schmoozing
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- Point5
do you do it?
- Sven_sk0
no. but i'll dirty sanchez.
ps. define schmoozing. like brown nosing or networking or what?
- mexicandave0
Yep sure do. Pay lip service, laugh at their crap jokes, show interest in their vacation pics, cause apathy never paid the mortgage
- _salisae_0
no, but i love the play like quality of someone trying to schmooz me or someone i'm around.
go on .. SELL. give it your ALL.
- grunttt0
point5 you seem like a nice guy, handsome too if you don't mind me saying so, in a completely hetero way of course. I would really like to know what you think about schmoozing. I bet you insights are quite facinating.
like that?
- Point50
thanks Sven_sk... I almost had a coffee drenched keyboard!
I commonly view schmoozing as being overly nice to clients and kissing their asses to get in good with them. It drives me up the wall and I hate when I get caught up in the whole act with my bosses there and I find myself guffawing at the bad jokes and complimenting them on their sales and such. I hate it. And part of me thinks that may be why I won't ever own my own studio because I can't stand that whole side of business... the pseudo-socialize with the client side.
- Sven_sk0
schmoozing = being phony.
more respect for people that don't.
people that do schmooze always want something from you and its always transparent. only question is: what do they want?
- Point50
*winks at grunttt; writes retainer check for $20,000/mo.
- Jaline0
I do...for most of my conversations with people, to be honest. It gets you places. But I can't help it when my eyes glaze over or they just suddenly roll in the background.
Basically, I have a good sense of humour but I don't generally laugh out loud (b/c many people aren't as funny as they believe themselves to be), I don't like it when people send me pictures of their animals because I could care less.
Anyone who does the same thing as me or feels the same way as I do will be my new friend. I do have best friends I talk to about things, but it's a whole different level of connection when they have the same sense of humour as you do.
- Jaline0
Also, I think most people do it at work just to seem like less of a freak or antisocial. To seem personable and to keep the job.
- nocomply0
yes i do it. more than i would like.
- kelpie0
I do...for most of my conversations with people, to be honest. It gets you places. But I can't help it when my eyes glaze over or they just suddenly roll in the background.
Basically, I have a good sense of humour but I don't generally laugh out loud (b/c many people aren't as funny as they believe themselves to be), I don't like it when people send me pictures of their animals because I could care less.
Anyone who does the same thing as me or feels the same way as I do will be my new friend. I do have best friends I talk to about things, but it's a whole different level of connection when they have the same sense of humour as you do.
Jaline
(Feb 2 07, 08:34)did you not just describe "socialising" rather than "scmoozing" though, jaline?
- OSFA0
can we get back to dirty sanchez?
- Jaline0
could be, kelpie, haha. I guess that's why I could relate with Dexter from "Dexter", except for the serial killer part.
But the definition of both is quite similar:
http://dictionary.reference.com/…
- -sputnik-0
no. i'm polite and professional and respond genuinely to people, but won't schmooze for the sake of it.
it's invariably transparent - schmoozers are chumps.
- Jaline0
I thought that too, but sometimes I have to laugh at people's jokes.
Basically, I can also tell if someone knows I'm faking it and then I stop, otherwise it depends on where I am. If I'm at work then I'll laugh because my boss starts laughing and actually goes on for a few seconds, clearly expecting me to laugh or attempting to get me to laugh.
- Jaline0
I am honest though. If someone asks me something I will tell them my honest opinion. People appreciate it, for the most part.
- CyBrain0
I don't do it, but the real estate broker I'm dealing with is a true master. It also doesn't hurt that she's super hot.
Some are better than others. If you're just putting out a nice vibe, then I'm ok with it, but if you're just trying to get over on someone, it's just the dark side of the force.
- Jaline0
I just like getting along with people, basically. But obviously I won't go to extremes or become completely fake or someone other than who I am. I feel that sometimes it's a necessity.
- wendog0
i crave it
- vespa0
the other day i was working late and i heard a group of people having schmooze drinks round the corner doing that loud fake HYUCK-HYUCK-HYUCK!! that is laughed when someone important makes a joke and i hated them.
that said, i'm usually the first there for free drinks. is that schmoozing or is that just being a free party vulture? i don't laugh unless someone is funny at least. i've got standards. sort of.