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- PonyBoy
so... it's like this -
I have this ex-employer - very talented blah blah blah...
... well - about 10 months ago I posted a thread on NT about an ethical question - whether to take business from a former employer if that business came from the client's contact with me - not my contact with them.
... anyway - I took the project - but I also out of courtesy told the former employer about it.
Now - this former employer is also MENTAL AS FUCK. The guy never sleeps - never slows down... and his skin is literally falling off him (so gross)...
.. so one might scream 'meth!!!' on the poor guy. Well - I already know about his cocaine habit (previous according to him) etc... so I know the guy does drugs w/out a second thought.
I just got a slew of horrible threatening voicemails from this guy - threatening to go to a mutual client and unload everything about my personal life on them so they're drop me - because he thinks I was maliciously trying to ruin him by telling another ex-employee that he was once again arrested...
.. so let me tell you what I did:
He got arrested - in passing w/an ex-fellow-employee... I told him that our old boss got arrested AGAIN (domestic issues)...
... and I guess that 'friend' that I had the conversation with took that info and went to another one of our old employer's clients.
Now... check this out - the client he went to and mentioned that our ex-boss was arrested - was already his client. When he quit the studio - the client went with him.... but that client still also gets some work done from the studio.
Now I'm being accused of ruining my ex-bosses relationship with his client - because I didn't keep my mouth shut about him getting arrested (again... not to mention all that shit is public record)...
... but yeah - i wasn't thinking when I said it. I wasn't paying attention to the consequences that could result. The only reason i even mentioned anything was because it was a situation that both myself and the ex-employee dealt with while we were there... so it was just a conversation about old times.
ugh... I doubt any of this shit is making sense - all I know is that our ex-boss carries a gun... thinks everyone is out to get him and thinks everyone (and I do mean everyone) can't even come close to being on his intellectual level.
In other words - the dude is a totally unreasonable deluded nut...
.. and I'm scared now.
*sigh
i've recorded all these message just in case I need them... hope this blows over.
- GrammaSeff0
sketchy
buy the dude an 8ball
tell him you are sorry
move on
- todelete__20
pay for my flight and i'll handle this in about an hour
*dulls sharp knife on rock
oh yeah baby... nice and dull...
- TheTick0
Good job.
- lvl_130
i remember...and i told you before. fucking methhead!
that is scary, but i wouldn't lose sleep over it. it sounds like one big communication fucktwist.
from what you said before, YOU were the only one that had this dude's back before, so that's got to be worth something, right?
- PonyBoy0
Enter response:
i already called the guy to apologize - called a couple times now - he's not calling me back.
fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck.
- PonyBoy0
Enter response:
you're right lvl_13... and on top of that - i've already tried apologizing etc... i'm not being a dick about this at all - i know i fucked up by opening my mouth...
... but i'm scared a bit because this guy ISN'T REASONABLE once he chooses a battle - I know this because I've watched him get arrested a number of times now because HE doesn't think.
- backwards0
touch his penis
end of story
- IRNlun60
stay calm...and apologize.
say it like you just explained... "Man I was tlaking to someone and for some reason it came up, I'm sorry...let me know if there's anything I can do to help..." praise him, make it seem like your are there for him and you'll be fine. Tell him what he wants to hear. If that doesn't work, poke him in the eye and run...he might get a couple shots off but can't see so you're safe.
- TheTick0
Call an attorney.
- ThreeSevenFive0
Pony, I feel for you man. It's hard in this city with the huge meth prob. I know that talking won't solve anything because you're right. Meth makes people completely unreasonable. I hope everything smooths itself out.
- PonyBoy0
Enter response:
eh - i already called and apologized... but this shit's going to haunt the ex-boss now.
his messages mentioned that he was going to my client and was going to ruin me so I couldn't finish the project that they asked me to do without his knowing.
so he went!!!! The client just called me - and said: DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT.
additionally they said: "kevin is the person we want doing our website - we hired him - he's our guy"... and left him hanging with that...
... how rad is that?!!
that client is getting a discount. :)
- lvl_130
shit. if he's not answering/returning your calls there's not much you can do other than keep trying.
one thing i would say is don't make yourself sound desperate (if that makes sense) just be up front and tell him that you would really like to speak to him about the situation.
you've known him for a while, so i think you have somewhat of an upper hand in the whole matter. plus you are the rational one, and rational people can usually calm irrational psychos
- Point50
Fuck him up before he fucks you up...
I wish it was that easy. Yeah, get an attorney, restraining order possibly and never go anywhere alone.
- lvl_130
my last response took way too long to type. glad to hear your clients are sweating it.
what a fucking selfish cock that guy is for actually doing that!
meth makes people crazy! sad really!
- PonyBoy0
Fuck him up before he fucks you up...
I wish it was that easy. Yeah, get an attorney, restraining order possibly and never go anywhere alone.
Point5
(Sep 9 05, 12:49)
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his last arrest was for breaking a restraining order.
hahaha!!
- lvl_130
^ are NOT sweating it, i meant
- TheTick0
A) Hire an attorney. Review history. See if there is anything legal to be done.
A.1) File a police report if there was any physical threats in the phone messages. Document this shit in case the worst comes to pass.
B) Send him some flowers with an attached card "Thanks for the referrals! You're a chum!"
C) Buy a firearm.
- uberdesigner0
you live an uneccessarily complicated life
- TheTick0
you live an uneccessarily complicated life
uberdesigner
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Quote of the motherf*cking day, right there!
- PonyBoy0
you live an uneccessarily complicated life
uberdesigner
-------------------Quote of the motherf*cking day, right there!
TheTick
(Sep 9 05, 12:54)
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yeah... no fucking kidding.