Friend's Girlfriend
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- unknown
No. I didn't do that.
Quite the opposite. A friend of mine has been dating this girl for about 5 years. From the get go, all of us (the friends) thought this girl was Koo-Koo. Not all there and really wrong for our friend.
We still think that to this day. Unfortunately, we have become more vocal about it and it is starting to cause a strain on the friendship with him. We know she is not going anywhere. He says he loves her, wants to spend the rest of his life, etc. etc. We see her as having multiple personality disorder and being socially inept. That's the weird part. He is like the most social and "people person" out of all of us.I am sure some of you have had a similar situation. How do you keep everything cool with your friends while sticking to your guns on your opinion that his girl is loco.
thanks Dear Abby,
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- unknown0
heh. Nice one unfit.
Maybe we should start putting posters up around town.
"She's crazy. You need to leave her."
or "OBEY BUCKY"
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- unfittoprint0
or this one:
- timajick0
Succubus. Probably a very manipulative girl as well. This is a tough situation and there is no easy way out. You have to be very direct in this situation and start to draw lines. The longer you, as his friend, keep triying to be cordial and poliet the worse it will get. I know senario well, and your friend REALLY needs YOUR help to get out of it. Love makes you blind for sure, but it can also make you powerless. Say everything you think and be totally honest.
- Sapphire0
haha, thats wonderful :)
- mitsu0
i've been in this situation before as well and really all i can say is have just one more talk and that's it. be open and honest. tell your friend this is the last time he'll hear you all rant because your friendship is in your best interest. ask if he'll hear you out this one last time and let him have it. be blunt, but don't tell him he needs to break up with the girl... he makes that decision, not you. after you've said all you can say, you're done. the weight is off your shoulders and it's up to him to make the 'right' decision. it's his life and if his version of 'right' may totall contradict yours and your friends, but that's ok. that's what makes him him and you you and noone can change us but ourselves (especially if you're a taurus like me.... i'll fight you tooth and nail to the grave). he should feel luck to have suck caring friends! good luck! :)
- unknown0
hehe. mitsu, that is almost exactly the convo i had with him.
he actually tried to say that i was trying to break them up because i had a thing for her. OMG. uh nope.
that kind of pissed me off. i have been friends with this guy for over a decade and for him to hide behind some bullshit excuse was not cool.
I just hope she doesn't kill him in his sleep once they are married.
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- Redmond0
So you think he should dump her just because she has a mental illness? Or is it because she is mean/dangerous to him? Sounds kind of discriminatory.
- err0
Buckyballz
I hope you realize that his girlfriend is probably filling his head with thoughts of you being angry because you are secretly gay and have a thing for him.
Why are you so against your friend dating this girl?
- unknown0
oh chirst err.
another girlfriend of a friend of mine pulled that shit a while back. she claims that a friend of ours hates her because he is secretly in love with her boyfriend.
Sad. Sad. Sad.
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- monkeyshine0
I think you should be a real friend and accept the choice your friend has made.
I've been in a relationship for 11 years and there have occasionally been friends who tried to stand in my way (and most all wanted to sleep with me too! - well?!) and here I am, still very happy. Maybe you don't know everything there is to know. Either way, you're setting the stage to lose a friend.
- Jamesh0
Bucky you are the 'friend' aren't you.
It's OK.
We all have demons... er I mean girlfriends.
You could just pay her to leave.
- Peter0
Everyone listen to Redmond!
Just because someone has a mental illness doesn't make me or them less of a person
- unknown0
funny, aren´t you the guy with the big pro-war t-shirt when we´re talking Iraq and stuff??
Why don´t you tell him straight up, dosen´t seem to be a problem to you when we´re talking bombs and shit.If his happy with her, he tell you to fu*k off and you can go on in your friendship.
- marcoantonio0
You don´t think your friend can make up his mind on his own? Or maybe you´re the appointed carer - and clean up after him?
Let him live his life the way he chooses to. If there are lessons he needs to learn, let him learn them and give him a chance to experience life as it is.
Maybe they´re happy together. Shouldn´t that be a reason enough?
- neurofish0
Bucky man, you are in a tough position. There are f'd up women in the world, and they will devour your friendshp and your poor friend, suck em dry until there is nothing left. Much like men who beat women I guess. But it really is up to your friend to see it. I was in a similar position where I failed to see how much manipulative a woman can be. This type of mind sucking insectoid like woman exist in large numbers, the farther away we are from it, the better. Good luck amigo!
P.S: For those who considered the word "discriminatory", wtf are you talking abt?
