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- canuck0
shitey whiteys. that sucks. hope you get it sorted out.
- ********0
the only other thing i can think to say is 'in time this too shall pass'
best wishes jevad!
- jevad0
i dont want it to pass...i dont want it to end. how did it come to this? iw ould like to go to sleep for the next few months please
- lifeinbinary0
that's my question too... how DID it come to this?
shitty situation nonetheless.
- vespa0
*hugs nic*
i can't believe she won't even discuss it first.
- ********0
oh my god man, that's terrible.
I feel for you brother.
Be strong
*hugz*
- ********0
i dont want it to pass...i dont want it to end. how did it come to this? iw ould like to go to sleep for the next few months please
jevad
(May 16 05, 08:16)
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well. 10 years ago i walked in on my girlfriend of 4 years with my best friend since i could remember.i'm not going to lie to you and tell you i know how you feel, but i can say i was feeling pretty shitty myself. i wanted everything to end, the pain, the night, my life. i felt like everyone abandonded me.
i think in kingjuliens thread i mentioned what happened next. we got into a fight, i got shitfaced and drove myself head on into a tree with my truck. on accident of course. busted out my teeth on the steering wheel and i'm told if the tree hit a few more inches into the center of the truck i would have been killed.
funny. until the second before i hit the tree i didn't think my life could get any worse, then no shit, my life flashed before my eyes. a lot of people say that and i never believed it but no fucking shit, my entire life flashed before my eyes. i saw my family, my birthdays, the mundane everyday shit, my friends, pretty much everything in the second before i hit. it all happened so fast that i even had time to see how good i really had it and enough time for me to scream 'NO' because i wanted to live.
it didn't take me more than a few months to get over her and move on.
now, 10 years later i have a girlfriend of 3 years whom i'm about to marry, and couldn't be happier.
in time this too shall pass i thought was a load of crap 10 years ago, but i'm telling you... things will get better.
fuck man. you have 60+ posts in a few minutes of 60+ people you've never actually met so you must be a pretty special guy jevad.
good luck and time will heal.
- ghandolf0
Jevad (nic)... sorry man, but I could sense it in how you worded your original post, that it wasn't a hard drive. I know it hurts, I've been through it myself, twice. First you are nothing but numb, then you'll get angry, very angry, before you can even come to terms with it, then it's depression, and a sense of mourning. It's a long road to hoe, but with your friends and community, both here and around you, you'll get through it. I know you can't see it now, but you will.
You need people around you. Don't go off alone. Take some time for you and decide what's best. I don't even know you but if there's anything I can do for you, just holler. I'll drop you an email, just so you'll have another outlet to rant to.
Take care brother. I wish you all the best. I also 'had it all' once, and I certainly miss it. But life goes on, and this too shall pass one day. Take care of yourself.
- jox0
Realise I'm a little late, but if you need me you know where to find me.
- versa0
i'm just a call away nic
here for you to talk, take a skate, whatever would keep you out of the dark thoughts
i'll give a ring actually today to check in
- soda0
Versa, give him a bell and take him out for a beer and some food.
I'm serious about paying for it too, we are just trying to work out the best way to get you some cash.
- ********0
wish the best for you nic
- ********0
Life can definitely throw you a curveball sometimes. It's how you deal with it that defines you.
Like some people have said. It's all about 'time'. I wouldn't just write off everything so soon. People are funny, they get cramped and think they know what's good for themselves, but in reality come back to what they know. Give it some space and see what happens.
- MIJA0
I actually have been there to a lesser degree. While engaged my wife left me, eventually we were able to work it out but it was a very hard time in our lives.
I will email you my # in case you ever need to talk. Also after the middle of next month I should be moved into my new pad and you have a place to crash in San Diego if you want to get away. Plenty of sunshine here.
- Terminal270
Hey Nic,
I don't know you and don't think that we've ever even spoken, but my thoughts are with you. Don't do anything silly... Time will heal.
All the best
- ********0
is this because you spend too much time on NT?
GreedoLives
(May 16 05, 06:29)
------------------------i divorced 2 years ago and i feel now that computers, forums, design and the want to produce impossible work on that moment drove me apart and made me fail before her, leave her alone at nights, etc.
i don't mess with people i don't know but i'm telling this because you just got hit and i could only guess this 1 year later. you have a chance. One chance only.
Go to her. Try to win her over if you love her. Sell your PC. Fuck NT. It's not a really a place you know?
- BonSeff0
nic, go find a 2 hour bike trail and pack the ipod with speed metal
- brooke0
We don't know each other very well, but you can call if you need to talk. 773-469-9395.
- jevad0
again, your compassion and offers to talk mean more to me than words can say. but you really don't want to hear a grown man sob over the telephone
- brooke0
You probably wouldn't want to talk to me either. I just woke up & haven't brushed my teeth yet...
:)