some help?
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- threadpost
Last Thursday I learned that my girlfriend of 8 years, and who I planned to marry this summer has been sleeping with someone else. It fucking destroyed me. I seriously don't know where to begin or what to do, all I feel is this deep paralysis, like I cant function. I come to work and cant do anything but dwell on how it all went down.
I've broken up with girls before, but this one was special to me, I really loved her and wanted to spend the rest of my life with her.
Any suggestions besides booze, cause as it is, I have to drink myself to sleep every night anyhow.
I even went out last weekend and hooked up with some hot girl from a bar, but that only brought guilt and more sadness.
Where does one begin? I'm a transplant to this city and have few real friends here, so most of my time is spent at home drinking and dwelling.
- PonyBoy0
shit, man.... shit.
:(
I can't give you any advice on this as I've never been hurt that bad - but do know if I could hug your right now... shit... I'd be like a blanket, buddy.
hang in there... seek out those few friends you have at the moment too.
*pony love
- OSFA0
damn man, sorry to hear that, chin up bro!
- grunttt0
drinking is dangerous therapy so keep that in check.
get out.
- grunttt0
btw - sorry man.
- Mimio0
She sounds self-destructive, you're probably lucky to be free of her.
- version30
you need mental cleansing. even if you had answers for the questions you're asking, it wouldn't change her actions. the "why" will tear you apart. all the thoughts you had before you knew should be gone. don't question those old beliefs anymore as they are based on lies. there are people that care for you and i believe you know who they are. they should be your company while your mind begins to relax back into a reality not based around her
- cosmo0
Sorry to hear that man. There nothing anyone can say that will make you feel better right now. But right now I am giving you a virtual hug. Hang in there.
- -sputnik-0
wow threadpost, that's just horrible. i don't think there's much we can say to help you right now since you're hurting so badly, but i can tell you that you'll be happier in the long-run. someone who's willing to do that to you isn't a person worth your time, and although it sounds impossible now, someday you'll be grateful you found out before getting married.
spend time with people who really care about you are are kind to you...that can help tremendously.
- threadpost0
I appreciate all of your e-love, I really do. I have some good friends and am very close with my brothers and parents, so I'm on the phone a lot lately with them.
I'm sure you all can relate on just how bad this type of thing hurts tho. I swear to god, Newton was right. For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. As in, for all the pleasure, comes an equal amount of pain. Being in love, especially the first year, is the greatest feeling you will ever have. Then having that removed is likely the greatest pain.
Anyone in LA wanna go wreck some shit?
- grunttt0
Anyone in LA wanna go wreck some shit?
threadpost
(Mar 6 07, 12:39)hahaha!
- CALLES0
time
sorry brother
- ross0
sorry partner,
I read this in a bathroom stall last week and thought it may apply here.
"Although it may be hard to accept, everything is as it should be."
- joyride0
whatever you do, DON"T CALL HER!!!!!!!!
Remove her number from you're phone, take down the pics, whatever. It sucks I know. Just realize this, you'll be better because of what happened... but give it time.
And if you're going to break shit, make sure it's hers
- epigraph0
Sounds cliche but the only thing that works is time. Never thought I'd get over my mom dying, but eventually you cope.
I think maybe it should be:"Although it may be hard to accept, everything is as it is."
- ghandolf0
Everyone is right. There is nothing we can say that will help. You have to rationalize with yourself. Understand that you're very lucky to have found this out now, before you married her. You would not only feel like you do now, but you'd have lost half of all your shit as well. Trust me. That adds insult to injury.
Take your time.
Mourn for a while.
Take care of yourself.
Be good to yourself.
No woman is worth hurting yourself over.
This isn't the love that has been picked out for you, or it wouldn't be this painful.Chin up...
And go back to doing whatever you want to do...
... whenever you want to do it.
- rodzilla0
I've been there man.
As everyone has said, keep those dear to you close.
Keep the alcohol in check - it got me in major trouble.
Know that if she were truly the one, then she wouldn't want you to ever feel the way you are now.
Things happen for the reason, never thought I would be able to pick up the pieces. With that said, I am getting married in 4 months to the woman I love.
She's out there bro - don't dwell. Call your friends when you want to call her.
- Jaline0
although it sounds impossible now, someday you'll be grateful you found out before getting married.
-sputnik-
(Mar 6 07, 12:38)exactly
- M0NEYCIDE0
cheers and take deep breaths and out goes the sadness...deep breath and out goes the anxiety, negative thoughts, sadness...deep breaths
- blaw0
just be cool with the drinking. things can be worse and a bottle has helped prove that theory more than once.
really sorry, too.