intensely quite soon, but the passion a day will end and THEN you'll have to check and evaluate if your partner is the right person for you.But love is no exact science, so all the above could be a pile of bulls*it for yor POV [even if i believe that the half of the time rule works pretty well].
- barbtastic0
you are trying too hard.
- 7340
sex is a very healthy part of a relationship... but its not the only part and it certainly shouldnt be the most important
besides when you are truely inlove, sex will be so completely more fulfilling than just a one night stand, no matter how hot she was
- gramme0
When I decided to ask the woman who is now my wife to marry me, I determined the following, in order of importance:
1. We shared the same faith (this is necessary regardless of what postmodernism teaches us: uncommon beliefs = strife on many levels in relationships, without fail)
2. She had quickly become my best friend – meaning that who cares about aging and wrinkles and ugliness, her personality makes my day, and she fills in the blanks of my weaknesses with her strengths.
3. She's smokin' hott.
- nocomply0
I've learned that like it or not....a relationship is a lifestyle...meaning you have to style your life around it...at least to some degree. Ever notice how the couples hang out with other couples and the single people hangout with other singles? It's not just about finding a mate, those people live different types of lives!
It's about compromise. When they say "you have to give some to get some" it really is true. If you're not willing to give anything up, it probably won't work out.
- Mimio0
Back to the original observation a little bit... a good friend of mine, whose in his thirties, is comfortably resigned with the idea of living out his life as a bachelor. His basic belief is that a 6 month to 1 year relationship is basically a mini-marriage. He enjoys the initial thrill and intimacy but doesn't have to experience the growing pains of when love and tolerance change. Maybe shorter relationships are underrated.
- ephix0
"I think I fall in love way too easily and get way too intense and emotional too early on in the game."
that happens to everyone who is serious to find someone.
humans are fucked i believe :P.
it's always the first one to fall in love too early that tries too hard and then it fails. sometimes it has been me that is too early, sometimes it's her and you get over it.this time it was her but it's different, I'm slowly starting to catch on to her love. I'm only realizing it 6 months later and it's weird. I don't know what to expect. In reality I keep expecting it to fail. but I dont want it to, and it keeps going, and it's great :D. what gramme said is also good :)
oh and sex should always be an important part. if its lacking. I can't see how its gonna last. hahahahahah. ok I'm gonna run the other way now.
- SoupCan0
the way I see it is you have a 50% chance of making it these days, so if you don't get a divorce there's a damn good chance she will!
- kona0
jevad. yous gots mails.
- dsb0
Speaking of falling in love to easily...I dated someone who was a close friend and gave it my all because I loved him so much as a person. In the end he treated me like dirt. I think he totally falls into the category of "poisoning" the people he dates. I think the hardest part was realizing he wasn't who I thought he was all those years because a friend would never treat me the way he did.
Maybe people hurt the ones they love...maybe he can be someone else's problem.
- harlequino0
Take it away boys...
- barbtastic0
dsb: i wasted my time with one of those... but 5 yrs later i still hear about him crying about how hard it is not having me in his life anymore. and to that i give him a big, sarcastic "WHOOPS!"
- emukid0
i hate myself and expect the women i date to do the same.
- barbtastic0
emus are so emo... sigh
- harlequino0
The thing the I really like about my marriage and part of the reason I think we both feel so secure in it, is knowing that it was never an expectation, nor a goal. Neither of us had any interest in marriage even as a concept
- but in the end it just dawned on us that it was exactly what we wantedharlequino
- Aw...that's really nice (and I'm not being sarcastic).dsb
- emukid0
to the gentleman who said "you need half of the time you've been in a relationship to recover *completely* from it" -- in my research i've found that it takes three times the time you've been in a relationship. i've spent the first year alone just trying not to be so fucking emo.