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- elPaulo
Where do I start....hhmmmmmm?
Not looking for sympathy or anything like that. Just looking for the usual inspirational responses or just humor to cheer me up.
Last year this time, my Dad had a stroke, and Dr's found a tumor the size of a golf ball in his head. After badgering with the Dr's for months, they finally did a biopsy. It was found out to be non-cancerous, but still. He has been pretty bad since the stroke though. Very different guy.
So, a few weeks after that, my Weimaranner, Sebastian died from kidney failure. He was only 10. Turns out that the grapes that I fed him (unknowingly) were the culprit. Then, a few weeks ago, my Bro-in-law who was an amazing artist and did some great murals in Brooklyn and the city (working on the memorial site tonight, post when completed), died at 58 from a stroke. They found him in his apt in Brooklyn sitting in his chair. THEN, today, I get a call from my mom, and she informs me that my Uncle has pancreatic cancer and has about 6 months. WTF? WTF did these folks do to deserve all of this, and what did the rest of us around them do to deserve all of this all at once? Am I on a bad streak, or is shit just life? I always seem to be on a bad streak. But, this one is particularly shitty. God hates me, and the feeling is mutual.
- CALLES0
sorry to hear... hard to say something to that..
yyou can make fun of me all you want if it makes you feel better =)
- daveFelton0
Shit is life / life is shit. Good things happen all the time, but of course that means bad things will happen too. God doesn't hate you, he just doesn't exist, and everything is simply a coin toss between good and bad circumstances.
- Antonelli0
Jeez. I was feeling sorry for you until you started getting all bitter at the end. That's just what happens in life... you die. People age and get diseases.
My aunts bro-in law got cancer all over his body - a rare form, forgot what it was called. they gave him 3 months to live, and he has 2 young boys. Then he started drinking this special tea stuff and he's 100% cancer free now. this was all no more than a year ago. his elderly mother had breast cancer also - she was on her death bed until she started drink that tea as well. She's perfectly healthy now.
i'll let you know the name of it. you can buy it online for your uncle.
- elPaulo0
yeah agreed. God def doesnt exist. But amn, the past year has been shit. Shitty jobs, shitty happenstances, shitty relationships, and all of it is now making the good relationships in my life suffer. I am starting to ignore my friends and family, and driving my wife nuts. Really, the only thing I wanna do is work on my design work, hit the mean green pipe machine about midnight, get up at 6, and do it all over again.
- Llyod0
I'm confused. Your dad is a weimaranner?
- .detritus
- Even if that was funny it wouldn't be funny but it was the lamest kind of infantile joke ... 1/2Studiospooky
- 2/2...so it really was massively not worth being offensive for. You should feel like a twat.Studiospooky
- Don't be such a fucking asshole Lloyd. I know it's natural and all..but have a think next timejevad
- < lloyd is a dickheaddbloc
- 4040
Dude I'm really sorry, I can't even imagine how you feel. Life really likes to beat on people when its the worst time possible, but try to rise above it and use these awful experiences to make yourself a better person (not that your a bad person, but im sure you know what I mean).
- elPaulo0
Thanks Antonelli! I totally believe in that stuff too. Mt mom-in-law had cancer thru out her Digestive system, and she fought it for a long time with natural remedies. It eventually got her, but she had a great quality of life for a long time all with cancer.
- vague0
you never, ever, ever feed grapes to dogs or cats. it's completely lethal.
- elPaulo0
yeah, i heard about that as my dog was dying.
- kona0
I lost 3 of my four grandparents in less than a year not too long ago, I know how you feel. Its horrible. You dont have enough time to get over the loss of one then another one passes. There is no rhyme or reason, you didn't do anything wrong in a past life, you're not being punished, and even though you dont believe in him its not Gods fault. When my grandmother passed it was sudden, and it was hard to take in because I didn't get a chance to say goodbye, and I feel sorry that happened to your 58 yr old brother in law. But you have time with your uncle. You have the rare opportunity to focus on the present, be with him, support him and cherish every moment up until his last. Use that time to focus on the good, dont dwell on the anger, the hate and the bad of "why me, why us" its a waste dude. Keep your chin up and be strong friend
- ComicSans_Rocks0
Hey el Paulo, I am sincerely sorry to hear about all of horrific events and negativity surrounding you and your family at this moment it time. "I have been there in your shoes before". The only words of wisdom that I can offer you is, to stay positive and surround yourself around positive & compassionate people. Take care:)
- JKilla770
Sounds like you need something positive to recharge. Make some art to memorials what they were to you. Sell it make a couple of bucks and use that money to go some where cool, like camping in the Mayan temples and get some perspective.
My Grandma passed away when I lived in Whistler, so took the day off went up and built a booter with my buddy and did what I loved. Made me happy.
- ComicSans_Rocks0
Broccoli and or chocolate was also kill your dog!!!
- elPaulo0
kona, great words man. Thanks, and thanks to all of you!
- AndyRoss0
Yeah, I hear you.
Sometimes thing's seem heavy. I lost my father about a year ago. His house (my family's legacy) has been on the market since then, and it keeps going down in price, and still no buyers.
I've got a cousin battling an awful cancer situation. Just terrible how she's wasted away to nearly nothing. Like my mother did, about twenty years ago. I can see the same endgame, you know?
But, I've got a wonderful daughter, and a wife who's quite sexy, so I try to make the best of it, you know?
- Antonelli0
Paulo, this is the tea http://www.theoriginalessiac.com…
I remember my mother used to keep it in a glass pitcher in the fridge with some foil wrapped around it (I guess it can't have any light coming through to it). I don't remember if she bought the powder or the liquid form, but I know she didn't buy the capsules.
It tastes like shit, but you only need a small amount, so just tell your uncle to down it. If I recall correctly, it was about 5oz. / 2 times a day. But do some searching on the internet for exact portions, etc.
- gramme0
elPaulo, I agree with k0na. I don't know why God lets certain things happen, there is not an explanation that satisfies a grieving son, friend, etc...
I do believe this world is corrupt, and that the state of things was originally our doing; we merely continue to reap the consequences, handed down from one generation to the next, until a perfect world comes along. So: death, disease and heartache happens. I don't know why God lets these things continue to happen, but I think there is a point to all of it...it just hasn't been made clear thus far. I do know that those of us who experience deep pain – if it does not break us or embitter us – are able to experience true joy all the more.
From what I know about God, he does not gloat over our suffering. He does not enjoy seeing people in pain. He loves all, and gives each of us a certain amount of common grace; even those who do not believe he even exists. By common grace I mean the ability to live, breathe, wake up rested in the morning, laugh, feel, and even to be happy at times. There is a grace beyond that that saves, but it requires God to reconcile us to himself. I take comfort knowing that even those who do not believe he exists are given daily comforts in spite of their unbelief. That alone tells me that God is patient and irrevocably kind, even if we are not.
- jevad0
I'll never understand why bad things happen to good people.
So sorry to hear about all your troubles mate. Hopefully your luck will change it's course soon.