dating advice...
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- unknown0
so quamb do you enjoy your backstreet boys cds?
I bet your room is full of backstreet boys posters as well
how else could you possibly know how I sound like?
homie
- quamb0
sometimes I can't help my self but break out and dance to a backstreet boy song every now and then.
i said that bout you cos you're posting all 'homie' style, ala how "bad ass" pop stars seem to talk... which is fine... though funny. just pointed it out.
kinda outa place here i guess...
feel free to insult me more.
- sexypixel0
best of luck with it snocat. you're the king of you, fuck the begrudgers, if she's holding you back, cut her loose.
- mbr0
It's really shady that she went behind your back and actually went out with a guy without you knowing, or telling you. Perhaps you have it misunderstood?
I can understand if she posted a profile, then accidentally left it on the computer for you to find, but to go out, that's a DATE!!
I could also understand if you had been doing this for 5 years, then I'd have some sympathy for her, but 6 months! Couples survive years apart.
I think you had better re evaluate your relationship and havea serious talk. Sounds like you think she digs you more than she does, or you don't care. Find out, if you aren't sure. Otherwise it's doomed.
- unknown0
I agree that you should be mad, upset, confused, hurt that she went behind your back. But you need to look within yourself and figure out what it is that is occupying your personal time so much (sounds to me like moping in front of the computer and using that as an excuse for something else in your mind that is going on-aka, the fear of meeting people socially that you mentioned) that you don't make time for your wife.
Regardless of the fact that you have problems currently and neither of you have addressed them with each other, you married each other hopefully because you loved each other and wanted to be together forever. That alone should be worth more than any single second you spend confused and such about design bullshit.Oh, and what were you doing going through her stuff anyways?
- snocat0
mg33,
i was not going through her stuff, it was posted on the online dating service diary.
- sexypixel0
it could be soo much worse:
- err0
You still haven't confronted her with this shit? Are you scared of your wife? unplug the computer for a whie, spend some time with your wife and fight it out.
- snocat0
Yes, i still did not confront her with it. But I decided to spend more time with her and see her response. Yesterday, she had a call from chicago, i asked her who it was, and she said its only a friend that will be visiting LA in a few weeks that needs someone for a guide. I ask her not to go and she said its okay. I want to see if she really won't go.
I don't know, maybe this whole thing is BS. Maybe she got married with me because of my US citizenship. She's from Taiwan.
- unknown0
Man, you've just added a whole new aspect to this that we could have benefited from knowing much earlier in this thread.
So, when you got married, how quickly did you get married? Did she ever approach you about it?
It very well could be that she used the situation to gain citizenship-people do it all the time.
- unknown0
If I could slap you through my computer I would, be a fucking man!
Either devote your time to your wife and treat her like a woman or get rid of her.
It obviously isn't working out. You'll both be better off.
- AD0
err ya that's a pretty important peice of information
did you meet her on the Internet or in Taiwan?
- unknown0
WOMEN FUCKING SUCK
- krist0ff0
if you want my advice, and if you post here then i suppose you do.
sounds to me she has
got bored with you if you spending all your time in front of a computer. also, maybe that also explains why you are getting frustrated with your work.without sounding patronising i think you should spend less time in front of a screen. forget about her little rendezvous and get busy taking her out and having some fun. together.
plus i'm sure you will not only get an improved relationship but also a lot of inspiration to produce your work when you do sit down and design.
but if you find out she still keeps up her extra-curricular shit then you should definitely end it.
that is genuine advice from past experiences of mine. i have done the work is everything thing before. and it is bullshit, happiness is.
- slinky0
Your commitment to your wife comes before your commitment to your career. You gotta make sacrifices or risk loosing her.
Maybe you will find your design inspiration in a renewed, rekindled romantic relationship with your wife.
Be a better husband instead of a better designer.
"Not a sermon, just a thought"
OH, still doesn't give her the right to look elsewhere for lovin & attention.
- auricom0
damn snocat, i'm so sorry about your situation. i'm in a bit of a relationship struggle as well but marriage isn't a factor. i got dumped because i'm not the one she wants to marry but yet we still act like a couple and do things that couples do. we technically have been split for over a month so i also have massive amounts of confusion. i'm just chilling and hoping things work out for the best, but i'm also continuing to communicate when needed. hopefully a good chat with your wife will clear things up. i wish you crazy amounts of luck.
- unknown0
what happened to the days when men were men?
that's all women are looking for, someone to put them in their place...that's the only way they'll respect a man.it's fucked up but it's the truth.