Live away from home?
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- mg33
I have a question for those of you who live away from where your parents live or where you grew up, especially if you have several friends that still live where you're from.
Are you ever given a guilt trip from your parents when you go home, if you tell them you need to spend time with your friends too while you're home?
Especially if you only make it home 1 or 2 times a year.I pretty much decided not to fly home to Texas for Christmas and just stay in Chicago and have 1 1/2 weeks off to do things here, spend time with my GF's family.
And talking to my Mom on the phone last night, I told her that, as always, I have friends I want to see if I were to come home. She manages to tell me in so many words "It's Christmas, you'd be home to see your family." and even suggested I not tell friends that I am in town and just stay at her house the whole time.It is frustrating. Keeping long-distance friendships with friends you care about isn't easy, especially if a parent doesn't realize you're not just coming home to see them (especially if I am the one spending the $$ on the ticket!)
It makes me wish I could just fly home sometime just to see friends and not see family, but man if I were caught I would get a massive guilt trip for that. :DAny anecdotes or advice, similiar situations?
Have a good Friday.
- _salisae_0
what say you fly home and stay with a friend instead and visit your family as often as your friend will allow it.
and pfft on them for giving you guilt trips. no good.
- Spix0
no, they dont give me guilt for that, but I think I do my self.
- Spix0
but i feel guilty if i dont visit my friends too.
- cosmo0
ha..yup I guess thats a must from all parents.
- ********0
just get on with it and do what you gotta do. you're a grown man, just tell em that's the way it is.
- gruntt0
my mother in law is giving my wife a freaking guilt trip... we'll see her for 2 entire days (trust me, thats a damned eternity) and everyone else we will see for 1/2 days...
!@#$%^&*()!@#$%^&*!@#$%^&*
- _salisae_0
stop giving yourself guilt trips!
you've got plenty of lovin to go around.
omg! is 2Advanced hiring?! wow. big day for the lot of you.
hee hee.
- Mal0
I moved 3000 miles away from my family 14 years ago. Have'nt visited in 5 years. I told them to come visit me as I grew up in Glasgow. As far as friends goes it's hard to relly keep it going when you are far away.
- Mal0
Guilt is a useless feeling btw dispose of it asap.
- thenuge0
i've lived away from home for 12 years now. much of that time all the way across the country (US) from my family and i only make it home twice a year for only a few days. i have a lot of friends there too. my parents are pretty understanding and i usually end up having my friends over to my parents house for at least an evening. i think my parents are just happy to have me home that they do what they can to accomodate me. good luck. if you haven't been away for awhile, they will get used to it.
- chossy0
My mother told me last christmas that I break her heart everytime I leave her to go back to Edinburgh. I stayed for another few days it was great.
- tkmeister0
i live 7000 miles away from home, it takes about 20hours to complete the whole trip to see my family. i have friends there i also keep in touch and try to see when i am there.
i manage to do all that in 4-5days.if i can do it, you can do it too.
oh, i did it twice this year.
dude,
chicago-texas is nothing compare to that trip.
- k0na_an0k0
i only live about an hour from my family. i guess i'm pretty lucky. i get to see them maybe once a month but talk to them at least once a week.
if they really wanted to see you more they could drop the $ for a ticket too you know... it's not just you not going to see them.
- mg330
No kidding, 7000 miles is a long way.
I usually try and do the same thing, and very well could say "I am seeing you on these nights, and my friends on these nights, and that's how it is," if I were going home next week.
It's worked before, it's just tough because I feel like I'm 18 yrs old sometimes when I am there. Like I have to keep an update of where I will be and such.
I always know that in her mind, she is itimizing every second of my time there no matter where I am.
- CaP0
i moved almost 5 years ago... chile - spain is a long distance (about 13000 kms), but i manage to go there once a year at leat.
man, drop guilt. i've been lucky my family understand that i still have friends i must see, but if it wasn't that way, i'd surely let them know.
although i the first time i went bck i told them i would be arriving to chile one day later than i really did, just to spend a "24-hour-indoor-experience" with this girlfriend that i had... that was neat....
- tkmeister0
or, you can invite all your friends to your home and everyone will be happy.
- CaP0
yeah, i did that a couple of times. a nice bbq is great. having a big gathering is a good idea.
last time i couldn't stay long, but i was really lucky one of my best mates was getting married, so i got a party with most of my friends in it without even organizing it myself.
- mitsu0
i'm about to find myself in this predicament next year. i'm leaving this sad state, and unfortunately, my family with it. however, if i want to see any of my friends bad enough, i'll probably fly them up to see me rather than dealing with that mess.
- mg330
Having friends to my mom and stepdad's house would be completely bizarre.
- mrdobolina0
just pick up the phone and call your mom more when you are in transit. it works wonders. I will be calling my mom in 10 minutes, shoot the shit for a minute while I walk back from lunch, no big deal.