Funerals
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- Jaline0
don't think about it too much while giving the speech either, or it'll get more overwhelming than it already is.
- DogsBreath0
I lost my Mum a couple of years back...I ended up doing the eulogy as my 2 older brothers are pussies!
Anyway, it was one of the best things I have ever done. If you think of it as a tribute rather than an obligation or opportunity to get nervous, you'll be right.
Just tell some nice stories rather than waffle on...one of the best funeral speeches I have ever heard was freom a very uneducated bloke who was talking about his uncle, who incidently was a Priest. He just told some anecdotes that were close to his heart and which illustrated the love he had for that person...
As long as it's from the heart, you'll be fine.
- soda0
thanks for all the suggestions people. It was a really hard and emotional day. It was the hardest thing I have ever done, had to skip the opening few lines of it just to get started. Didn't look at anyone, was a real out of body experience to be honest and I don't know how I did it. All his family appreciated it, I think I gave a good picture of the man and what he meant to a lot of people.
Struggled about two lines in, got to a funny bit, was fine.. Struggled 6 lines from the end. Broke down on last line.
Blubbed like a baby when I sat down. Still pretty exhausted by it all right now.
The hardest part is having the wake with all his friends, I really want to phone him and tell him about seeing all his mates and have a laugh. It's a really odd feeling and I can't get it out of my head.
Thanks again x
- emecks0
aww christ soda.
Sorry man.
got pissed with my uncle on Saturday who is terminal with lung and liver cancer.
I am dreading the funeral already.
- paraselene0
well done, soda. you'll be grateful that you did this in future, i'm sure. and his family and other mates are no doubt really pleased that you had the courage to get up and speak.
- grunttt0
well done soda.
- soda0
thanks people, it helped that his family really seemed to appreciate it. MX, I'm sorry fella. That's really harsh. Just help him make the most of what's left, do what you can with him and tell him all the things you want to get said.
I remember Dennis Poter talking in his last interview about how beautiful life is when you know it is ending. That really stuck with me.
- emecks0
It's true soda. I held my mum's hand as she died, everything was said already and it was the single most spiritual event in my life.
It still seems really unfair for someone to know months in advance and have to go through all the ill health first, even if it does make it easier on the survivors.