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- soda0
mike_g, yeah man I hear ya!!!massive amounts of trouble, but it's okay now... well, almost! Let's just say it's looking good for the first time in years.
How about you? I hope it's okay for you two?
- soda0
brooke they do say a man's peak is when he is 16... you go girl!
lucky sod, I spent my peak on my own....
it's been downhill ever since!!!
- mike_g0
Yeah it was pretty intense, I think we both felt that it would never get better. It's harder to when you can sympathize with the parents and understand the cultural and religious reasons for their dismay.
But after 6 years her father is now very happy about the whole situation and has embraced me into the family. So it's done a complete a 360 in terms of acceptence.
Eventually I think they realized that their daughters happiness was more important than their own beliefs. So I hope you experience the same transformation :)
- those0
congratulations soda...
i too went through the 'marrying a muslim' scenario...
'if you can't beat 'em join 'em...'
so i did...
marvelous...
- save0
I went out with a Hindu girl for about 2yrs, she was fantastic but her parents were extremely strict. They were never happy with us being a couple and because of this I'd rather avoid it again in the future. I believe she's in an arranged marriage now......c*nts!
- soda0
dammit, mike_g and those... we should of got a support group going! I should of mentioned it here before, actually thought about it too!
It sounds like I have gone down the same path as those has and joined them! It was the only way my missus parents would accept us, me converting allowed them to compromise and they have. and finally it's okay. They know why I have converted and they also don't want to ask any questions, i guess it's all about saving face at the end of the day and they now are pretty happy with it all.
Still the conversion has played havoc with my drinking habits.... ;)
- -sputnik-0
a complete 360. lmao.
seriously...that's awesome, congrats! have a wonderful time.
marriage can be a wonderful, wonderful thing :)
- Mimio0
It's not worth changing your belief sytem over though. Yikes!
- Jnr_Madison0
Congrats!
- rasko40
thats fucking bollocks, changing religion to suit someones parents, I mean, nothing personal guys you had your reasons and made a decision. But I doubt I would do that, I dont agree in the religion I was taught and I rejected that for the most part, I certainly wouldn't go choosing another load of rewritten indoctrinating man-junk.
- pixelbreaker0
yeah, i had a whole load of shit with my old man, cos my wife's from Hong Kong, and he was all like "what are her motives? is she in it for a visa?" I've basically totally stopped talking to him, as he was also the same when his brother in law married a French-Morrocan woman (muslim), he made some fucking stupid comments, I guess he's just a country bumpkin, but it's hard to forgive and forget when someone totally doubts yours or your wife's motives. It sucks, and this kind of family turmoil is very painful
- mike_g0
Well, I actually commend you guys who converted. It's a very tough position to be in. I was lucky that my lady never really followed Islam (her father was from Pakistan and her mother is a Scot) and they raised their family in Canada, so it caused a lot of problems btwn her and her family, but Islam (or any other "organised religion") just wasn't right for her. So yeah, I didn't have to go through that part for her parents, thank Allah!
How commited are you guys to the religion? I know if I converted, sadly it would've just been for show. I think the principles and values are great, but the cultural aspects are the things that bother me about it.
- soda0
it's just for the show to be honest.
As bad as it sounds, it was the only way that would give us a chance with her folks. If there had been an alternative then we would of done it, unfortunately there wasn't. And the results have been worth it, everyone is happy.
I don't believe, but like rasko I had enough issues with my own 'faith' without taking on another religion. In a perfect world they would of accepted us for what we were and it would of been fine. It isn't a perfect world and sometimes you have to make do or make the best of a fucked up situation. In our case that's what I've done.
Not perfect, but then what is?