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    So I have a crush on a girl at work. I even dreamt of her last night. In the dream we fell in love at work and started kissing in front of our colleagues without giving a shit.

    Now in real life I’m not sure if it would be appropriate to let her know about my feelings. She knows that I find her cute because I told her so in a jokingly way. And sometimes we look at each other and smile, She hasn’t looked away like a girl that wouldn’t be interested. But at the same time I’m not sure if she’s really into me.

    I’m hesitant because of the work situation. It’s weird to pursue somebody at work, no?

    And if I get rejected it could be even weirder.

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    • I'd steer well clear, unless she made the first move.
      The last thing you need is an accusation of sexual harassment in the workplace.      Continuity
    • send her all of your posts to the chick of the day thread. i'm sure she'll fall in love with your charming personality.imbecile
    • Imbecile you stilll have issues with female beauty and photography.NBQ00
    • @ Cont, I think she’s cool and wouldn’t do such a thing. Also it’s not like I would harass her. If anything I’d just tell her I think she’s cute and if she’d...NBQ00
    • ...be interested in a date or if she’s interested at all in my interest in her.NBQ00
    • i'm positive once you let her know the appreciation you have for the female body, she won't help but see you for the exemplary human you areimbecile
    • i mean, you wouldn't be embarrassed if she knew you objectified women all the time anonymously online, right? if she's into it, you're golden. show her.imbecile
    • Don't let her know about your feelings, try to hang out with her more if she welcomes it (lunch breaks, coffee break, then walk to commute after work)spl33nidoru
    • Eventually you'll figure it out if she's into you. But yeah, careful with the work romance situation.spl33nidoru
    • How about you ask her to to hang out outside work and see how that goes? Bonus points if you have an idea for a date if she says yes.monNom
    • Simple yes/no. No pressure. No weirdness.monNom
    • The concept of dates is flawed. Tell her you’re going to X, and ask if she’d like to come along. Easy to turn down, doesn’t put you at risk,scarabin
    • and if she digs you she’ll agree. Next questionscarabin
    • scarabin's right. friends first is old school but golle gee gosh beaver, it works

      who'da thunk?      SteveJobs
    • Jobs are temporary. Love can last a lifetime.ArmandoEstrada
    • nah man you gotta play it:
      https://i.pinimg.com…      _niko
    • Post naked pics of her in the "Chick of the Day" threadutopian
    • lol @ commentsfadein11
    • Scarabin's got it. One step at a time, if this was design you'd still be doodling on a napkin at this point. This isn't time to call a boardroom meeting ;)zarkonite
    • No.grafician
    • X = Office toiletsted
    • don't forget to say hi first
      how clouded this story is right now she doesn't even knows your name      sted
    • garnering advice how to creep on a coworker from a public forum regarding a relationship that should stay professional is very respectful. i like your style.imbecile
    • there is nothing wrong with not knowing how to approach someone you really want.
      just don’t forget her when you think about these ideas, ehh      sted
    • Is this the same girl as last time?pango
    • You’re not in love. You love her work personality. Do not mistake politeness for affection. Find someone you don’t work with.nb
    • ^pango
    • Meditate. Your biology is such that you will very easily have these kinds of thoughts. Practice mindfulness.jtb26
    • Never dip your pen in the company ink.Raybandana
    • Never shit where you eat.sted
    • Never do females where you do emailsnb
    • I met my wife at work, went for it, worked out, life is short, fuck it...whatthefunk
    • easy problem. ask if she want you to stick i up her turd cutter. yes. win. no. win. now you don't need to dream and can move on. #problemsolverdeathboy
    • Flap your tongue between your fingers while making the ehhehhleghlehehhe noisecannonball1978
    • Lol ... How old are you?AQUTE
    • I dated a girl from work. Traveled the world with her and almost married her... we are still great friends. Go for it. Don't be a bitch.AQUTE
    • I've been hit on in work. For years I'd probably have the same reaction that you described. I mostly didn't want to make my work situation worse.shellie
    • If I were you, I'd be careful. She's not exactly inviting this. She might just be being nice. if you're wrong, the consequences could be very negative for you.shellie
    • Thanks for advice, all. You may be right, shellie. Good to read a comment from a girls perspective. Hmm, what to do.NBQ00
    • At the same time it’s 2020 and people are generally cool. It’s not like I work for a huge uptight corporation or a bank.NBQ00
    • She already knows about your plans, girls can smell it from kms. be kind, be brave, life's short but watch the price you're going to payOBBTKN
    • that comment right there. I put up with what I considered decision harrassment from a creative director for 12 years. I prayed about it here.shellie
    • he thought he was being cute. it took a long time before I stopped joking around and outright rejected him. I was afraid of poisoning my own well.shellie
    • and, he's lucky I didn't get him fired. i didn't take that step also afraid of poisoning my own well. its all bad.shellie
    • Shellie I found my chic at work. Also banged a bunch of others. Simply put your environment is the so called closest hunting groundsdeathboy
    • Is that not accepted. Humans hit on ppl close and work relations get mixed. Look at Kamala harris she made it work for her happilydeathboy
    • And I know that sounds bad. But is not more just the human condition and individuals make there own ends from the realitydeathboy
    • What u think is construed as power is just convenience when working hard and no time. That employees is off limits makesdeathboy
    • No sense and same as a club any suitor is gonna drive his merit and with home. That said a person using a position for sex walk away fromdeathboy
    • How long can a company last that hires such ppl willingly on both parts. If a scenario rises u evaluate your measure of meritdeathboy
    • Can't really blame those sleeping to the top as shameful. .. just more aware of their value and I terrstsdeathboy
    • And I've had rich oldl chics fondle my boys on shoots. I am appreciative of the attention. But that's where I draw the line and always cleardeathboy
    • Never had some pissant client get butt hurt but totally possible and if they do I have no desire to work with themdeathboy
    • Either way nbq. Do you. Can go a ton of ways but it's not american to not try for what u want have some plan bs in pkacedeathboy
    • Not much you can do in this type of situations other than hope that the attraction is mutual. Make clear that you like her, either directly (as you did)drgs
    • or indirectly (eye contact which lasts 1 second too long). This will plant a seed in her to evaluate you as a partner. Later you will know if its ment to bedrgs
    • Consider how awkward it'll be when you are together but have an argument and have to sit all day in the office making pleasantries.shapesalad
    • The main reason why you shouldn't be in a relationship with someone you work with or a start a business with is: Work = chance to get away from your family!shapesalad
    • The heart grows fonder with distance.shapesalad
    • When you spend all evening with her, sleep with her, breakfast with her... will she still be cute when you have to spend all day at work with her?shapesalad
    • What I've learnt spending all 24/7 with my wife for the past 6 months due to covid work at home is: my heart grew fonder being at the office 4 days a week.shapesalad
    • We are closer after all this time together, but a day at work, away from her, to think about her, consider how great she is, to be happy to see her after 8hrsshapesalad
    • I long for that again...shapesalad
    • In the meantime, take out your dick and bang it on the desks of all the other male coworkers to establish dominancescarabin
    • @shellie what is "decision harassment"? Autocorrect? or is this a thing?nb
    • *sexual harassment

      as autocorrect is a B      shellie
    • hang on, does this woman report to you, if so, gtfo, have I missed something? Shel, that's horrible - fuck people like that. NBQ - how many work there?whatthefunk
    • all i got from workplace relationships are sweet memories, so just go for it and don't forget that the door of theoffice toilet is always open for some bangingsted
    • listen to scarabin he is an old dog, knows all the nuances.sted
    • Thanks scarabin, will do.NBQ00
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