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- ********0
winter is quite right!
it is true that women crave and need the pimp hand. this is no joke. if you show them too much your winkie will go soft and next thing you know it you're at bed bath and beyond buying throw pillows.
- -scarabin-0
you're probably just being too predictable and nice
and don't come to a middle-aged, single, nerdy, sausagefest like nt for advice on girls
- _salisae_0
that made my weiner tingle
- ********0
never again eat turnips!
and don't let on that you know what that's from.
- winter0
"...I gave you my heart, but you wanted my soul.."
Bob Dylan.
- ********0
I don't know the answer.
if you think you do, fuck off.
- ********0
"tonight we do the bad place"
- version30
it works like this (unless you are SUPER SUPER lucky)
girls like boys that chase them, boys like girls that let them "catch" them
at the end of the day the guy has to be willing to cave into the social and emotional needs of the woman
women have a need to be understood by you, not understand you. do not get these confused, it will be a lifetime of disapointment if you do not fully understand this fact up front
compromise to a man is each getting thier own way even if you have to do things seperately
compromise to a woman is the man finally breaking down and doing what the woman wants
these are not intended to be sexist statements, just the truth, boys my want to disagree for the "equality" of it and girls may disagree for the "i'm not like that" aspect.
but at the end of the day, if you as a male want a long lasting relationship with a female, you MUST be prepared to watch the life you had when you met go away
that is a sad sad truth
- ********0
so instead of screwing other women...you must be married to the idea of creating wall babies in the shower? at what point do you get pervy? maybe starting with a thai basket and ending with nipple clamps and fisting.
- Jaline0
If I told someone I needed space, it would mean that I wasn't sure about the relationship, and could possibly be wanting for things to end. That's mainly if the other person doesn't give me space, because I do really like having quite a bit of space.
I will also be forever single, primarily because I'm too awkward to socialize excessively. I only go to places when my friends ask me. Actually, lately I've been wanting to do more things outside of my comfort zone, but it'll take me forever to do something outrageous (in my mind). Not only that, but it takes me a few meetings before I can really have a full conversation with someone.
- Jaline0
By the way, saying the exact words 'I need space' is basically the kiss of death for a relationship. Or at least signifying extreme boredom. If I were to ever say that, I would do it in a more creative manner.
- version30
is it as bad as "Let's just be friends"?
- Jaline0
oh yeah, almost as worse.
- Gucci0
i need space, can also mean 'you're waaaaay too clingy for my liking – it's suffocating me'
hope that's not the case for you... but some people like to have time to themselves without having to answer the dreaded "what's wrong?" question every 5 minutes (I ran into that issue a few years back – self esteem issues and insecurity bit me and i got bit back).
Then there's the scenario that says: maybe one person is calling too often, comes around too often, is too needy. Being too much of an eager beaver can sound a death knell faster than a fat kid downs a pizza.
i'm sure you know your own situation pretty well, those are just my experiences. hope you make sense of it all. it can be a painful experience, just don't become one of those bitter people that hate women.
- ********0
jaline, I need myspace
- Boz0
Gucci I think you are very close to my situation. I'm not really needy that much, though I might look like it, it's just that we didn't spend enough time together and she's now far away from me. So it's like a long distance thing. So when she says space, I really don't get it.
Another thing is that she was sending me text messages very often and those were really emotional. For example she sends me a message "Call me for just a minute" and then she just gives me a kiss on the phone and tells me that's all she wanted and that I can go back work.
Then suddenly 2 days after another one of the similar messages she talks to me and keeps telling me that she needs time for herself, space or whatever. We had planned for her to come to visit for 2 months for us to live together and now she tells me that she doesn't think that's a good idea.
I'm just baffled. Seriously I care about this girl, but I just think that she has a problem not knowing what she wants or she found someone and just wanted to break it off. Though she's pretty much like Janine, she doesn't go out much at all but I guess it's what it is.
It's totally weird. It's been 5 days now and I haven't talked to her at all. No communication at all. We ended it in such a weird way that I never got closure I guess.
Anyways, I think you guys are right. Btw, I just met such a cute next door neighboor. She's a lovely girl. I think I"m just going to get to know her better and forget what happened and I have a date in a few days too with another chick that I know locally, so I'm feeling a bit better now, but it still hurts I guess, especially since I knew my girl/ex-girl or whatever from a while back and we were so close that I knew her whole family, loved her sister and all this. Now I'm like a freakin stranger, nobody wants to talk to me. WTF? And I really didn't do anything that would cause a reaction like that. Sucks ass in general.
- valentim0
tottally relate to what you´re saying, so from my experience, whatever you might feel right now it will look like a joke in a while, some of the answers here are very true, women do see weakness in emotion, altough they are always looking for these emotions (weakness in man) gives them power but at the same time they respect you less. You can´t win. Be a bit selfish for a while, meet new people, have fun think of you and before you know you will met someone new that gives you the same satisfaction if not more than your ex...and same story all over again...such is life!
- kelpie0
don't come to a middle-aged, single, nerdy, sausagefest like nt for advice on girls
-scarabin-
(Apr 2 06, 18:10)haha. and true.
- rafalski0
If she neeeds more space while having so much space, she has no space for you. She met somebody as well. And if you can date a week after.. you seem to be quite ok with your newfound freedom.
- chossy0
Unlucky son, life isn't just about chasin the muff around, chillax for a bit see your freinds sup on life for a while. :D