marriage is dead
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- sair
is it? im doing my final project on the idea of 'consumer marriage' i.e. wr are so affected by our consumer culture that we even enter marriage with a consumer attitude, u can leave it easily if u dont like it, upgrade to a new.. husband..etc.
so, im thinking i might do something like 'marriage in a box' - get it from tesco. (still v v early stages) what im asking you lot for is examples of design (maybe personal projects?) that tackle social issues like this, i just want to see examples of projects/work that kind of take the piss out of society's modern day morals and values to get me going a bit more.
cheers cheers
sarah
- shutdown0
buy one get one free?
- ********0
as a man getting married september 8 of this year i can tell you you are completely wrong.
don't belive the tv hype. true love still exists and the idea of a soul mate isn't just a fairytale dreamed up in novels with fabio on the cover.
i can't wait to shove the 70% divorce rate up dr. phils ass when i'm celebrating my 50yr anniversary with my soon to be wife.
maybe this ideal you speak of is the new black.
much like 'what happens in vegas stays in vegas' i believe is the cop out for the weak who have no self control, i believe this ideal is also a nice cop out excuse for your own fuckups as a partner in marriage.
but that's just me.
we all think different.
- ********0
marriage is overrated
- tkmeister0
i agree wit kona 100%
- ********0
I didn't know you were into God and all that K0na?
- ********0
Amen kOna.
Though on the consumer side of things I do feel married to brands like Vaio, Samsung and certain clothing companies, and fragrance houses...
- ********0
What do you mean moth?
- mr_snuggles0
well, at least mine is...
- phatlee0
Why don't colleges ever give out more realistic briefs?
- Jaline0
I agree k0na.
- Jaline0
I mean, sometimes I definitely think about staying with one person for the rest of your life and wondering if it gets tiring after years, but then I figure that I can stay with one person, as long as I find someone I can love. Simple :P
- GreedoLives0
I've been with the same woman 9 years and i love her unconditionally, and i do want to spend the rest of my life with her. But i do not want to marry her.
- version30
my grandfather would have to comletely disagree with you
you might believe marriage is dead because respect has disappeared and been replaced with selfish expectation
- tkmeister0
yeah, phatlee...
i think comparing the today's consumer tendency to marriage is a bit strange. i mean, you can justify anything with enough bullshit.
i also question people's intelligency that if any of those stupid tv crap 'the bachelor' or whatever and buy into the really unrealistic idea of romance and marriage.
- spendogg0
Marriage is not a piece of paper - it its a state of mind. A majority of people get married for the wrong reasons - ie. you get pressure from your family or we have been dating so long it is time to tie the knot or people may think it will fix a waning relationship. When in reality some people are just not ready to take the responsibility and hard work it really takes to make it work.
Our fast food culture supports the drive-thru weddings and divorces. I am not religious or socially brainwashed, it takes strength and fortitude to make a marriage work and i believe a mojority of peeps are not ready.
- Jaline0
Yeah, there are lots of people who can be together, yet one (or both) don't wish to get married. I'm not sure how I feel about that, but it doesn't matter to much to me.
- kelpie0
'mojority' is my new favourite word :D
- kezza_20
I am also getting married in September, and I think you are also wrong.
I don't think it's outdated, or unpopular. Certainly in the UK, as Gays can get married it has changed. I'm not getting married in a church, something else which has changed.
If anything the trend of marriages breaking up, is lowering due to the finacial implications of such a step, coupled with a rise in the cost of living.
So if anything, it is becoming more relivant than it used to be.
but that's just my oppinion, and far be it from me to stop someone taking the piss out of something.
Maybe the Liberal party could be of some inspiration?
- ********0
That's my issue with it kOna. Marriage needs to be divorced from the Church to give any real meaning to me. I'd feel I was belittling someone else's religion by getting married. Further to that, it's discriminatory against people like me in terms of tax breaks.
The whole thing turns me off.
It's great it works for you though. Keep up the good work i guess!
- madirish0
i am getting married in the next 18 months or so, but do not outrightly believe in the practice of marriage or that it is any sort of official recording of a commitment, promise, or bond. I feel the overwhelming number of people who do complete this tradition are not ready for it and do it as spendogg outlines wholeheartedly.
I also agree and applaud those who have an unaltered, commited and driving belief in their partner yet never 'marry'- that is a wonderful situation and one i (we) almost decided was best.
what i do believe is utter crap, is how US society and policies make it next to impossible to exist as a partnership (hetero or homo) unless you are of an extreme income bracket or privledge. that is a horrible practice but one that will not ever stop i know.