Relationship Question
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- Melanie0
You inherit half her debt if you marry her.
- bukka0
Ummm 90K of debt, that is crazy, if I heard that I would leave immediately...
10 months in and talking about marriage is sort of quick isn't it? If you can't be serious or straight with her then I would go.
- I agree, 10 months is nothing! I don't believe in marriage anything before being with the person at least for 4 years!hiiee
- 4 years is riculous... if you had just 4 long term relationships you'd probably be past the age to have kids...Amicus
- date for at least 6 months and live together for a year is more realisticAmicus
- uh yeah its hard to say... some people know it and get married quickly but this is a train wreckbukka
- haha, I was lucky, I dated since highschool , 8 years before we married...bukka
- I'm a conversative :p yeah have a relationship and move in, but still time will only tell whether you can live with this person... bad habits comes out later in the years :Phiiee
- . bad habits comes out later in the years :Phiiee
- refunktion0
90K!?!
Get rid of it dude.
That debt will eventually become your debt.sorry.
- visionary0
stay with her and she'll end up screwing other guys
- MondoMorphic0
hiiee - I think you're right. I know we're not right for each other but I do love her and I'm sure part of me is just afraid of making a big mistake (assuming I am just overreacting, paranoid, or whatever).
- Well there you have it "I know we're not right for each other..." Need we say more?hiiee
- _salisae_0
i was very similar to your girl in my last relationship though i didn't even want to move in with him. he eventually broke up with me and it was the right thing to do. i wasn't in love.
- kalkal0
I don't think talking about marriage after 10 months together is such a bad thing. Proposing would be a whole different thing though, I mean you want to gauge an idea where things are going but you don't want to jump into anything that soon
- MondoMorphic0
_salisae_ - do you think you would have behaved differently...been more committed and such, if you were in love with him?
- benfal990
dude, iam in a "should i stay or should i go" situation too. It sucks so much. I can feel your pain. But I can't help you.
- MondoMorphic0
Yeah, we've just talked about marriage. There haven't been any proposals and frankly, I would need to see a LOT of change before I would even entertain such a thing.
- MondoMorphic0
visionary - hahahaha, that's always a possibility, in almost any relationship.
For what it's worth, she cheated on her last boyfriend with me (I didn't know she had a boyfriend).
- doesn't that say everything???Amicus
- It says a lot, for sure.MondoMorphic
- visionary0
leave before the condom breaks
- Jnr_Madison0
I think you already know what you should do, you're just finding it hard to face up to.
- Mal0
- hiiee0
Breakups are never easy, it will hurt, but only for months and as time pass, it will go away. But staying in a painful and unfruitful relationship is suffering both for you and her. If you aren't happy about the relationship, do you think she is too? If you love her and you know things just won't work, just let her go, let yourself go.
- waterhouse0
Toss out the idea of a couple's therapy session. Just to try one and see how it goes.
- visionary0
enough conjecture. get out of dodge before you get too attached.
- MondoMorphic0
hahahaha - in all seriousness, I think that's one of the bigger reasons she's in this relationship. Not for lifelong companionship (she'll get that other places...friends, family). I think her clock is ticking and she thinks I will be a good father.
- kalkal0
I think the real question you should ask yourself is; can I go without sex for a while?
- _salisae_0
actually this happened a few times until i finally became smitten. i wouldn't consider treating my current boyfriend with the same nonchalance.