some help?
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- _salisae_0
maybe consider temporarily moving closer to your friends and family. they'll provide much better support in person.
sorry this happened to you. i wouldn't wish it on anyone.
- jevad0
Sounds lame and cliche - but it obviously wasn't meant to be.
Mourn her loss for however long it takes, and in time you will move on and find another.
Chin up lad - there's plenty more fish in the sea.
- CALLES0
how you doing there buddy?
- gramme0
You in LA? Take up surfing if you don't do it already. You'll thank me later.
I agree with others about the drinking man. Numbing yourself just puts the pain off for later; in the meantime it will poison and twist you and cause the pain to become even bigger than it already is.
Go to a church. A real one. You might be surprised at what you find there if you act like you have nothing to lose.
- -sputnik-0
i remember creating a routine around things i really enjoyed. like just about every day after work i'd go for a really long bike ride and then either make sushi or go out to have it w/friends. i had little time to dwell. that worked for the first couple of months after which i felt much better about staying home on my own and doing my thing w/out feeling too sad.
so take up surfing or some other sport or pastime you'll really enjoy. pack your days if you can and if you think it'll help you. time passes and it gets much better, so this initial distraction can be helpful.
- barbtastic0
get to the beach, walk around griffith park... all very therapuetic for me
- Rand0
I'm sorry, bud... if I was in LA I'd offer to go out and rob a liquor store with you, maybe go down in a hale of bullets
- barbtastic0
if i was in LA right now i'd teach you how to surf, it's an amazing feeling :)
- gramme0
*misses the ocean something fierce
- gramme0
Watch "What's Up Doc?". Classic 70s humor. You'll laugh hard.
- madirish0
man, so sorry. i cannot imagine the feeling, but NT is with you. this i know.
now, if i was in LA, i would get all robbered-out and rob Rand with you- no question. we may all go down in a hail of bullets (Rand packs heat, this i know) but it would be a brilliant site to see....
- gramme0
join madirish in talking like Yoda.
- barbtastic0
i miss LA something fierce
- enjine0
As the great Woody Batts said:
"That shit's gonna take a looooooooooong time..."
I went through a horrible one about a year ago and it still hurts every fucking second. I feel for you man, that is a really awful situation to be in. If you quit drinking altogether, it will actually make you feel better. Stick with yr friends if you can right now. and definitely definitely don't do any hallucinogens.
sorry to hear this. rebuild yrself one piece at a time, starting with whatever is most important about you to your life.
- mtgentry0
Sorry to hear this brotha. Try to keep busy, that should help.
- oldelpaso0
take up surfing
surf at like 6am -9am - then go to work and then catch a brew with ur mates... by then u'll be so stoked and tired from surfing and chilled out by it, as well as stoked to see ur mates.. ur girl problems will go sooner than you think
+ the sea is rmarkably good for taking out ur aggression/frustration
the key right here is to keep busy... as weird as it seems though the rebound is a bad move.. ull just end up comparing ur rebound girl to ur ex.. and it will make shit worse.. so...
learn after effects/ surfing/ drums/ how to cook / and listen to Journey in a purely ironic tone :)
- barbtastic0
oldelpaso:
so true, i miss the days of surfing in the morn, going to work at noon, and having a drink at 9... bliss
- k0na_an0k0
Damn. That song depressed the shit out of me, and I was flying on cloud nine today.
Years ago I went through a similar situation threadpost. You gotta find something to get your mind off this shit. Surf. Video games. The Gym. Anything but sit at home drinking beer listening to sad tunes on the radio.
Time is the only thing that will heal your broken heart.
Sorry.