Giving up drinking.
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- Amby0
Don't!
Are u an American?
- comicsans0
Stim, sorry to hear about your situation. The drink isn't helping, try not to do it. If you must, then drink in company and stop at a sensible amount. Drinking to oblivion isn't good, doing that on your own is the path to a wasted life. Things might be bad now, the drink can make it a whole lot worse.
- Shaney0
sorry you've got this shit going on,for what it's worth I wouldn't look at it as quitting, you've got a lot going on so why put the pressure on now.Just change a few habits/places, make plans for one weekend night to do something that doesn't bore the arse off you if you aren't pissed and go oput on the piss another night. You'll see there's a life outside places where you need to be pissed to enjoy anything. even if thats at home.
- Corvo20
Something very similar happened to me 6-7 years ago, including not being happy with the work and the place. Sometimes it's just not possible to change things immediately. Patience, my friend.
- pascii0
just don't drink so much. that's all.
- PonyBoy0
my little brother got out of jail yesterday morning... he spent 2 nights and dropped 2700 in bail costs (well... his family and friends paid the cash) as he got busted for an aggravated DUI here in AZ...
... chances are he's got 30 days of work-release tent-city jail coming up.
He showed up at my place last night w/my Dad to pick up something - I walked out to my Dad's car to talk to my Dad as my brother ran inside to get whatever it was he needed and then came back out and got in the car w/our Dad.
I returned inside to see he had raped my fridge of a number of beers and slipped them into his bag before returning to my Dad's car...
... I'm not sure what to say really - except best of luck quitting... doing so is rather honorable in my opinion... and given the example above - rather difficult too. :(
- Fuck, you've had some shit to deal with man, sorry.Jnr_Madison
- ouch....sikma
- thx, jr :)PonyBoy
- Countryman0
I am not trying to be a dickhead. Look I'll take responsibility for my previous post, it was careless and heartless given the situation. I have known so many melodramatic trust fund babies who have gotten lost in the bottle, it just sounded like the same rhetoric.
That said, its clear your not one of these people and I apologize. It sounds like your in a really tough bind. Like I said before I would really recommend seeing a therapist. I know your hard on cash, but there are a lot of therapists who work on a sliding scale, and lets face it they always want a little more money. I am sure someone would be glad to take you on. On top of that they usually have TONS of references and know others who can help people in your specific situation. I am not just talking about helping emotionally, but also help with any material matters you may be having as well.
Your works is good, and you could probably find a job in any major city. Pick a place after you have some savings and say goodbye to the US of A, if its what you really need to do in order to get over all this crap. Sometimes you just need to get away from a situation in order to have some clarity. And as for the drinking, while I don't recommend it, you gotta do what you gotta do.
- Jnr_Madison0
I care, fuck them.
- Rand0
countryman, of course this place is a rehab center if that's what someone needs it to be, just like for you it's a place to be a dickhead
- blaw0
I can't imagine, 5timuli. I'm really sorry to hear this.
Best of luck sorting out the short-term on this, 'cause that's really where you need to focus. The long-term will figure itself out on its own.
- freitag0
stim, tis me, Janne. I do care. You know where to find me, details in profile/site.
- spraycan0
hope things get better, your honesty will lead you to the right place and right people.
- Jnr_Madison0
So sorry to hear Joe.
- Rand0
what the fuck, stim, when did this happen? I'm so sorry to hear this--you must be devastated.
- 5timuli0
I said nothing about drinking to improve my life or make it more meaningful. My intentions were simply to blot out the shit for a few hours on a Friday night as I just can't deal with this any more. Last time I had problems I directly turned to QBN because, like it or not, there are people on here 24/7 you can talk to. Is it sad and pathetic that the only people I can talk to are people I don't know? Of course it is. Did I expect any life-changing advice or to get instant clarity on my life's problems? No. QBN helped me a lot back in 2005. It's not 2005 anymore.
My wife is the ONLY reason I am still here in this country. I have nothing else. I'm not happy, but I always came home to her being here. Now she's not here. Whether it comes across in my tone or not, I'm utterly devastated. My life and soul has been ripped out of me. I'm stranded in a place I'm not happy, with no real friends, no money. My plans for the future with her are dead. Plans to have kids, build a family. Even my citizenship and residency is in trouble now. Neither of us can live without our two dogs so some unbearable decisions have to be made there. I'm not mentally strong enough to cope with this shit right now.
Sure, I don't have it bad compared to some, and things'll get better eventually. But right now my world is a dark place and I've no desire to be in it. Melodramatic? Yeah, but that's just how it is. Everything's fucked.
Maybe I should just give up QBN like so many others have. Let's face it, nobody really fucking cares if another long-term member disappears. Everybody just wants to bitch and complain, have a go at someone while hiding behind a username. Hey, I've done it once or twice but some do nothing but. I've had 7 years out of QBN, maybe it's time for me to get out. Thank for all the advice and laughs and links.
A good post number to end on: 69.
- i appreciate you being here stim. and would love to meet you IRL.
contact me whenever you want to shout/vent..freitag
- i appreciate you being here stim. and would love to meet you IRL.
- Countryman0
Dude why does drinking make your life more meaningful. Its really just poisoning your body. Yes its fun, yes it helps you have a good time, but if your drinking to improve your life, then its just a bandaid and eventually it wont help. If you want to feel better, then put some effort into making your life the way you want it to be. If you need friends then put yourself out there. If you want to do better work, then put effort into that. Why waste your time forgetting about your problems when they are going to be right back in your face the next morning with their good friend hangover.
- how very dull you are.max_prophet
- deepCygnusZero4
- Just fuck off.Jnr_Madison
- Ambushstudio0
I haven't had a drop of alcohol for 19 months now, it's awesome. My problem wasn't only alcohol though so I had to quit everything.
- I might follow your examplelukus_W
- No preachin or anything man, just a better quality of lifeAmbushstudio
- 5timuli0
I'm a bigger cunt now I'm drinking Kool-Aid. Somebody fucking shoot me now.
- colin_s0
i went through a drinking phase too. i mean, went through involves a past tense of some sort, i suppose.
currently i have a cold and i am hoping the vodka will cleanse any infected blood cells with alcohol, or something.