Hurting oneself + thanks
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- k770
i was that way when i entered my 1st year in uni. depressed as fuck. a john cage story helped me out. i'll paraphrase.
John, a poet, walks into his favourite bookstore and looking glum as he always does, shakes the rain off of himself and glumly looks around. Mary, the book shop owner, greets John with: Hi John! Good to see you! You okay? You don't look too good?
John: I've been thinking about killing myself.
Mary: That's a good idea, why don't you do it?
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PS. May 17th is Malcolm X's birthday. If you need inspiration for your life, go read his autobiography.
- mr_snuggles0
It sounds kinda gay, but you really have to find your own headspace in which you can find solice anywhere you may be...
On the flipside, i always found spite to be a great motivator for many things...
- Jaline0
Thanks kj. Always the poet. Sorry about your dad. Sounds surprising, but I have some of that experience as well...
- WWVC0
Hey Jaline,
I see your point, when is was living with my family everything I did, they has some sort of comment on it, next to it, my office was located in their home, so quite difficult and all.
Now six months later, I moved out, bought my own house (or you can rent, whatever) and you will see this will all get sooo much better with your folks... it WILL change in a good way so that they will see your independent... if you live at your home they will treat you as a child, just move out, they will treat you like an adult...
Only my 2 cents...
- brooke0
You have more control than you think, Jaline.
- spendogg0
I gotta say i was an angry young chap - and when i would get pissed i would smash walls with my fists - one time i hit an adobe wall as hard as i could and bruised every joint in my hand - i realized it was stupid and stopped, for the most part. every now and again when I want put my hand through the sheet rock - i remember that wall - self control is more powerful than an angry release.
- Jaline0
they won't let me move out...not for 2 or 3 more years...
- brooke0
If you are over 18, they cannot stop you. You may just have to go on without their support. Times can get tough when you have to take matters into your own hands.
- Jaline0
*sigh
- spendogg0
Just go get a 30 year old boy friend and say you are moving in with him - they will protest - carry on with that for about 2 months, then say things didnt work out. After that, getting your own place wont seem like such a bad thing to them.
- Jaline0
my parents (especially my mom) are VERY old-fashioned. except they don't want me to leave. they claim I'm not ready nor mature enough, which sounds suspiciously like it's about them, not me.
- k770
your suspicions are probably correct young skywalker.
- Jaline0
haha. should watch that film.
- usrper0
emotoday®
dont worry, there will come a time not too far away that you will move out.
- ********0
i left home at 28, moved 300km away. 4 years later, my parents rented a house near mine. And it all looks like i've never left now...
i'm what you may call their 'transfer' for their own relationship. Watching my life closely is how they feel they're still living and intact.
What can one do? Nothing really, just let them know you know it too. That sort of maturity keeps people at bay ;)
- usrper0
are you going to college? aim for a nice school then you can move out with pride
- Jaline0
yeah, can't wait to hang out with my friends more and make other relationships.
- Jaline0
i'm (hopefully) attending second year this september.
- usrper0
oh, so your college is at home?
- Jaline0
of course. all part of the master plan to keep me close to home.