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- Baskerville0
The grass is always greener...
Any decent relationship is worth working at. Just because you sometimes feel a bit bored with someone, doesn't mean you don't love them anymore.
Try and think back to when you've been single with no prospects, you would have given anything to be in the relationship that you're in now. You'd have been really jealous of what you've got.
But now you're in a relationship you have a rose-tinted view of bachelorhood,thinking 'if only I was single I'd be getting a different hot girl every night' which we all know is never how it is.I say keep on working at it, you've come this far. But also discuss it with her, it may actually help
- rockonski0
you're not LOVING her/. love is a verb, so start loving.
- relationshit0
thanks people.
some valued comments there.some thinking and drinking to do.
- -scarabin-0
lol
is this true -scarabin- ?
relationshit
(Sep 21 05, 05:11)yeah, i've been with my second girl for almost 5 years now. the first girl (of 8 years) was surprisingly understanding when i explained that i'm just being a male and doing my thing. it's normal in many cultures anyway. now she accepts it and it's like an open situation
i'm seeing the second one tonight, incidentally
- chossy0
I was in love once.
- phatlee0
I am in love.
- MrRemote0
"I'm just so bored with the monotony of it, and her."
Sounds like a cop-out. Are you sure your not the one who has become the bore? I've known alot of people that get stuck in a rut with work, etc. and suddnly find themselves unhappy but can't see why.
- my two cents :)
- -scarabin-0
regardless he's bored
- canuck0
Talk to her about this. I am sure it is something you can both work out. People sadly get in a situation where they take things for granted. love, friendship whatever.
- 5timuli0
Can I offer one piece of advice? Talk it through with her and try to find out if there's any way to fix things and carry on. Don't just leave and hope everything works out eventually.
After 9 years in a relationship, I'm on the recieving end of what you've described and I'm totally devastated. Just hope it works out for both of you.
- kelpie0
why'd you get banned scarabin?
- relationshit0
MrRemote you could be right,
I do put a lot of energy into my work, which must be at a loss to something else.
ITS ME!
- -scarabin-0
i wouldn't suggest doing what i did, so don't listen to me
i'm blessed with having two very understanding and loving women in my life
most girls wouldn't go for that sort of thing, so be careful
i know how hard these kinds of situations can be, so good luck my man
i have found that there is no such thing as a right answer when it comes to matters of love
- -scarabin-0
why'd you get banned scarabin?
kelpie
(Sep 21 05, 06:35)for talking shit about mediatemple when they went down for the 73756346th time
- kelpie0
ah, I see
*tows party line
- aliceblue0
Ah yes the "bored" or the "boring"
Either way she probably already feels what you're feeling.ps...been there
- soda0
hmmm....
I been with my partner for 12+years and yes, relationships are hard work but you will know between the two of you if it is worth carrying on.
It does just sound like you are both in a routine.
Mix it up a little, go travelling together, stop working so hard, spend some time with eachother.. and talk about it.Or take Toe-Knee's advice and mix it with Scarabin's advice.
You got a party right there..
- Jaline0
What para said about talking to her about it and sticking this one out. I also agree with the person who said that it'll probably eventually happen with another girl later too. It's just life. The whole thing is about keeping the relationship interesting.
- paraselene0
haha. they don't call him soda big potatoes for nothing.
- yurimon0
Get out the rut. Go on vacation with your girl.