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- kuzzAAAAM0
:'( that's awful man, i imagine she was well fit when she was younger.
i had a go at my mum for getting arthritis, last night. As if it's her fault, hehe, but i was shouting at her for taking her health for granted and that i used to warn her about her health and that she needed to do more active things to keep fit, but she never listened. she's almost 60 and well, i can see her struggling in old age already and it makes me concerned sad etc... ,through all the bullshit, you dont want 'em suffering do you? :'(
did your mum believe in re-incarnation? if she did, maybe she came back as something really cool, like a Jaguar in Guyana.. that would be cool huh? But reincarnation isn't really true, so i prolly doubt it.
also, my granny's dying, but that don't really bother me too much, even tho we do have a loving relationship, still, old people are meant to die, and well granny was always old and decrepit. But i don't like that shit happening to my mum cos she was so strong and nurturing and i remember her still being pretty. Like i wunt be fussed with grandparents going but the thought of mum...*sniff*
- PSYKHO0
So sorry to hear that Tank, my heart goes out to you and your family. God bless and may her soul rest in peace.
- kuzzAAAAM0
oh god, this thread is gonna make me cry, i'm not reading it anymore...
i just hope chossy doesn't stumble upon it cos i don't think there are enough kleenex's in scotchland.
- Spanna0
sorry for your trouble, tank. makes me look forward to seeing my mum in a few weeks. I hope my daughter is as proud of me as I am of my mum.
- paraselene0
thinking of you, tank. i'm so sorry for your loss.
- DaveO0
Amazing thread amidst the trite, useless shit that's on here.
Seeing my mum this weekend, 2hr train ride away. She's always so excited to see me & we always go and hang out with grandparents and shoot the breeze driving around the north (of england).
How do they get to be so awesome?
- moth0
Sorry to hear it Tank.
I should go pay my folks a visit this weekend.
- skt0
sorry for your loss tank.
- monkeyshine0
Tank, I'm sorry for your loss. That photo of your mom is beautiful; obviously she was a strong person with a beautiful spirit - it shines through.
My mom died 15 years ago (it still kinda stuns me that its been so long) and I miss her every day. I feel so lucky though to have had her in my life; she taught me so much about life and creativity - and strength.
Since this is a sharing thread...I haven't shared this with many but at my mom's funeral we were all standing around the coffin and these monarch butterflies starting swirling around...hundreds of butterflies swirling around all of us. It meant something to me because my mom had painted two beautiful paintings of these butterflies and I loved those paintings (she was also a musician). After the funeral I wrote this poem.
A Thousand Butterflies
A voice
sonorous and blue
echoes a song
through waves
of my subsistenceMolten, mahogany eyes
greet me,
widen the edges
of my callow vision...
no more.Now there are
a thousand butterflies
cast in colors
of your creation,Chariots ablaze,
sweeping you
over tear-stained earth
into frescos of
honeysuckle and light.
- mrdobolina0
I wasn't going to tell anyone this but many of you know already. My Mother has had health problems for quite some time now. About 3 years ago she lost her job and was un able to handle things at her home. So I started paying all of her mortgage and bills to keep things going for her. She then got a job and worked for about 2 years, handled things herself for the most part. Was doing great. Then in May, she learned that her job was moving to Pennsylvania and that she would be without work again. Her health is worse now than it was the other time, she is 60 years old. So I reluctantly decided that I would move back down to her place and handle things for a while. I have been here since July 1st. It is really tough sometimes but I feel as though I am doing the right thing. I haven't lived with her for at least 15 years.
- dobs, you are wonderful to step up for your mom like this. Where are you now?monkeyshine
- good man dobs.grunttt
- yeah, well played champ. :)kuzzAAAAM
- wow had no idea, good on you for helping when you are most needed.Greedo
- you will never regret itDr_Rand
- good on you uncledobs. that must be very difficult, you ARE doing the right thing...vespa
- thanks, I felt kinda weird like I was a loser at first. living with Mom, but it is what it is.mrdobolina
- loser? Dude, you are a hero.TheBlueOne
- never accept the judgement of those who chose mediocrity.kuzzAAAAM
- nice one. way I figure it is they take care of you, you take care of them.Spanna
- also swap the words aruond like "my mum lives with me" not "i live with my mum". Like you take care of her sorta fingkuzzAAAAM
- that's NLP that is.... in the ass.kuzzAAAAM
- hahah, she is a pretty cool lady. her pets make me insane though.mrdobolina
- 2 years ago, I refinanced her place and put it in my name, she didn't have the credit at the time. so this will be my retirement home.mrdobolina
- retirement home.mrdobolina
- So you can bring chicks home?
:)TheBlueOne - haven't done that yet. I have the ultimate backyard afterbar spot though. Kegerator and cable tv outside.mrdobolina
- the neighborhood has changed a lot, lots more young people and pubs and shit.mrdobolina
- I just started hitting the pubs in the area last weekend.mrdobolina
- If you tell people you're taking care of your mom, they are losers if they can't understand. Girls dig it ;)Jaline
- good luck, by the way.Jaline
- thanks. wanna come to an after-bar? ;)mrdobolina
- after my dad died our whole family moved into the same building as my mom... although we have a different living quarters and separate entrances, you could say we've lived with my mom for close to 15 years nowDr_Rand
- quarters and separate entrances, you could say we've lived with my mom for close to 15 years nowDr_Rand
- 3 generations in the same building, and I am grateful for itDr_Rand
- superstar dobs. luv ya even more now :Dkelpie
- heh, Dobs, I would if I lived near you.
Nice, Rand. I have extended family that does that :)Jaline - man, and here's my mum telling me white people totally neglect their parents. I'm showing her this thread.kuzzAAAAM
- haha, kuz, my mom says the same thing sometimes. But only because of the "homes"Jaline
- yeah, the "homes", hehkuzzAAAAM
- 7point340
I wish i had more to say to you. more words that may offer condolence.
though i don't know you or your mother, i feel a certain connection in having heard about this for the past few months and having seen her beautiful face in those wonderful photographs. Bless you for taking the time to capture those memories and account for them here. we are all witness to her now, and therefore she will live on forever in your personal experiences and love, and in our minds as well. thank you so much for sharing with us in what was likely the hardest span of your life to date.
so sincere, so beautiful.
Bless her now, and now that she is in a better place away from pain and suffering.
all my best. all my thoughts and prayers.
- Bender0
My mom and me cooking xmas dinner together last year.
- a nice one :)moamoa
- I am impressed by the formal cooking attire...TheBlueOne
- that's a lovely apron on you...Greedo
- At first, I was like, this guy is cute. Then I remembered you are designerror and I thought your Flickr pictures were adorable too.Jaline
- adorable too. So I guess you look a bit different here ;)Jaline
- I was going to post: "this dude looks like d-e". Then I read Jaline's note. Ah. It's like Ragnarök all over again.Witt
- kuzzAAAAM0
eugh, you guys have no idea how hard it is for me not to make mum jokes in this thread.....
....in the ass...
- detritus0
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- kelpie0
really sorry to hear that tank. much love to you mate
- Mal0
Some years back my Mum went to canada with her Sister to visit relatives and when they arrived they were too tired to go out for dinner with the family they were visiting. My Aunt makes coffee and my Mum goes on the hunt for snacks and they sit on the balcony enjoying coffee and home made brownie. 2 hours later they family come back to find both my Aunt and Mum on the floor clutching themselves in tears of laughter. My cousin goes pale and says "how many did you eat?"..."about three each my Mum replies". "Oh fuck!" says the cousin that was a strong batch too.
I love the old soul and just got back from seeing her in Scotland and despite the 3000 miles distance I call her twice a week.
My thoughts are with you Tank.
- ha, that's hilariousmrdobolina
- fantastic story!grunttt
- my 21 year old nephew heard it for the first time when i was visiting..a classic story in our familyMal
- deadfinch0
this is my first post here on qbn.. i had to do it here.
the outpouring of support in this thread was really uplifting to start off what was otherwise a rather tired morning.
my best wishes to you, tank. i'm sorry for your loss, but she's in a better place now. may she rest in peace
- capsize0
White Owl Flies Into and Out of the Field
Coming down out of the freezing sky
with its depths of light,
like an angel, or a Buddha with wings,
it was beautiful, and accurate,
striking the snow and whatever was there
with a force that left the imprint
of the tips of its wings — five feet apart —
and the grabbing thrust of its feet,
and the indentation of what had been running
through the white valleys of the snow —
and then it rose, gracefully,
and flew back to the frozen marshes
to lurk there, like a little lighthouse,
in the blue shadows —
so I thought:
maybe death isn't darkness, after all,
but so much light wrapping itself around us —as soft as feathers —
that we are instantly weary of looking, and looking,
and shut our eyes, not without amazement,
and let ourselves be carried,
as through the translucence of mica,
to the river that is without the least dapple or shadow,
that is nothing but light — scalding, aortal light —
in which we are washed and washed
out of our bones.~ Mary Oliver
- stoplying0
tank02, so sorry man.
But thanks for being strong enough to share this, look at all the support here. Very nice.
- rafalski0
Tank, I am really sorry to hear that. I remember well you writing about your mom here in the last months. You submitted a photo of both of you to ntmugs, I uploaded it not so long ago.
All the best to you.